So I finally went out on a date with a girl I have been trying to date for a long time.
Date was last Wed. Went quite well. We got a bit pissed and we kissed most of the evening.

I texted her 2 days later and we have been texting slowly since. You can really see she is playing a bit
hard to get as she times her texts to be no quicker or longer than mine and at same length.
I asked her to come out again. She responded tonight (very late in evening) that tom she is doing some weekly activity she does, next day a friends birthday and that Thurs 'she is busy', but free on Friday..

I think the thursday thing is almost there to wind me up a little. No need really, I am interested and she should know it.
She has just come out of a 1-1.5 year relationship about 6 weeks ago and I think she feels a bit rejected by the guy. I am sure she isnt over him, but I can live with that. Its to be expected.

I was quite confident with her on the date, even told her that I wasnt worried about ex boyf as she will become 'addicted to me'. So didnt show any weakness. The only thing I said to her was that I really remembered her from when we first met, implying she made a big impression on me.

The thing that is worrying me is that I can see on facebook that she has been (tonight) and is going on the weekend to a single do/s and has added a couple of guys already.
Perhaps, and because I like her, I care more than I would if it were just a shag girl.
In addition, she has posted a couple of times on this guys wall (he is married but is like a matchmaker on the scene) that she had a good time at his event tonight. Its kind of like she is advertising herself to others out there.

I don't know what you guys think as to whether or not this is quite normal for a girl in her position? i.e.
Good enough 1st date with me - yet actively trying to meet new guys but yet agreeing a 2nd date with me.

How do I play this second date.. do I subtly suss out if she has reservations about me?
Is it worth keeping a sexy text game going till friday to help break the ice further?
What is a good second date idea?

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Sounds like you have the itis man. Oneitis… You are thinking way to much about this girl. You need to put yourself first before this girl. Work on your inner game. Who cares if this girl has added guys to her Facebook? I would still date this girl but also have others on the side. Also understand that this girl has just got out of a long relationship, this girl is looking to date around man. Just make sure that when you are out on a date with her, you keep the date exciting.

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Totally agree with Gifted. Also, I would go out with some other girls (same way she does). She may or may not get jealous, but at least it'll help you to heal the itis.

Thanks for the replies

The itis conversation is an interesting one. I completely understand about the 'obsession' element and truth is I am always banging something. What I do like here is that finally I have met a girl that I think about constantly who I 'potentially' really want to be with. Any girl that you don't have 'itis' for.. do you really want to be with them that much?

I am still seeing other girls, I just really like this one.

We have set up a date for Fri. I have arranged a game of bowling and messaged in a joking way to say I have organised something and I will 'see what she is made of'... Thinking of food after followed by a club/dance.

Do you think its a good idea on the evening.. when comfortable with each other and after a few drinks just to ask if there is anything she is not sure about with me?.. not in an interview style technique.. but just a little whisper when arms wrapped around each other. I am conscious that she has been hurt so wander if she is scared of someone like me as she knows I am a bit of a player...?

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You don't own it, til you bone it!
Then crush her guts til she screams your name.

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Lol Mr Heywood

I will bang her then with full force!

So interestingly... you reckon that sex is the (should be the) hook point when you take her off the market?

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It's clearly not a complete guarantee, so don't wrap up and toss out your little black book just yet.

The intense release of pleasurable hormones is very powerful, very addictive. Like crack, they then tie that drug like rush to YOU. And like any addictive drug, they want MORE.

Be her crack dealer! Be THE BEST crack dealer!

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As heywood said.. sleep with her as soon as you possibly can.

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You are number 2 or 3 or 4. Shes still in love with her ex. Girls love rejection. You can tell her anything and nothing will matter. One of the most frustrating things I've ever dealt with are girls who are in love with her ex. You cannot win. You have to realize that you're in second place and that you're a backup. If you're okay playing that card then you'll do well with her. If you start trying to convince you're better than her x you're going to fail miserably. In all honesty I would abandon the girl. After all this is what her ex did and what she loves about him. If she doesn't chase you then she doesn't like you

I would agree with you that a girl on the rebound and so soon after her ex, could/will be pining for the ex - but I don't see that as a reason to give up just yet.
One date will never make a girl fall in love with you. I think its worth taking her out and getting her hooked on you. All girls have ex'es and all have attatchments. Doesn't mean they cant love someone new who akes them forget about their ex.

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Well if you're talking about love, that's a whole other subject lol Yeah it can take some time and work to get a girl hooked on you. Just remember that girls will let you know that they like you. If you find yourself working too hard, you need to step back, look at the facts, and ask yourself if you should move on. I think I read somewhere on here that AMOG's have to have the ability to walk away from situations. While I tend to do this naturally, I see the point because if you cannot, she controls the situation. But hey, some girls like to be in control!

it's totally normal. they are always looking for something better. they all want the new toy

Mostly girls with no education, green card, or morals. Some dont have all three. I will reference "the ladder theory" at this point.

Stop trippin over this girl! I've had moments too where i felt this way but it's just your mind fucking up your progress. Stop looking at her FB... you wanna date her? Fine... but you shouldn't be thinking about relationships right now.... eve nafter you bang her don't expect her to be yours. It may take months for her to be "yours" if she ever does.... but if she just got out of a break up it's gonna be an uphill battle. Date other women and date her aswell... but don't have tunnel vision for this girl because to her you're only an option, make her an option as well

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