Hey guys, I'm a virgin and I've got an offer from a girl to receive oral and have sex and I'm a bit scared of what to do, what might happen or what she might think of me and tell other people. How can I get past my scared/ anxiety and perform and last longer in bed?

Any help is appreciated

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Even if it takes until the day I die, I will be able to pick up girls.

Settle down young gun. If your as young as I think you are, it's likely the little harlot that seeks your man gravy, is just as inexperienced as you or nearly so.

Trust me your dick will know enough to get you by all on it's own. Relax, it will be fine, The worst case, you my blow the first load a little early, no worry, at your age that little stump will spring back into action in 10 minutes flat. You'll have the 1st on out of the way, round two will be much better.

Even experienced men make rookie mistakes when they go to bed with a new woman for the first time. First time sex gives her a sense of your generosity and how much you care about her, not how well you do.

Don't worry about her, and what she thinks, she will likely be to busy worrying about what YOU think!

I would suggest, lots of making out, and exploring each other, keep the main event down to a dull roar. Girls take longer to become aroused than you, and it will give you time to get in a comfort zone, but also to make sure that you both have enough time to get comfortable.

NEVER worry about what others think of you, true friends won't give a fuck, so who cares what the trash thinks.

And for fuck sake be prepared.

Find a private spot were you are sure you won't be disturbed, completely stress free.

AND WEAR A DAMN CONDOM!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

HAHAHAHA I laughed so much at that post man, and great advice too. Thanks man.
I'm only 18 and have received oral several times before from a previous GF but this girls has had sex with several people, some who were fuck buddies (so I'm guessing they done it more than once) so she is much more experienced than I am. Do you have any tips to help pleasure her and how to go from knocking on her door to the bedroom?
Thanks again man.

P.s I ain't silly, I'll wrap my willy haha

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Even if it takes until the day I die, I will be able to pick up girls.

My first thought Masterbater Major, was that you had this question backward. NO just a little jumbled.

1. "knocking on her door" 2. "pleasure her" 3. "to the bedroom?"

Make sure you’re both really turned on before you get to the bedroom, and nothing else will matter.

If she is as you say rumored to have some experience, it's probably true that no one has turned her on first, If a she is really turned on then her vagina will usually be quite moist ("feel" for that); if it isn't then the sex will not be anything. The wetter the better.


At this point, focus on pre-sex. When you get that feeling like "fuck! I really, really want to do this!" That's when.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

tell her "image yourself waiting in line for a rollercoaster. just any roller coaster. how long are you in line for?" the answer she says to this is the answer to how long she likes foreplay. It's a mind trick using something called kokology. if she says there is no line, it means skip the foreplay with her because she just wants to fuck.

Later text her saying "I'm going to fuck the shit out of you tomorrow. Be ready"
-that way she gets turned on and she'll be thinking about getting fucked by you all day, leading to her having a greater orgasm. It also won't make anything awkward when you go over to her house and shove her head on your cock, then your cock in her ass, cause she knows its coming.
-if she sends "oh really " you know your in.
-if she sends "uhh...." then you have been reading her wrong and your fucked.

hour and a half before you see her
-jerk it 2 times. maybe 3. it takes longer for you to "reload" after you do.

knock on the door. come in.
-she's been waiting like 12 hours to get fucked so get to it. make out . work your way down to her pants. then use "white tiger tantra" its basically the best way to finger a girl that i know of. you can prolly find all the details just by googleing it. if you can't find anything on it, just do what you normally do.
-remember her answer to the roller coaster question, and just keep fingering her, and eating her out, until you estimate that the time is up. have her on the floor or bed.
-while your going down on her, come back up and put her hands together over her head, make out with her, look her in the eye and bring your right hand down from holding her hands above her head, and just let the palm of your hand touch her arm pit. I know it sounds weird, but it will drive her crazy. she wont laugh, she'll moan. tickle spots become turn on spots.
-make your way back down then strip naked and do this
http://www.menshealth.com/sex-position- ... G-Whiz.jpg
then
http://www.menshealth.com/sex-position- ... retzel.jpg
maybe even smack her ass a few times. extra hard if she has daddy issues. then tell her to get on top of you and turn around so you two can do this
http://www.menshealth.com/sex-position- ... sition.jpg
just alternate after when you feel like it.
-I chose those positions cause these give her the whole dick inside her. so you wont have to worry about fucking in different ways or dick insecurities.
-also while your fucking her, just tell her whats going through your mind. Like.
"god your so tight"
or give her commands like
"I'm gonna fuck you until you cum baby, then you're gonna lick the cum off my dick. say it! say your gonna lick the cum off my dick"(when girls are horny, they'll say yes to anything. mwhaha!)

But yea hope this helps you out dude, good luck!

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All great advice you've got here, young padawan. To all that I would like to add three things:

1 - Watch some porn to learn some tricks. But I assume you have already done that.

2 - Learn how to give oral sex and pleasure a girl using your fingers. Most guys overlook this part and is really something that may set you aside from the crowd if she really is as experienced as you believe.

3 - Have a go with a prostitute if you can and if it is legal in your zone. You don't need to impress the hooker, so there is no pressure there and it allows you to train and get a feel for it before the real action starts.

And above all, relax and have fun.

Just do it.

Seriously, it's your first time why put so much pressure on yourself? You'll end up getting too nervous and not being able to perform.

The only thing you need to care about is having sex for the very first time. Forget about enjoying it or her enjoying it, that's just not going to happen unless she's hands on and takes control(I'm talking doing squats on your dick, reverse cowgirl, grinding your love stick so it hits her g-spot and make herself orgasm kind of stuff). There's actually a lot of women out there who expect the man to do all the work and a lot of men believe they should be doing all the work aswell. Truth is women are just as responsible for orgasming as we are our own, granted our "g-spot" is a lot easier to stimulate. If you find a woman who knows how to have sex and likes to do a bit of work that's when you'll start to have truly amazing sex, till then don't put so much stress on yourself.

Have sex, don't bother caring how you perform or how long you last, just fucking do it. After the first or second time -- when you get a feel for it -- and don't have the weight of being a virgin on your shoulders, then you can worry about being a better lover and it's then that you'll be in a better position to improve.

If you're afraid she'll say something bad just be casual about it and say "Hey, i'm a virgin." or "Hey, I was a virgin." What's the worst that's going to happen? She's going to tell people you were a virgin and she took your virginity? She's going to say you were bad for your first time? Who the fuck cares!!

It's your first time. Just enjoy it. don't worry about your performance.

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Not read the replies.

But hookers are useful in this kind of way, just don't use it as a crutch not to meet girls.

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Hey guys. Thanks for all the great advice from all of you. Prostitution isn't an option for me unfortunately, I'm from the Uk. I can't help but big this up as a big deal and I get nervous every time I think about it and can't help it, like what about if I get so nervous it doesn't get hard, that'll be awkward :S. With my ex I used to be pretty decent with teasing and eating out but I don't really like the taste of pussy haha.
Ps that 2nd position looks awkward to angle for any not well-endowed man which is the category I unfortunately fit into haha

Thanks again guys

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Even if it takes until the day I die, I will be able to pick up girls.

Get even BETTER at it and get used to it, trust me you will not regret that skill.
Again, if that happens, no big deal. regroup, default to sexual 'touch', it will figure itself out.

Think about all that shitty porn you've been jackin it too. Only 10x better, a warm breathing real naked girl right in front of you.

There are millions of grown ass men, boys, friends, and school mates, wishing they could have a chance to be in your position, you are the one that gets to be there, you young sire are their KING.

Now stop over thinking it, savor and enjoy it instead.

Over thinking kills your happiness, Insecurities kills your self esteem.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Ever heard about self-fulfilling prophecies?

Basically, the more you think about what could go wrong, the more nervous you get and the higher the chance things do go wrong.

Just relax and go for it, you'll know what to do.

Hey guys, now that I've finally got my internet sorted after moving for Uni. I'd like to say that last Friday, following all of your great advice... I happily fucked her and received very nice, geniune feedback (I didnt ask for feedback by the way). There was only one real hiccup during the "activity" and that was that the condom came off towards the heat of the moment which I'm assuming was due to her giving me oral before I put it on so there was less fiction, is that a rookie mistake and likely to be why? The condoms seem to fit comfortably so I don't think they are too thick.

[quote="Heywood Jablowme"] There are millions of grown ass men, boys, friends, and school mates, wishing they could have a chance to be in your position, you are the one that gets to be there, you young sire are their KING [/quote]
That quote is what I read and thought about as I was on my way to her house, I'm sure I done men everywhere proud!

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Even if it takes until the day I die, I will be able to pick up girls.

Dunno, I hate condoms. They're always too tight. /braggingrights.

Seriously though, a condom is bound to slip off every now and then, it's not a big deal.

It's a SMALL deal

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