Forewarning. In this story i know i acted like a huuuuuge fucking fool. So yes i learned some lessons through this and i don't need to read reply's how shitty my game is. Cause i know. I would just like to understand wtf happened here. Caution the story starts of pretty pathetic but i promise it gets ....odd.

Without further ado

Well around this time last year i slipped into a tough depression. This depression was brought on through my lack of ambition, social life and sex life. Skip forward to January my depression only worsened and after weeks of complete failure in bars i walked into a strip club for the first time in my life. I payed for lap dances just to see what i felt was so far beyond me.

One stripper came by and sat down. I still remember how the convo opened.

Girl: Are you okay
Me: yeah
Girl: are you sure?
Me: why do you ask?
Girl: Cause you look MISERABLE
Me: Yeah I am
Girl: WHY??? your not crazy are you?
Me: I think i am.

From there she got me to open up alot of my fears and she played the therapist beautifully. I Know and even then i knew she was just doing it for the money. But man she made me feel better. So of course i came back looking for her and again we talked she played therapist again and said we should hang out then she got up and started working. I waited about two hours for her to come back to give me her #. Never did so i just left.

What she did there i think was clever.She implanted the idea in my mind she wants to hang out with me and left me. It's why i came back to that strip club often trying to run into her. By now i'm a commoner in a strip club. Third time i saw her i dropped 500 to have her for an hour and a half. At the end of it she gave me her number.

Yippe! Right? I thought so. But no i basically became her txt buddy and she would ttyl me everytime within a few txts. Oh but she would mention whenever she was working though. Or she would mention hanging out and then mention how she needs cash. When i refused she would find an excuse to flake on us hanging out.
After a while i told (txted) her to fuck off. Next day i txted her begging for forgiveness. LMfAO! Guys i know... all i can say is i was really depressed still and obsessed over trying to get this girl. She txted me to leave her alone. I did. Well kinda i kept goin to that same strip club. Just instead of one therapist i had whoever i wanted to pay to talk to for a while.

This is where i started to use strippers to build game. I stopped talking bout my problems and started asking for tips or advice. Or just practiced game. I always made sure to avoid her. This is where i finally got out of my depression and my game has been slowly improving ever since.

So about two months ago in the strip club she approaches me and i tell her to sit down. I'm a much better talker now and i still had to drop cash on her (place was busy) to talk to her. She obviously played me again that night but she took my # again. YAY! Right? LOL no 2 weeks later she txts me am i free? Me giddy as shit reply yes. She asks for 140 though cuz shes in trouble. And I"M the ONLY man she can ask for help( i know LOL). I wanted to see her so bad i agreed to it. I knew then and there 100% I was just a paycheck to her. After the lunch she mentions hanging out. Flakes. Nxt day apologizes for flake and mentions bar. I go to the bar she mentioned, It doesn't exist and she won't answer my txts that same night. Thats when i said I'm done I just ignored her calls and txts from there. I even quit the strip club for awhile.

All this i don't need explained. Same old story of girl leading on a guy with lies.

This is the odd part.

Last tuesday night i'm at the strip club again. I see her and my chest tightens and i knew i was dropping cash on her again. I call her over and straight up ask. "You know i'm tired of trying to get you to like me. What do you want? Want to hangout with me outside of here or you want me to buy you for an hour?

She choose the hour.

This time though i played her therapist. I was joking and having fun while doing it. She got into her fucked up past and a failed relationship. Her voice actually cracked with emotion so i know i got in pretty deep. Convo then changed to me about how happy i am and why? Great branch of convo for me. Around 20 minutes left she started dancing for me and i was kinda of into it. I kissed her back a few times. It started to feel weird so i withdrew and asked "did i do something wrong because i feel the tension?" she didn't reply.

So i said "You know i don't deserve this. This is paid for."
To that she said i know what you need. She put some clothes back on. But kept dancing. I just locked eyes with her from there.

Here she said "You really care don't you?"
Me " About you, of course"
Her: "look you shouldn't come here anymore. its unhealthy."
Me: " I know does that mean you don't want to see me outside of here as well?"
Her: " no we can see each other but just as friends. I am physically attracted to you. just not your personality
Me: " (nonchalantly) Ok. So you don't like me.
her: no i do (forgot the rest of her answer)
Me: your just trying to spare my feelings its ok i can handle it
Her: no i just don't think you can handle me
Me: I'll learn

From there she kinda of went on about how wonderful i was being that night and how she led me to believe she was attracted to me. I'n the end she said she was feeling nauseous and she needed to go home. To me it seemed like she was wracked with guilt over playing me. I tried telling her its all right your fine go make your money.

She did seem really keen on getting me to contact her. problem is shes got no phone and i got this really shitty way of contacting her.

Well it's been 2 days and i'm waiting on her to get back to me. She is really busy though. I sorta don't care anymore too. you know writing this down got this outta my head and well idk whatever i guess.

I still do want her though, i'm still gonna pursue this till i'm sure.

I know this is a whimsical ending but thats because It's not! Hopefully....

Man move on all you are to her is $$$$ that's it

As magicalone said.. you are being played like a grand piano

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This sounds exactly like a buddy I had that went to see prostitutes (it was actually how I met him through a friend - my other friend basically begged me to teach him any game I had)

He would go on and on about how the prostitute actually said she cared, and she slept with him for free once, when he cleaned her house, and how she would always flake, but then meet up with him, but always needed money. Almost the same exact story.

That's how they work, that's how they play you.

You're being used for nothing more than money.

Go talk to real girls. You can talk to girls probably at least as hot, if not hotter, tonight. Hell, if you want, you can yell at them, or call them trashy whores if you'd like. You can say whatever you want to a girl. You can even approach the hottest girl in the club, and talk to her about your feelings. You won't fuck her, not by any means, she might even be like, "please go away", and she probably will - but who cares?

Why are you talking to strippers when there are real girls out there that you can talk to, who are not trying to play you for your money?

Holy fuckin shit man......................

A couple of things....

1. You are CLEARLY not the type of guy who can handle dating a stripper. You are way, way, way, way, WAY too needy. Hell, she hangs out with you once outside of work, I bet you would read way to deep into the situation and start showing up at her work every night. Those girls make sooooo much money, it's not worth it for them to lose their job over some guy. Shit, you dropped a stack on her... Imagine how many other guys she does that too..

2. You read way too deeply into her giving you her number. Alot of strippers have throw away phones. Where they can give out their number, text you for a bit and get you to come back into the club and get you to spend more money, and after a month or two, get rid of the phone and get rid of you.

3. You are a customer man. Those girls are hustlers... Phenomenal sales people too. If you want to pull a stripper, don't be a customer. Simple...

Strippers are dateable and honestly, alot of them are some really cool chicks. But you aren't stripper boyfriend material... hate to break it to you, but it's the truth. I'd suggest you get your shit together before going back to a strip club again, otherwise you will get WORKED for another grand. Those girls are the best "pick up artists" out there. Their job is to flirt with guys like yourself who are down and out and get everything that they can out of them.

thanks for the honesty guys i needed to hear it.

when your depressed as fuck and like 0 game AA is a much worse thing.

Strippers approach you.

And i do talk to girls now. All this money and time i spent in strip clubs i don't believe its a waste. Because I stole some of their skills. I going for a salesman now.


I need to explain something. She was the first girl i ever i had contact with for over a month. A sex and social life being that dry would make anyone listen to their emotions instead of reason & logic. Because i knew i repeat I KNEW i was getting played. I saw the signs i just choose to ignore them. It's really made me see how someone can stay in a relationship with a cheater.

But anyways thanks for the advice guys.

At least spend your money on a high class hooker instead.

They will probably throw in a lap dance too but at least get what you pay for and no confused feelings.

She is correct about one thing though, strip clubs are unhealthy for you. Well so are brothels....

You have 2 options:

• Pull your finger out and start grafting in the field and take what you deserve like a fucking man.
• or become one of those dudes who spend all their hard earned cash on strippers and hookers.

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I mean, I'm not going to lecture or shit on you right now, that seems mean and it sounds like you're on the right page now.

Strippers deal with men like you've been acting on a daily basis. You can't really have any weakness with your game at all with them.

In my experience with a stripper (one time, one date, fucked her) - she liked aggressive, in control, not putting up with her shit attitude. At one point during the date I told her to shut the fuck up. YMMV - I like girls who are turned on a bit by verbal abuse, but my suspicion is that most strippers, considering the huge amount of supplicating men around them on a daily basis, typically like that behavior.

Seriously, build your core game up. It's tough - hell, mine was utterly destroyed for the past few months, but a few weeks or months of going out a lot and talking to girls will get you to a good state. Just don't be afraid to try anything.

One of my biggest ways to get in the mood for the night is to shit on a super hot girl. Sometimes it even hooks hard.

Don't tell a girl how much you like her in a needy way. She won't respect you, and if you have to pay for a girl's attention, she's already lost respect for you.

A good way to get over AA again is to do the newbie exercise where you go to the mall and say hi to EVERYONE that walks by, man or woman.