Hey guys,

I'm new to this site but I will give you a quick rundown on what has been happening for me.
I'm 29 and i'm not shy with girls and I have a lot of experience with them over the years, I don't have to many dramas getting laid, but where my dramas lye is when I meet the girl that actually knocks my socks off.

I went on a date about 2.5 weeks ago now with a girl I met through a dating site, I rate her a 9/10 in the looks dept and we both agreed we had a really good time together on the date, I didn't go in for the kiss like I normally would because I figured I would wait for the 2nd date, she txtd me the next day to say she enjoyed herself and I agreed and said we should do it again.

We booked a date for the following Friday but I had to cancel due to a work commitment, I rescheduled for the sunday but she had a wedding on.
So I txtd her again on sunday and said how about Friday, to which she replied "Friday! that's ages away?"
I came back with what I thought was a witty comment and said "Gee impatient aren't you? i'm a busy man, only other night I have free is wednsday since Friday is (AGES) away"
she replied with "impatient. haha I met you like 2 weeks ago, I mean to me any plans can be made in a weeks time so I wont lock much in"

I replied with "yeah it has been a while, I've been pretty busy the last few weeks, does wednsday sound better?"

Didn't get a response.

I txt her again 3 days later on wednsday now and tried to build into some banter a bit by asking what she rated herself out of 10 at giving massages, to which she responded she isn't very good at giving but is good at receiving.

I did have some other comebacks with that but wont go to deep.

I hit her up for Friday again to which she said "I'll see how I go, I feel random about it now because it's been left so long"

I replied with "I've had a lot going on the past couple of weeks, personal stuff that has needed my attention. I definitely enjoyed catching up with you last time though and have been looking forward to catching up again"

I sent that yesterday, To which she has not responded to that.

Have I fucked it up because I have just been to busy?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated! thanks guys

Call her.

You need to get her attracted just like how she was originally attracted in the 1st place. I get the feeling that she has put you in the list of text buddies which we all know dating website girl, have a lot of those guys.

call her. be honest, stop with the gamey bravado, tell her that you want to see her again. Get her laughing, then make another arrangement and stick with it.

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Yeah Pebble is right. You shouldve just suggested Wednesday if you were free. You've let alot of time go between dates, and that time is much bigger when its a chick from online. And for god's sake, kiss her at least on the first date. No use trying to wife someone that early and put them on a pedestal

I know i fuked up by not going in for the kiss.
Do you guys have any suggestions for the call? I don't want to sound to needy or forcefull that's all.

Thanks for the advice so far.

Also, what is the best way to handle a msg bank if she doesn't answer?
Thanks guys

Any advice at all guys? I don't want to come across as needy when calling her that is all.

"I didn't go in for the kiss like I normally would because I figured I would wait for the 2nd date, she txtd me the next day to say she enjoyed herself and I agreed and said we should do it again."

This was a mistake. And a big one. I'm actually going to have an article all about this very common mistake up on my site tomorrow. But the bottom line is, when you have an opportunity, you GO FOR IT. You never wait.

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Ok so she txt me this morning saying

"trying to toss up about tonight. I got called into work. I finish at eight."

So I took you guys advice and did what I would normally do I called her.

I started the convo with "Hey stranger!, it's been a while....almost can't even remember what you look like"

She giggled and then said "Wow I wasn't expecting you to call me, I was expecting a txt"

I just replied with "well as you have probably already figured out, I am the worlds shittest txt msger so I figured i'd just call to make it easier for you"

She laughed and said "Yeah well i'm not that great either"

I said to her that "I am happy to meet up after 8 aslong as she is comfortable with that and to see how she feels when she knocks off work"

She said it's been so long since we last met up that she feels a little weird about it"

I just replied with "yeah I do apologize for how long it has taken me to set a definite 2nd meet up, because I have genuinely had a few things going on the past few weeks which I had to deal with"

She asked what they were and I told her "one of the things was because I had an accident on my bike because I got run of the road by a car on the wrong side of the road" she was acting all worried asking if im ok etc

She asked what the other thing was and I said "i'll tell you later" to which she replied inn a playful way "no tell me...." I just replied with "Nar i'll have to tell you later because I have to go for a hair cut booking in a minute"

Then I finished with "ok well let me know how you're feeling after work and we'll go from there, i'd really like to see you again, I will talk to you later"


Do you guys think I have salvaged it so far? (P.S. all the above things are true I wasn't making any of the things that have happened up)

She is meeting up with you, so you did great, tough to argue with results. Remember from here on out strike while the iron is hot, make hay while the sun shines and it looks to be shining on you right now. Good Luck