Yep. Man, if your girlfriend is doing your laundry, cleaning your house, or cooking for you (and maybe singing while preparing your meals after a good fuck), she had her orgasms really GOOD. And I mean REALLY GOOD.

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lol she does do my laundry at her own house, cleans my car for me, cooks for me....but post sex she isn't very cuddly, though she does say she loves sleeping next to me/lets run away together and during sex says she wishes we could do this all the time

Most guys aren't so skilled. They don't get pampered by women like you do.

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Girls are more likely to fake an orgasm than to lie about not having one.

I highly doubt she is having orgasms...the pause and change in behavior is just because she's giving up.

If she comes proper, she will just short of push you off her and ask you to give her a few minutes to recover and rally.

She does say "I need a break" sometimes during fingering/oral

Are you saying that I am stimulating her alot, she says she needs a break because the stimulation is there but it is too much and not leading to orgasm?

Why the hell would she stop playing with her clit as I stimulated her gspot? That is HER manipulating her own body with me doing something that is fool proof. The same with the vibrator, why would she give up with that along with my fingers? Is it something I am doing wrong?

If she has only cum a few times in ALL her sexual history, maybe she knows it isn't going to happen and kind of gives up easier than a normal girl would?

Do you think if she is being honest with me that she has any idea of what good sex is? Keep in mind her last boyfriend was from like 16-19 years old or something and if she has only finished a few times (including 1 or two with me) that would mean she hasn't had them very much at all with a man

Aside from the $200 -

Stop worrying about it!

You're doing all the right things.

I would just say give her time. Most 20ish year old women have no clue how to respond to a man who is tender and attentive because it's so alien to their experience. She needs to get more used to you so she can relax and open up more. It's easy to take for granted how intimate this is for her. Most women are used to being treated like a place for a Bro to put his dick. Not someone that has the passion and consideration to please her as well. Also, keep working on massage and long term foreplay. Try to figure out where her energy centers are. Most women hold their tension in the upper back and neck area. Of course even a simple foot massage (reflexology) can be a powerful tool as well.

Apart from that, I'd say this is more about her, and her ability to relax at this point. Perhaps you can start foreplay early in the day, get her so hot with sexy messages/calls/pictures, she will be so worked up, she will cum as soon as you stick it in! The mind is the most powerful stimulant there is. YES THIS WORKS! . Just give her time and be patient. You're still young, and you have a girl in your life who you love and she seems to very into you. Make the most of the time you have with her in the here and now and do the best you can both inside and outside of the bedroom. Take the pressure and stress over it out of the picture.

Remember the basis for sex in most women isn't position, it's emotion.

That's really all you can do.

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This.

As I mentioned earlier. A woman does not need to orgasm 10000x to enjoy sex. You are being attentive, asking her what she likes/wants, experimenting with her, suggesting things, etc. That is more than 99.9% of men do with their girl, so props to you.

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Imagine if a girl was jerking you off hard and fast but you weren't going to bust one. After a while, you would ask her to quit, too.

Like the previous post mentions, this is a mental/emotional block on her end. Sounds like you both are putting in plenty of manual labor.

I get what you are trying to say, but a girl getting an orgasm and a guy are different things. For us sex is kinda crap if we don't orgasm. That is NOT always or even often the case for women.

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Okay, Lionheart.

Read up again on Heywood's post in this thread. That's a very good foreplay technique that works EVERY time. If you can prolong the sexual tension, come scoring time, the girl will cum within 12 thrusts. The good thing here is that her next orgasms will arrive faster than usual.

You are still in the process of gaining sexual confidence. That takes a lot of fucking and tons of banging several different girls. You have an option to fuck 10 other girls so you'll be more confident with your skills and more calibrated in distinguishing the often times subtle signs of women's orgasms, OR you stick with your current girl and cut the risk of potentially losing a very good thing.

A woman who pampers you a lot and is very loyal is a rare thing. BUT if you're very good at building sexual tension (mental foreplay) and your bedroom skills are exceptional, you can have SEVERAL women who pamper you a lot and stay loyal.

Go fuck 10 other women on the regular. It'll be good for your sexual confidence.

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And if Heywood's method doesn't work, there's always the Hitachi Wand w/ Trigasm attachment. It has never failed me when I've come across a girl who can't seem to finish.

/Seriously, every guy should have one of these

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So guys two days ago we hung out,and had the house to ourselves. She had just bought me dinner and said she wore my favorite pair of underwear to please me lmao.

She initiates sex and I say no (because she wanted to just lube up and go without foreplay), then she asked why not ect. We eventually have sex and I start playing with her down there and she says "not today" and just wanted intercourse. During sex I told her to play with herself and she was hesitant and eventually did but wasn't too into that. After sex we got to talking. I asked her why she didn't like to aid me with playing during sex. She said that she feels like I critique her every time we have sex, asked if I was satisfied and "are you sure?", said it doesn't make her feel good,ect.

In response I told her I was helping her for HER pleasure, and I thought it was sexy too. I said you must not have had guys care about your pleasure in the past. She said "not necessarily, but not every time (they had sex)." She also said I "have to be patient with me" and she "appreciates that I care about that" and that "it feels good without that too (playing with herself))" I said she has to be patient with herself, and we will just have fun!

During this night she also said she didn't like that I masturbate after I see her (LOL), she wanted to make plans soon, and she was concerned that my new job wouldn't make time for her in my life.

I just don't get it!

It seems to me that she doesn't value her own pleasure as much as mine because in the past she has had very very rare orgasms and doesn't expect them from herself. Therefore she doesn't want to put forth effort herself because she knows her body won't cooperate most of the time?

Am I off base here?

Women are hard headed. Instead of trying to talk her into it, just force the foreplay situation and she will end up thinking it is her idea.

Maybe get in the shower or something, say u didn't have a chance to take one. Go pick her up and cruise a while and start the shenanigans on the way home.

No luck there just be big daddy and do things your way no questions asked.

I had better luck recently, we are getting there. Lets just say we were in the house with her parents there (sucks but whatever) and:

-I made her wait all day and several times she was like "I just want you to f*** me" and "I want it"
-Made out then went for the gspot, got no reaction (she does not have sensitive gspot at all)
-The freakin deep/A spot man...she loves this but I get it building and she just won't climax from it despite saying "faster and I'll cum" and saying "it felt good but I don't want to be loud in my house!"
-She said "I wish we could do this all the time" and "I don't care what happens if we don't use a condom"
-She said "you're the only one who can f*** me right" (yes I am aware that she might have just said this because I am her bf but still)
MOST IMPORTANTLY:

So during actual intercourse we go to missionary first, which she is into, then she suggests changing positions. She gets on top, is riding me a bit, I am hitting it DEEP and she is enjoying it so I thrust upwards in tiny thrusts but deep as I could at a fast pace. She is REALLY enjoying this and after sex she said she felt like she had to pee and would have cum if we had been alone but stopped me because of her parents....


So I guess this is a win? She didn't let herself go but had the "I have to pee" sensation and KNOWS I would have made her cum if we were alone, and after sex she was praising the deed.

Yes,

Myth:

An orgasm is always an earth-moving experience and there is something wrong with a woman if she is unable to reach orgasm.

Fact:

Some women have orgasms and don’t know it. Some women do not experience orgasm in the sense of feeling their pelvic floor muscles contract. They do however reach a peak of arousal after which they feel very relaxed and contented, the same feelings other women experience after orgasm.

This little clue right here, tells me your heading in the right direction. Great job Bro!

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