Guys,

Ill try to make this short as possible. Im 24 She is 21. She an 8 to 8.5

*****This was never an "OFFICIAL" im your BF your my GF relationship...be we had agreed to not be sleeping with/hooking up with other people during this 8 month period. So it was not TOTALLY closed... but everyone saw us as a couple... her friends... my friends... ect. She treated me as her BF and I as her GF... just no TITLE on it. Constant sex... hooking up...w/e so she was very emotionally and intellectually invested in me.

So...I was seeing a girl in a 3.5 hour LDR for 8 months. She was obsessed with me... texting, calling chasing the whole 8 months. About 3 weeks ago now she started talking with a guy who she use to go to HS with. During this whole LDR we have been super open with each other and had a strong connection. She started distancing me and I could feel something was off. (she had never done b4 ever). Which lead us to the ultimatum. She said she wasn't ready to be in a full-time committed relationship with me (or anyone) at this time. A lot of it due to meeting this guy, she said and i quote "im just curious and I get asked out ona lot of dates....by a lot of guys... and i just dont know if im really ready to be in a full time committed relationship with anyone...im just confused because i still have very strong feelings for you and love the way you are...your an amazing guy and iv learned and changed so much because of you".


So i asked her what was going on... and she basically told me she wanted to open up the relationship to seeing other people (aka bc of this dude) but that she still had a ton of feelings for me and that she was really confused.

**This was all done in person in my hotel room ** I told her i understand... the distance sucks... but that things would most likely never be the same bc your eventually going to be hooking up with this guy.... and emotionally i dont wanna deal with that. This was Saturday night 3 weeks ago. It was a weird ending bc there was emotion and she got mad when she asked me what I was going to do that night. I told her i was going to go out... and meet other girls.n( i said this in a very calm honest way... not trying to rub it in... just communication subconsciously "well if im not sleeping with you tonight or anymore im moving on..) (Side note -- I met her at a bar so she started freaking out) and telling me she still had feelings for me.... blah blah.. and i was like well i dont know what to tell you about that....

So i deleted her from all social media... and we havnt spoken a word since (3 weeks ago today). She still follows me on Social media however and is constantly checking my updates.... and liking things on my sisters social networking stuff... (is she doing this for a reaction??)

Is this totally over or will i hear from this girl again sometime? I feel like it was left with a question mark and she really didnt know what she wants/wanted at the time. Anything i could have done better? Did i play it bad by deleting her from social media? I am currently pursing other options... but something still feels weird. Any comments would be great.

Thanks again,
Duke

This girl sounds a little off her rocker man...

She's gonna start fucking other guys... but wants you to be totally cool with it?

Yet she wants you to stay there and be a good boy for her pussy only? Something's not right there.

I say just next her and get a bunch more girls. Forget about her.

The one thing I do with relationships is not allow anyone to try and make me feel anything negative or make me miserable. Once a girl pulls some shit like that, no matter how long the relationship has been going on for... GOODbye. No more drama.

ya i mean she is going to... but was cool with me "seeing" other people as well. She just wanted it more open... and i kinda just closed the whole thing down on her... and she didnt like the whole idea of me hooking up with other people. (which is about right bc she was so invested in me). So i did like you say -- NEXTED her -- im just wondering if how i did this was good or bad... or how or why she all of a sudden found some other guy.