So I have a huge one-itis over one girl for almost a year. As soon as I realized that I fell for her, I broke up my pity relationship with an insecure Christian gf and decided to do all I can to get my crush. I didn't go too aggressively after her because she had a boyfriend. I kept flirting with her and got some decent responses. It was going really well actually and I figured that as soon as she breaks up with her boyfriend, I will definitely get her.

She broke up with her boyfriend alright, dumped him for another guy she liked a long time ago (the guy that fucked her friend ). It seemed like I almost felt a physical pain when I heard it. "You gotta be shitting me!" was the first thing I thought in my mind. When I asked our common friend how they hooked up, she told me that she was feeling shitty one night and he "nursed her"

I was oblivious about it and wondered why she started avoiding me lately and what did I do to creep her out (she would literally try to disappear as soon as she saw me). To top off my humiliation, she gave me that pity look and a hug with backrub.... One-itis is the most awful fucking feeling out there, can't even properly concentrate on my studies because of it. What would be the better way to go about this situation? Try not to interact with her at all and focus on hooking up with someone else or throw a comment like "Damn! I heard you already got into another relationship. I see you don't fuck around!" or "I heard you got a new boyfriend" she "yeah" me "Want another one?". Guess throwing the comments like that would only make me even more needy, obsessed and jealous in her eyes and are completely unnecessary.

Anyways, I guess it goes without saying but GUYS! NEVER TRY TO GO FOR A GIRL WITH A BOYFRIEND IF YOU CAN'T CLOSE HER RIGHT AWAY. EVEN IF SHE FLIRTS WITH YOU. NEVER WAIT AROUND, YOU WILL MOST LIKELY NOT SUCCEED WITH SUCH MINDSET!

P.S. I know that I am an AFC and a needy douche

The typical AFC is someone who has sarged less than 10 women in his lifetime and expects to f-close a hot babe who gets hit on by several dozen guys a day. That means, the hot babe will have numerous sarging experiences with THOUSANDS of guys hitting on her during her lifetime.

I use an UFC MMA analogy for this. AFCs want to get in the ring and fight with a badass like Jose Aldo without any training at all or exposure in numerous preparatory fights against guys who are not that good.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oBrt1VH8Plk[/youtube]

If you want to win over that ONE hot girl, sharpen your courtship (sarging) skills on FIVE THOUSAND girls so you'll even the playing field. This way, when you get into a fight with Jose Aldo (your one-itis), you'll at least have a fighting chance in winning the match than none at all.

Sarge at least 10 new girls everyday for the next 90 days and then taper that down to 10 girls (new or regulars) a day. When you get good enough, f-closing your one-itis will be easy as pie.

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Thanks for advice. I enjoyed the metaphor haha. Kinda reminded me of "breaking bad"'s Saul Goodman

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nDc-LNW8z18[/youtube]

LOL.

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