I believe I said everything in the subject of the topic, lol.

After 2 years of gaming, partying and dating lots of girls, I've found that one girl that I really like, and consider a relationship prospect (although I do have 4 more girls gravitating towards me, but I don't consider them for anything more serious than casual dating). We've been seeing each other for more than a month now (went out 3 times) and everything is going smooth, although I would like to know what you guys think about following: I initiate contact (via text or fb) once, and for every single/one time I initiate contact, she initiates contact the next 4 or 5 times. That means she initiates more than 80 % contact via text/fb. But, the thing is she doesn't initiate meet ups/dates, although she is thrilled and very happy when I call her out and when she sees me, and I initiated a meet up each of those 3 times.

I'll wait for a week or so, just to see what happens, maybe she will initiate a meet up, but I'd like to know, did you experience something like that? How did you deal with it?

I know, we have to be dominant, decisive, assertive, etc., but one-sidedly initiating a meet up over and over and over again isn't a way. Tell me what you think.

Thanks.

Cheers!

Btw. @mods and admins, I've been thinking and reading instructions about where to put this topic, and I couldn't think of a better subforum than this, if I missed the subforum, I apologize, I'm still new here.

Men should normally come up with plans for a date. That's it. I used to think like you. But what is your issue with initiating the date ? You can suggest stuff that YOU want to do. You have all the power to make the decisions and pick stuff you actually enjoy.
I normally don't let my girl to make any plans.
The fact that she is happy when you call her etc. is a very good sign.
Don't start playing the unavailibilty bullshit game. Initiate every time. It's the mans job.

I don't have an issue with initiating dates, at all. When we are on a date, I always lead, take her places, say what we'll do, and she follows. Even though we have to be dominant, assertive and decisive, shouldn't a girl show her interest in us by initiating dates and meet ups, just like she does when initiating contact? Being more precise, that is my question.

Well then if this bothers you tell her.

I had the same problem with my girl. Except it was about that she never initiates sex. I told her. Now she does. Effective communication. That's it.

I'll consider it, but I'll first give it some time to see whether she will initiate and to get to know her some more. Thanks.

Generally, a girl will show her interest by initiating contact, but it's still your job to make the dates. There's nothing wrong with a girl who waits for you to invite her out. It's a "traditional gender roles" thing.

-Wolf

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