heres my rant. some guys will find this needy/AFC. some will find it true and enlightening.
**sluzza is my non-derogatory term for a loose woman**

Player & slut (sluzza):

• - sex is a carnal, mechanical thing that is fun to do in itself, like playing a video game or watching a movie.
  - having comfort & a connection is a bonus but not necessary.
  - as a stand alone activity sex has a lot of appeal.
  - does not need to be a challenge (or perceived challenge) to feel satisfied
  - avoids "one-itis"

Ladies Man (like a lady)

• - sex is just icing on the cake, a fruition of something "spiritual" (for lack of a better term) two parties share
  - comfort, connection & the dance that leads to sex is everything.
  - as a stand alone activity sex has little to no appeal.
  - usually has to be a challenge (or perceived challenge) to feel satisfied.
  - hopes for "one-itis".

** AFCs quite often think they are ladies men. but a Ladies Man has slept with a decent amount of women & will turn down sex offered on a silver platter frequently if the "spiritual" connection is not there or he feels she fits in the sluzza/player field. AFC cant get sex in the first place. AFCs should start out as players to get their skills up then decide if they are a player or a ladies man

** Most guys in the "community" fit into the player/sluzza field and shun the ladies man. But can never really understand because a ladies man is a "man from venus", players are "men from mars", and vice verca.

inb4 TLDR
inb4 OP is fag

You can't put men into categories as such.

Have you ever gotten really good at something before? Example: Very talented guitar player has no interest in jamming with a scrubadub drummer; Open level volleyball players won't be seen on a doubles team with a B level player; a seasoned bourbon drinker won't touch anything younger than 8 year small batch.

My point is, some of us think of sex as a game, an activity, a sport. We just don't care to dance with a partner that can't even two step.

In the same way that females are not interested in men that are 'run of the mill,' you all will eventually become bored and disinterested in lackluster, sexually inexperienced women with avg-decent aesthetics.

Granted, some men are looking for a serious relationship and some aren't. The difference in mindset is more of a timing issue.