So my current girlfriend of a couple months openly offered up some information I wasn’t ready for / didn’t need to know.

She recently got out of a 6 year relationship. I’m 26, she is 25. We started hooking up in April but were both single. I did my thing she did hers. She slept with one other guy during that time. Whatever, we were single, I slept with other girls too. We recently became exclusive after spending a lot of time together and thinking it was the right step.

Then she dropped the bomb. Before her 6 year relationship, she slept with 28 guys. She had 3 threesomes. NOT the good kind. Yes. Two dudes banging her out. THREE DIFFERENT TIMES! Remember, I didn’t ask for this information, she just started telling me. I’m kind of at a loss. As a rule of thumb, I don’t commit to slutty women, but she is (kind of?) a reformed slut. 29 guys is a lot even though it was high school. A long time ago. Maybe I could deal with that, but the threesomes are killing me.

I don’t know. I’m seriously turned off. We can have some good times together and she’s sexy, HB8, but I find my mind wandering to that place where I’m so turned off I want to leave. Just looking for some advice here. I don’t think her a cheating risk, she’s really into me. I’m just SO turned off, but I really like her at the same time. Lost here.

Some other info about me. I've been with over 40 women and have a had a threesome myself. It's not a jealousy thing. I know, it's hypocritical but I want a girl I commit to to be a little less traveled.

Honestly, I think I could deal with the number, its the multiple devil threesomes that really get me.

i know the feeling dude its always there in the back of your mind. trouble is things like this have a tendency to eat away at you.
however her volunteering all this info sounds like a shit test, it might not have ever happened. 28 dudes in a few years inc a few spit-roast threesomes, then 6 years of monogamy? just doesnt seem legit.

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This is all subjective dude. If YOU can't deal with it then YOU can't be with her, it'll just eat away at you.

Me personally, I wouldn't be able to stay with a girl with a past like that. If you can disconnect the emotions then stick around for 'fun' but it may be easier said than done.

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Honestly man,

If you want a cool girl, you are going to have to make peace with the fact that she has been sexually active with other guys before you. You can think you are something special all you want.... but she didn't know you then. So, to her, at that point in her life... you were non existent. You are obviously special to her now if she is coming out and telling you about this. The best thing you can do is act completely unaffected. It's not something you can change about her. If you act like it doesn't bother you, it won't.

I have heard about girls lying about being with less men but never more. I doubt a shit test. She was honest and open, to me that sounds trustworthy. Either you accept her past or you let her go.

You guys are definitely right, its accept her past or move on. I want to. I care about this one and she's cool as fuck.

Listen, I know girls fuck and like I said, probably can deal with the number. It's just her getting double teamed by two dudes. Idk I'm already so invested maybe I should just try to get past it.

if you haven't yet watch a movie called "chasing amy" should help you make your decision, kevin smith directed, Go get it because this is almost exactly the situation dude was in, watch it before you make a decision

give it some more time to get past it, assume shes reformed until proven otherwise. Remeber girls at 20 years old are only half formed mentally, girls at 26 are 75% of the way there. If she was 35 she probably couldnt reform herself. If you cant get past it in a month or two dump her. Also I dont think its a shit test, girls have a genetic imperative to be overly honest with guys about shit when they really like them, it prevents guys from finding out shit after they get a woman preggo and bailing.

I'm fine with her having slept with other guys. That's not really the issue. It's just that in the past there are dudes out there that have so completely degraded her in a devils threesome. Multiple dudes. I know for a fact that if I double teamed a chick, even 10 years later, I'd kinda snicker to myself when thinking " I double teamed that dudes girlfriend / wife." I don't want to be that guy.

I mean, how many girls have been fucked by two dudes at the same time, let alone multiple times?

Honestly, the devils threesome would get to me. It would eat at me and I know it would.

Personally, I would bail on her and tell her why. I'd be upfront and say it's her past, I couldn't deal with the fact that she did it three separate times. I mean, that's not something a girl just does THREE DIFFERENT TIMES.

I would ponder about her LTR and what kind of shit she got up to... Doesn't seem like you could fuck 28 people by the age of 19 and have three threesomes then just stop everything while you're in a LTR. She must've done some crazy shit in that relationship, probably even had a threesome with her boyfriend or something. I mean, three times with different people every time? She must've been into it to repeat it, not as if she was being pressured into it every time.

Either she's telling the truth or she's bullshitting and trying to see how you'll react. 28 people by 19? What the fuck? Six years ago you didn't have online fuck sites, at least the well known ones, so what did she do? Hang out at a bar and ask guys to randomly fuck her? Go to orgies or something?

I'd bail. I think you should bail too because you're here asking for support basically on how to end it. Remember: There's plenty more fish in the sea!! Could probably keep her as a fuck buddy though...

Was she a porn star by any chance...? If she was that changes everything imo.

Nah not a pornstar. She claims that's how the popular crowd at her high school was. Everybody was fucking everybody. She says two were with the same guys and one with one of those guys and sobeone else. She also says she was faithful in that relationship and that's been reiterated by mutual friends.

That's normal where she's from? The fuck.

That sounds like some heavy bullshit if you ask me. She was just a slut man... She just doesn't want to say it. I do not know of any area where it's normal to fuck everyone in your class and have threesomes as if it's the norm. I don't even know any guys who fucked 28 women by the age of 19. Maybe a threesome in college but it was a once off kind of thing, ya know?

It's up to you but she's lying about the popular kids thing unless she's living in some really fucked up town... I mean, American women can be quite slappery and all and generally easier to lay than Europeans but shit man, 28 guys and three threesomes? The popular kids did that shit?

I'd be gone. I wouldn't be able to handle it. The numbers don't bother me, you just reach a certain number and stop giving a fuck but the threesomes would even if i'd had a dozen of them.

well im gaming this HB9.5 at the mo and apparently she fucked a so-called buddy of mine (long story... ridiculously long story) a few months ago, no condom, just a drunken 1 night thing she barely knew him.
now that, has really really degraded her for me (if its true).

so i know your pain. however, the one thing that would cure my pain in that regard would be if i slept with her 1st time w/o a rubber too.
so, if you had a threesome with your gf and some other girl, do you reckon that might ease the pain?

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Yeah Idk if I believe the "everybody" was doing it. I agree she was just a slut. Idk I'm pretty deep in my own head about it and its driving me crazy. To bang a lot of guys in your teen years is one thing. But to let yourself be so degraded by two dudes multiple times is another. I would never want to double team a chick and I'm finding myself disgusted by chicks who have.

I'll put it this way. I don't watch double team porn. Shit disgusts me.

Having a 2 girls 1 guy threesome with her won't do much. It's not an experience thing, I'm just kinda losing respect