Gents,
Ive got a few girls on the go, FWB's. They know im seeing other girls, but they are starting to fall in love with me and wanting to hang out all the time (to the point they get upset when i dont attend a function/ party on the weekends). They know ive just come out of a very long relationship and im not after anything serious.

The only thing i can come up with is limiting interactions to once a week and leaving the weekends for sarging new talent. (Obviously dont tell them your Tuesday, Wednesday etc).

These are good girls that i have worked hard on and dont want to let go.

Im sure im not the only one to come across this problem.

HELP

JMT

Wolfwood has an awesome collection of links on this subject matter. Hope he jumps in some time.

I'm specializing on long term multiple sexual relationships. Just remember that when a girl is saying, "I love you," that's actually girly speake for: "I want your cock inside my pussy every night." She is not actually in 'love' with you. The girl is just horny.

Now, if she's saying things like, "I can't live without you." or "I think I won't be able to live if I found out you have other women in your life" or some stupid shit like those, then the best way to handle those is to kill the attraction. When a girl is saying stupid shit like these, what she really means is: "I love you." Kill the attraction fast when you've reached this point.

That's a smoother exit strategy. But it takes time though. How? Act AFC and needy around the girl. She'll fall out of love in no time.

Field tested.

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html

Fuck buddies rarely last. Longest I had was 3 months and used to see each other every Wednesday (only ever texted each other on the day we wanna bone)

That's the one of the bad things about not being monogamous.

I'm sure there are exceptions of long term casual sex but very rare in my experience.

I sometimes put a spin on it and label them my part time girlfriend which sometimes help. (I was seeing a girl who didn't like the idea of fuck buddies but she was due to move back to her homeland country in a few months so it was always doomed from day 1 which is why I suggested part time)

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Non-monogamy is all about time management and handling expectations. It sounds like these girls are more like MLTR's than FB's, if you are going to events with them. You could scale them back to one day a week (i.e. downgrade them), but I doubt that they are going to take that well. If anything, I'd just be more upfront about the fact that you are a busy person and don't have a lot of free time. Figure out a schedule that works for you and stick with it. If a girl gets upset, then talk to her about the situation. However, if she throws a tantrum, pushes you for monogamy, or says something like, "we need to talk", then you need to cut contact for several days (i.e. soft next).

Having said that, FB's always flake out eventually. The trick is to find the ones who are happy with an open/poly relationship and then upgrade them. Here are some of the helpful links hellhound mentioned:

Tubarao's relationship rules: http://puarticles.blogspot.com/2008/01/ ... rules.html
Blackdragon on MLTR's: http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/se ... 1871591100
60YoC "Next early or pay later": http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/se ... hod=browse

Other links (just for kicks):

Kwagmyre's Iron Triangle Post: http://www.fastseduction.com/cgi-bin/se ... hod=browse
Iammaximus on motivation (GATA!): iffy-about-one-night-stands-vt148290.html#p713135
Blackdragon's thesis on why monogamy doesn't work (long): http://www.blackdragonsystem.com/upload ... t_work.pdf

-Wolf

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Bad Behavior: drama-free-relationships-3-the-soft-next-vt125554.html

Thanks for this guys. Your input is greatly appreciated. Ill work on this and record my results here!
thanks again