Here is the situation. A girl used to really be interested in me, she would text me, ask my plans, tell me she was thinking about me etc. Anyway I bitched out and waited to long to make a move...before I knew about this forum. So she found another boyfriend right after chasing me. Now she is single again and from what her friend told me pretty broken up about her latest relationship falling apart. How I can slip in and reengage an interest that happened long ago? Any insight into rebuilding attraction would be great, although I hardly see her, I still have her number. Sure it will be tough but doable?

Pretend to bulk text

You- "Hey guys. Let me know if you need VIP tickets before you get into the club, see you at 10pm ish"
Her- "who is this?"
You- "sorry, just bulk text, it's (your name)
Her- "oh hey! How are you?"

(Ideal scenario she will be glad you texted)

If she doesn't ask , then perhaps move on, lesson learnt, don't pussy out on pulling the trigger next time

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in my experience it can be very hard to get the chemistry going the 2nd time, even if it was ridiculously electric the first time round. you could just be straight up about it, text her like" hey sweetheart heard u back in the market fancy a chance to redeem yourself after blowing it with me the 1st time? :-p"
haha never underestimate how far being cheeky will get ya

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The lesson has been learned, this forum definitely helped me realize my mistake. And while I appreciate the response the bulk text won't work. I live in a pretty small town where there is only bars, no clubs and definitely no VIP. Any other ideas?

Thanks just some guy, I don't normally mind playing the heel but in this case I'm not sure its appropriate. I fucked it all up by being to aloof and blew her off a few times, had another girl but didn't tell her....tried stringing her along but it blew up in my face(she didn't find out about the other girl though). Saying that I'm not sure she would find your text funny? Any other ideas? She is a waitress so I thought about going to dinner with friends where she works but I haven't been there for months. I went there once after we stopped talking a few months later and she and a few of her friends she works with acted really weird when I tried saying hi to them pretty, much blew me off. So I stopped going. Just typing the last line makes it sound even to me like a hailmary but I still want to give it a shot!

I should also add that before I found out about the other dude we had a date set which she initiated. She texted me before though saying she couldn't make it because she was tired(now I know about the dude so was a lie) so I started chasing her for around a week. Then I found out about the new guy and left it. All of this happened around 9 months ago. She has been my oneiteis ever since.

Are you from USA?

"happy Labor Day everyone"

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Good idea but to late...I think I need a more direct opener aimed at her? Any ideas?

Hello how are you?

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Find out where she's hangin out and go up there with a couple friends. She may walk up and sit in your lap you never know.

you could wait til christmas, cant go wrong then


seriously though the cheeky text was meant to insinuate that it was her who failed to make it happen last time, not you; thats what makes it cheeky!

although after reading that extra information though it does make it look like you're clutching at straws trying to salvage anything, as it was more than a simple missed hit, you made a bit of a balls of it dude.
oneitis for 9 months is painful tho i appreciate that. if she is upset over her breakup then i guess ur best bet is play the rebound space-filler

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Its fucking weak that I'm still hung up on her, especially since I no doubt could have had her. Christmas won't work either..she is hot as fuck and no doubt will have someone new in her life or maybe even the ex? I would just facebook message her but I no longer have facebook. If worse comes to worse I may just message her and tell her like she is an old friend, try to get a meet up and go from there? The worse thing that could happen is she rejects me and I can finally move completely on? FEEDBACK is welcomed on the last bit!

Sounds like a plan. Call a meeting on the "old friends" base and work from there.