I saw the other day a similar post involving a fellow pua who's father died and I have a similar situation.

I had dated this girl for several months, I won't lie I fell hard and fast for her but maintained my feelings for her. We were basically in a relationship except it was never "official" and we hadn't had sex yet but were very physical otherwise.
Late in June she found her brother unconscious and a few days later he was dead. She leaned on me pretty hard and opened up a great deal about things she hadn't wanted to before involving her past. I sought advice from everyone I could think of and they were all pretty much unanimous and told me to be available but give her space (this is a very hard thing to do). After his funeral I told her that I was going to give her space and she did not take to tat very well at all, I did my best to assure her that I wasn't leaving her and that I was there for her whenever she needed me. We spoke often and I always offered to get her out and get her mind off things but she always refused. During this time apart I realized how much I loved her. I went about slaying my own personal demons I had with past relationships and like a dip shit I posted something very vague about it on facebook and she was very curious. She confronted me about it and I told her I would tell her but only when I had things sorted out and answers I needed. This really pissed her off. When I finally got things sorted out I told her that I was ready to tell her and to come over, she refused we ended up in a huge fight through text messages and I finally got pissed and told her I loved her she felt bad and started asking why because she thought she was too messed up to be loved. I did my best to reassure her that i didnt think that off her. After this she became even more hostile towards me and very disrespectful. It wasn't until two weeks later when she went to Florida to spread her brothers ashes. Her car broke down 300 miles from the city we live in. She posted some nonsense on facebook about how much she needed a man in her life for times like that. Of course I told I was coming yet she tried to refuse and I finally became very forceful and told her there wasn't anything she could do or say because I was coming. When I arrived I was really on guard because of how things had been and very quickly she became extremely disrespectful. Questioning everything from my honesty to my ability to fix her car and even if I had brought tools. This really pissed me off. After an intense fight and almost kicking her to the curb I got her calmed down fixed her car, kissed her told her I loved her and sent her on her way. I later got a text saying that what I had done was the sweetest thing a man had ever done for her minus my attitude. And that really pissed me off.

It is important to know that I have only ever been shown this much disrespect by one other person in my life and that was from my cousin that I grew up with and was attached at the hip to since birth and it destroyed our relationship beyond repair.

I contemplated things with my gf on the ride home and decided that level of disrespect could not be tolerated so I broke up with her the following day via a one sentence text. She didn't try to fight.

This was just over a month ago, since then I have had three one night stands and burned though about twenty women on a dating speed wheel.

Here is where the real complications are though, my family has recently learned that my mother will be gone any day now and I am very angry about it and I understand why my GF was lashing out so bad even though it was incredibly harsh and intolerable I forgive her. She has since moved out out of state, I have spoken to her once about my mother since I felt she would have some understanding and I dont doubt she has feelings for me still. I love this girl and I honestly want her with me. I feel really bad about the break up even though I felt it was necessary at the time. What can I do or should I do? Despite a slew of other women and everything that's going on I still love her and want her.

I'll be honest with you man MOVE ON. She repeatedly treated you like shit and made no effort to make the relationship work. You were her punching bag a lot of the times and it sounds weird but you were just to nice to her. She told you herself she was messed up and trust me you don't want to be in a long term relationship with a emotionally messed up girl. Keep going at different girls remove her from ALL forms of social media and remove anything that reminds you of her. Eventually you will get over her and find a girl who will make you forget about her and won't be so emotionally manipulative.

Ehhh.. I see a lot of poor relationship leading going on and some "captain save-a-ho". Here were my thoughts while I was reading your post:

First, don't tell a girl that you're giving her space. It's something that doesn't need to be verbalized. Just allow her to dictate how much she wants to see you.

Second, it's clear that you didn't know what you wanted while you were seeing this girl. You said you needed to slay demons of previous relationships, during your time apart you realized you loved her, posted vague stuff on facebook, you were avoiding conversations. These things all tell me that you weren't leading the relationship effectively. The girl was there following your lead, but you weren't leading her anywhere.

Third, grand gestures to show your true feelings don't really earn you any points with women. It just tells them that they have all the power in a relationship because you will drop everything to do ridiculous things for them any time they have a problem. Now, having said that, it was still a very nice thing to do. It's the kind of thing you should do for a really awesome girlfriend who treats you like a king. It's not something you should have done in this situation.

Fourth, you broke up with her and then changed your mind.. more poor leading.

In short, you fucked yourself over repeatedly during the relationship. Don't do it again in your next relationship.

Just my 2 cents.

-Wold

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I see both of your points and respect them both there is validity to both of them. I am admittedly very inexperienced with relationship and I'm sure it shows. And as i sit sit thinking on it all I don't think I ever really accepted her for who she was and kind of expected more out of her, hmmm, interesting. I wonder if that could have made a difference at all in how I behaved. That answer is actually obvious. Yeah it was mishandled by both of us we both kinda fucked it up especially me.