Hey Guys, greetings from the UK! this is my first post, and I'm looking for some sound advice on my situation...

here goes - so I started work at a company earlier this month (its a temp job only until the beginning of october, usually i wouldnt s**t on my own doorstep, but being as its temporary, i figured its ok to take the risk), and opposite me sits this girl...we hit it off pretty quickly, but i new she had a boyfriend, she'd told me it wasnt going well and theyd had many problems in the past (they'd been together for 4 years, on and off for the last year and half). Im one of those guys that once i find out a girl has a boyfriend, i just cross her off my head and get on with other stuff.

anyway, almost two weeks ago she tells me she broke up with him and she'd had enough etc...we started hanging out, drinking after work with everyone. I sensed some attraction on her part, but I was weary as it can be easy to misinterpret things, especially as shes from a Latin culture where people are naturally friendly and can come across as flirtatious. I asked two guys in work their opinion and they both said they thought that she was totally into me and i should do something about it because its really obvious to everyone in work. i just continued joking with her and making her laugh and escalating like that.

so on thursday we all go out again after work for some drinks, eventually everybody leaves except for us and we go to a bar and get some food and more drink. were pretty tipsy at this point, and hint that i like her, she asks me flat out and i tell her yes, she replies with 'thats good'. so from this moment on I continued flirting etc..until we left to take the train home, thats when i grabbed her hand and pulled her to me and kissed her, when we finished she was all over me and told me to get off one stop later so we could keep kissing on the train.

the next day in work (yesterday), it was the same vibe. she even showed signs of jealousy when i new girl came into the office and i looked 'dont even think about it' she said. here's where im confused and need a little help with...

we all went out again, and we kissed quite a few times, eventually everyone left and we ended up in the same place again, i asked her to come back to mine, but she said she would feel like crap in the morning if something happened because of the fact that she has just gotten out of a relationship. i told her i understood but i wasnt going to wait around for ages. she said she just needs to adjust herself, so i told her that once shes done that, im first in line. we continued kissing on the train and then i told her id see her soon...

Now I know this isnt just a drunk thing, because the flirting and tension has been building up for a while, I took a few days off work the other day and she messaged me saying she missed me there.

today is saturday and I havent heard from her. Obviously i want to call her and ask her to do something, but my sensible mind is holding me back saying i should not chase now and just see what happens in work this week, give her space and let her come to me. Im not sure how to approach this, i like her and i think shes into me too, but i dont want to be the rebound guy so im trying to play this in a sensible way rather than going nuts and getting over excited only to ruin it. I've often been the rebound guy and I want to get out of this habit. Im overly picky and the girls I usually end up with are super hot, but super crazy, any advice on how to attract the right balance?

cheers!

I have picked up a few girls in the work place and this is exactly how I go about doing it" just see what happens in work this week, give her space and let her come to me." You are correct in thinking you shouldn't be chasing she knows how you feel if she wants to hang out great if not continue the work game as usual. The only thing I would suggest is making sure you end the conversations at work, keep them short and be funny. Don't mention anything about going out the other night and definitely don't ask her out again. If she is into you she will initiate contact outside the workplace guaranteed. GOOD LUCK

thanks man, im glad to know that im thinking about this the right way. I figured shes almost definitely on the rebound, so ill just keep cool and continue being funny, without getting too attached.

one thing i didnt get that you said about 'ending conversations at work' you mean dont text her etc...?

theres a bbq tomorrow at one of the girls from works house, so theres a chance she'll be there. shes pretty outgoing so i doubt itll be awkward

thanks again

No I mean if your having a convo at work make sure you end it. Sounds silly but it helps build attraction. Also the way I always play it is why I don't ignore the girl I also don't go out of my way to see her at work. Go to the BBQ and just be yourself, don't pay her to much attention but talk to her as well as everyone else there. Sounds like she is interested she is just unsure, don't become needy and push her away and you should be good. GOOD LUCK

Awesome, thanks man. that helps a lot

with regards to not going out of my way to see her in work - she sits diagonally opposite me so its kinda hard ahaha, its one of those computer jobs, where you sit all day staring at a screen translating foreign dialogue for documentaries, so we tend to distract each other as a means of taking a break every now and then (its a little bit like when we were in school). i guess i'll just be normal self, and like you said, just talk to everyone

thanks again!