Couple days ago my father passed at the age of 59, Young and fit. Currently I'm going strong with moments here and there. Girl I was close to has completely blocked and pushed away. Has anyone dealt with this before?

To an extent I'm trying to rebuild my world however a lot of things have at times got me the feeling that I'm losing control. Any advice?

Your dad just died, dude. You're needy and it's to be expected.

You're probably pinning everything on her and it's a huge turn off. It's natural to talk to someone close about these things but if the relationship is young and she's just a fuck buddy or something DO NOT TALK ABOUT THINGS THAT MAKE YOU UPSET OR BOTHER YOU!!

If you want her, you have to seem cool. She can know you're upset but she has to come to you about it. When she does don't go overboard with it.

Honestly though, i'd ditch her and put PU on hold while I deal with the loss.

I've experienced this before, I'm really sorry for your loss.

Just focus on rebuilding the loss and balancing your life first.
Make priorities, girls aren't everything.

If you need her badly and she knows it, she'll stand by your side all the way through. However, if she's just a hookup, you don't need her for now.

I'm very sorry for your loss. Right now your priority should be to get yourself together. Don't focus on getting girls because no girl will fill this hole.

Peace,

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That girl is a piece of shit and didn't deserve you anyways.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Just try to go out and have fun. Meet people. Don't focus on just having sex with girls focus on enjoying life. The only healing process for this is time. Do something you like. A hobby. Eventually you will move on and understand that well, that's life.

I disagree.

Depending on the length of the relationship it's acceptable. If you just meet someone you can't be expected to be their emotional crutch regardless. It's one of the things you're thought in PUA: Don't come on too needy ever!!

Thanks for the replies, Decided to take a break from girls currently and will resume PUA when I have my strength back and whilst obtaining my health back. This also annoyed me today so any tips here would be good.

Girl doesn't talk to me because she knows I just want sex? Never seen or met her and not even thinking about this SPAM. I was talking to another female friend on SPAM and basically I was told she and her friend tell this guy everything. This guy is the reason the girl I was talking to at the moment is feeling so shit. This is what he had to say.

They play a game that I play so does this guy, He shut up after I fired back. In the current state of mind its expected. I did text the girl stating wtf was going on and told her that this behaviour will not be tolerated maybe this guy is playing games who knows. I was being myself and that has a flirty nature but if she does think that how do I swap this around.

I was pretty pissed and just ranted out. Rise is me.

19:40 [Qthephrosty]: Belinda doesn't talk to you because she knows what you want and you should never use the sympathy card to pick up chicks

19:40 [Qthephrosty]: and yes i know all about it when i say "they tell me everything" i mean everything

19:41 [Risedruid]: Excuse me?

19:41 [Risedruid]: I find that insulting.

19:42 [Risedruid]: Listen mate, I'm not going to put up with this shit. I'm here to make friends and I'll be telling your friend and kara the same and showing the convo as my WIM copy's all your texts. If you honestly believe that I'm here to fuck chicks then you need to get off your high horse and back up.

19:41 [Qthephrosty]: dont tell me bringing up your father in the first 5 messages wasn't a sympathy card

19:41 [Qthephrosty]: to 2 females

19:43 [Risedruid]: I was very proud of my father so I speak highly about him. I'll be texting Belinda myself IRL friend or not I find this very disrespectful.

Now if she does how do I act and turn this around, I honestly don't have time for this bullshit currently and don't want to cause more problems then their are.

Bewm! GBF pullin' the strings! Haha. What a tosser.

You handled it well though. Just do what you said you were going to do then tell the girls you're very disappointed in them for listening to such an asshole that hasn't a clue. Don't drag it out, just be disappointed and take your leave. They'll feel like shit and apologise. Might not be immediately after but they'll come around depending on how much of an investment they were willing to put in you.

Basically I ended up quitting the game, Was told I was the one in the wrong and that I brought it on myself and that the fact they are so close means I'm just an idiot. Live and learn at least I know not to get involved in shit that doesn't concern me if a girl has issues go talk to some other idiot.

Entire life SPAM feels shit.

You don't have to feel down, you're passing through difficult times.
Again I'll tell you this: make priorities and dump the hookup things until you get your life back together.

Yeah, shit happens just don't let it get to you.

Had a HB7.5/8 last night that was in the bag. Lost her because I messed up and let her GBF get in the way as I was walking out of the club with her. I was drunk so I wasn't thinking straight. I still feel good about it because I learned where I went wrong. With that kind of shit you just have to learn not to give a fuck and not let it get to you. If you fail it's your own fault and if you can see where you went wrong you should look at it and be able to laugh and be happy.

Fact is in PU you just gotta learn to be confident and be mature enough to see where you were failed at your game. In real life you gotta put the women on hold though if the need arises and trust me, your dad dying is one of those things in life where you just have to grieve.

Stop the PU and be with family for a week or two.

Thanks for the support guys, GBF's can be a real issue same with a girl with only guy friends it seems. My issue is I tried to move to fast to some extent and many people on these online games seem to be what I see was freaks or strange people lol.

If these girls going to act like this then the guys can have them, I'm looking at NLP and books to read SPAM I'm dealing ok with my father for now but the funeral has yet to have come so I could still be in shock I feel bad for feeling no emotion anyone have any resources to read?

Where are you picking up these women? An online game or forum?

Material... The Game, Mystery Method, The Natural... There's lots.

I've not done NLP, i've not even read up on it but what I have heard it's pretty much word association, well a bit more than that but summed up you could call it that. Those forbidden patterns from the sounds of things take words with deep emotions connected to them and associate the good with the PUA and the bad with the external world then funnel sexual sensations towards the PUA.

I've been through this recently myself. My dad died last November, then my mother died in January. You shouldn't feel guilty about not hurting as much as you think you should right now. Everyone grieves on their own timetable. But it is normal to feel guilt at some point in the grieving process so I'm contradicting myself here somewhat. I had a lot of guilt about not being as good of a son as I thought I could have been after my dad passed and took a month or so off from even trying to get a date. Then I met someone online that I really liked, we were going to go on a date on Friday but my Mom died on Thursday night. I postponed the date until the next weekend which was way too soon. I thought it might not be such a bad idea because she had lost her mother almost exactly one year earlier. But I was thinking more friend than girlfriend at the time until I met her and she was everything I was looking for. Even if she had lost her mom a month earlier I think it still would have been a mistake. No two people are going to be at the same place in their grief at the same time. And you want to be happy to make a good impression. I should have just told her that I needed some time and then gave her a call in a couple months.

If you do go out I'd just collect some phone numbers. And I'd be real vague about the reason why you won't be calling right away, so that it doesn't become a conversation about your Dad or someone she lost. Maybe just say you lost a family member recently and you don't think it's a good time to start a new relationship. And be careful with the Alcohol and/or drugs when your out, you don't want to be masking the pain.

What a cunt. Fuck her man.

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