Hi
so today I was at the store and met this girl. I talked to her, but was very nervous. I thought I was messing up really bad, my voice sounded so shaky.
at first we were talking in English but it turned out she was from my country so we started talking in our native language. I am jewish, and she is muslim. so I asked her "do you have a problem dating jews?" she said "no, I think you guys are more sensitive in that perspective, I dont care"
anyway, after a 5 minute conversation, I said "do you have a pen?" she knew exactly what I was referring to (phone number)
she got a pen out of her purse and said "what's your number?" I had a fedex envelope in my hand, I told her "write your number on this envelope" she kept refusing and said "you tell me your number I will write it in my notebook" after a long struggle, I finally got her to write a legit-looking number on the envelope.

Now my problem is, I dont know if it's a real number. How do I find out? do I text her?
And if it's a real number, I am not going to give her a chance, I mean what kind of a desperate slut would give her real number to a nervous loser like me?

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I say wait a days time and then text her it would help to have a good convo starter possibly referring to when you met her just so it wont be another one of those boring " hey there" or "whats up"

should of called and confirm it was a real number... do you not have a cell phone at that time..?

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Great job kid!

Remember you are the prize

Stop thinking so negatively about yourself bro! WHAT KIND OF GIRL WOULDN'T WANT TO GIVE HER NUMBER TO A SEXY BEAST LIKE YOURSELF?! Think of it that way...

As far as when you should contact her... CALL her within a day or two. Don't text her. If you wait to long to do it... she might forget about who you are and ignore you. If you do it too soon, you come off as needy. By calling her, you will set yourself apart from the rest of the guys she is talking to (who are texting her) and she will be able to feel a connection with you again because she can hear your voice.

Good job tho man! Now go out and talk to more girls

Attaboy!

Go. Go. Go. Number close more girls.

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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Call her. Be fun, tell something interesting what's happened to you - something you would share with anybody. In the first contact I talk to them like to somebody I want to be nice to but thats all. You have already set the perfect frame of taking her out for a date. Continue with that. After the chit chat, I always calmly say "I want to take you for a date today at 2000, is that ok for you?".

I respectfully desagree. That would be the worst possible thing to do, because: a) if she gave you her correct number you look like you don't trust her, wich is a bad start. b) if she gave you a fake number, what would you do? Beat the real number out of her? It's a lose-lose situation, the way I see it.

I already got quite a bit of fake numbers and I never confirmed a number in front of a girl. If it turns out to be fake, so be it. In fact I believe giving a fake number shows that the girl is sweet, classy and is trying to let you down in the nicest way possible. Or would you rather have her say "No fucking way, loser. I never want to hear from you again!" personally, I'll take the fake number any day of the week. At the very least it makes you look like a winner to whoever happens to be watching the scene.

As for how to procede, wait a day and call her, like the other guys already said.