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I've been in a exclusive relationship for around 5 months with a HB8. She's really caring, emotional, balanced in terms of not doing anything I might not approve, she has never cheated in a relationship and really values ours, head over heels for me, on toes all the time. She's not perfect, nobody is, but I can live with her flaws.
We have a great time every time we get together, heaps of fun and laughter. We see eachother 2-3 days a week.
Anyways,
The other night we were home and got invited to my cousin's where she had another 2 of her girlfriends over. Me and gf went there and there was this girl that is said to have a gift of predicting future. She said she has also been interested in this whole mumbo-jumbo stuff with ghosts and extraterrestrial powers.
I really am afraid of the impact on a person's psychology and unconscious mind these predictions might have.
They proposed my gf to see her future, she asked me, I was like "whatever". I am doubled on whether I should believe such mumbo-jumboes or not, she really got some stuff right.
On gf being with me, she predicted "Big love" and "suffering". I don't know. Ok, not so bad, right? Everyone who loves, suffers.
She came to live with me at another town for 2 days yesterday.
Last night, though, gf started sharing some really personal stuff about her family. About a family member trying to split her mother and father, having barried eggs in the ground on full-moon. They are divorced now.
More importantly, that her mother had been going to see a fortune teller a few times. That she had predicted she won't be fired from work. She recently had some problems at work.
That particular fortune teller had said that I will not be with my GF. That we'd be together for a long time and continue to help eachother in life. - This really rocked me but I remained calm at the moment. GF also said that in past time, when we once got into a big fight, she wanted to ask this fortune teller whether we'd get back together again but didn't do it. She said this fortune teller had been right about her splitting with her ex-bf, too.
She obviously believes in this stuff to some extent. I don't know whether I believe in it, this whole predicting thing frightens me. People builds expectations and challenge destiny this way, therefore it really happens.
After she said it, as we we're cuddled, she fell asleep. I had time to think about this, I was really hurt and my attitude changed dramatically. We went shopping and she noticed something wasn't right. I told her I don't think I can be the same as before, that this thing had affected me a lot. We talked about it for a while but I wasn't hearing, I had my mind set already. She said it's unacceptable for her to split like this.
Started crying really intensively. She said she wasn't feeling OK, she was trembling and breathing very heavily. I gave her 2 aspirins. After I gave her "Nervona"(medication that chills you down). Nothing could chill her down. She would stop crying at 2-3 times, talk some and burst up again. I've never seen a person collapse in such way but in my head I was doubled.
This went on for two hours, crying and begging me. She was talking about us loving eachother and trying her best to convince me to stay together, that she cannot imagine life without me. I really don't remember her exact words right now(morning after that) It was like a bad dream to me. At a point, I don't know what happened to me but I started looking at a random small object, not able to think at all. It was just emotions that were flowing while she was crying, I could barely talk. She wanted to clarify whether we're out-and-out broked up or not - I did not answer for 30minutes. She started worrying about me, all I said was that I wanted to sleep, she walked me to the bed. Sat next to me, cried on my shoulder again, said she loves me. Said goodnight, I said "me too".
This morning, when I woke up, and saw 2 notes on the pillow which I'll re-write after the thread. She had fallen asleep on the couch, drank a bottle of wine we bought but never opened.
Right now I'm in my family's office, working alone (family on vacation) and i'm writing this thread, hoping somebody will help me.
This is the only place I can truly share this and ask for advice.
Should I break it up, hurt her immensely and have her always dream for what we've had but torturing myself with the thoughts "What if...?" ?
Or be with her and continue to be happy, with the thought of our break-up having been pre-destined. Being afraid of the impact the fortune teller might have on her mind, feeling as I have lost my time with the wrong person if it really happens for us to really split in the future.
these are the notes -
"I really don't know how to start the things I want to tell you...I never felt anything like this before. Life met me with you without me having expected it...I never believed something like this could happen...Suddenly, I started to feel something I cannot explain with the right words. I am happy this happened. I don't know how I can explain my condition...It's not just love and happiness..It's much more. Even euphoria is not the right word. I don't want to lose you. I invest so much from myself that I amaze myself I am doing this for someone....But this "someone" really deserves it because I see that he gave a lot from himself. I don't beg you for forgiveness...I beg you to not let this dream and love end...I don't believe I am capable of doing anything like this for anyone else. If this ends just like this, I don't know wheter I'll be able to move on....
I know these words may seem absurdly and stupid but I really mean them....
I love you a lot...
I don't know what else to tell you...
I don't want to lose you.
P.S. I'm sorry for writing this ugly"
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