I'm currently realizing that slow burn game is so freaking draining..
The girl is basically telling you "I gave you my number/facebook.. and now I'm going to shit-test you for a long time because I'm insecure, and until you pass all my shit-tests I will not go on a date with you".

How do you deal with her setting the frame like this?
Examples are..

She gives you her email/facebook instead of her number.. almost always this led to nowhere

She doesn't answer calls but rather text

Always busy with stuff, too busy to see you but shows IOI's


...

I find slow burn game creates neediness in me.. and I assume in all men? Why? Because you're investing yourself with every text message you send out a part of your energy to her.
Its like wow.. we've been texting for 2 months now, are we like gonna go on a date anytime soon? lol

What to do guys? Cut her off a month in? Do I pull a "This isnt working out!" Ultimatum type of deal?

Help me here

You might want to consider a sarging portfolio of several girls and a portfolio of several seduction methods. If you're sarging just one girl, you will always come across as needy. But if you're sarging several girls all at the same time, you will always be busy and will naturally project a very attractive sexual vibe that girls like well (Hint: The more girls you sarge, the higher your natural testosterone levels will rise.).

Think of a seduction funnel. You can f-close a few girls within 24 hours; some will take just a couple of hours of sarging or even less. With some girls, you will only be able to f-close them on day 2s or day 3s and will probably take a week or less to execute your sarges to completion. Some will take more than 4 weeks or even months but that doesn't mean you can't f-close them.

The main rationale in using a sarging portfolio and a seduction methods portfolio is that: you're a very picky guy. You only want to fuck the most beautiful and sexiest girls with the best attitudes that complement your personality. An ugly or a fatty is not an option. BUT, you don't have the time to wait that long to get your dick wet in a pussy.

Here's how you might want to manage your sarges.

SARGING PORTFOLIO

Short Term F-Closes : Done within 24 hours : Direct and Bold Seduction Methods : Night Game Venues
Standard F-Closes : Done within 7 days : Indirect and Direct Seduction Methods : Combined Day Game and Night Game Venues
Medium Term F-Closes : Done within 4 weeks : Indirect Seduction Methods : Day Game Venues
Long Term F-Closes : Done within several months : Indirect and Direct Seduction Methods : Social Circle Game Venues

In summary, sarge at least 10 women everyday and approach at least 10 new women every week. If you're still a newbie at pick up, sarge at least 100 new women a week for 3 months or so.

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general-questions/topic137931.html

I've had a similar situation three months ago (see my earlier posts if you're interested in details).

Basically the girl seemed super interested in person and then made me wait 2 months to go out.
Needless to say, not having handled the situation correctly, I was very needy because as you say you cannot hide the investment after 2 months.

What worked best for me was freeze out, did twice (2 and 3 weeks respectively) and both time she came back asking how was I doing etc

Remember: persistence shows confidence,as long as you don't become needy. Write very little and (typical suggestion on this board, I know) go game other girls!

Good stuff man when you break it down like that
But I find even with continuous sarging I still get a bit needy when dealing with long term F-closes.. Its like.. why keep a guy waiting all this time.. its not going to turn into a relationship anyways!

Ah. If you have been sarging like crazy and still feel that way, then you have a Hunter's Syndrome. A competitive hunter will always try to hunt that prized prey; the rarer and more difficult it is to catch. This is like shooting chickens and turkeys versus going after that Siberian tiger.

A Siberian tiger that you have successfully hunted in the wild tundras makes you feel better than a Kentucky Fried Chicken that you have successfully foraged in the urban jungles.

You probably have a very competitive hunter's (or even a warrior's) genes in you that go back a long, long way. If you look at your family tree, don't be surprised if you have an ancestor who is a well known warrior or maybe a notorious pirate. There's nothing you can do about it if this is genetically programmed in you. What you can do is become aware of this fact and sharpen your seduction skills some more.

A skillful hunter will always get his prey faster and more efficiently than an amateur hunter who relies purely on luck. Moreover, most genes are content with the Kentucky Fried Chicken. You my friend, most probably have a good warrior's genes in you that's why you prefer the hard to catch, Siberian tiger.

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html