Ok I've been in the game for about a year now with some good results. I've also read a ton of material so I'm up to date about almost everything. But I want to talk about something I experienced a couple of times now, and as almost everyone knows, it's called one-itis.

But wait hear me out. It's going a bit deeper than the standard "you should work on your confidence, you get one-itis because you put the girl on a pedestal but there are thousands of girls, she's not that special, etc etc."

I for a fact know there are tons of hot women out there and I'm certainly not afraid to fail in the game of screwing around with a bunch of chicks. But why are we doing this again? I can hear you say: Well, to screw around with chicks damn it! That's certrainly true, but I for one - and I think a lot of us also - are also in it because they want to find that special girl who gives you the romantic, oozy woozy sunshine lollipops and rainbows feeling.

This is the 3rd time I'm in it. And the first 2 times failed miserably. You know why: you suddenly get that crazy feeling about a girl that she's the one, everything fits, you've interacted with a dosen chicks but this one really stands out. It's like your genes are meant to be, you can imagine yourself having a happy future together and can't stop dreaming about it.

But what happens? I become that dumb AFC again, afraid to fail. I can tell myself a thousand times she's not that special, it won't work, it's a physiological process that can't be disturbed, it's called love damn it. And so I'm trying way too hard to win her over, I come across as not that confident and she loses interest in me. Well then I'm back again screwing those chicks I like to screw, but aren't my dreamgirls.

How do you guys cope with this? Any suggestions? It's all fun and games right now, but this can't go one forever, what can I do about this? Any input appreciated! Thanks for listening.

Hey bro i had a friend just like you. He was able to sleep around with a bunch of chicks but when it came to LTR'S it just never worked out. Your alpha quality is to her, as what her physical attractiveness is to you. Lose either and that LTR goes to shit.

Yeah true. If only I could brainwash myself into thinking she's not that special. But then again, I wouldn't get these feelings I have right now which I kind of like. It's bringing something new to it, something adventurous. I know for a fact I'd be a thousand times happier going out with this chick than one of those I slept around with. In the end it's always the same: I'm not THAT interested, which conveys my dominance even more and they fall for you even harder. Problem is this never works with the real good ones. And I'm not talking about comparing HB10's to HB7's or something. Just the total package. Man, objectively speaking the one I got this for is like a HB8 but I've slept with HB10's, like freakin' bikini models, dudes giving me high 5's all over the place for that shit, but these just didn't do that to me.

The main issue is that you stop doing what you're doing well. I don't get oneitis anymore because I changed my mind about women. I used to be happy when I got that hot one and just slip back into the "nice guy" role... this is the one and she needs to be treated like a princess. NO! You need to always act like a man. These are the subtle forces that attract women in the first place. When I met my current GF I was dating seven women. She knew all about this. Lol, I told her. My mindset was that of abundance. I dropped the other seven when I decided that she was a good fit for me. I never dropped the attitude. I cant help it, women love me. I still remind her that she was the special one that was chosen...extremely seductive to her and doesnt let her forget that Im a man.

Every woman is replaceable... PERIOD! Once you take on this mindset you'll never get oneitis again.


listen to Lil Wayne Comfortable to get a feel for the attitude.

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My personal mantra:

"Every woman's a whore in the right situation"
"They're all selling it for something"
"She's sluttier than you think she is"

You get stuck one girl, because you put too much value on her.

But how did you decide she was a good fit for you? Isn't it harder for you to act like that when you know she's kind of special? Because admit it, otherwise you wouldn't have chosen her out of 8 women.

So is there just more acting involved when they excite you more?

True. But she actually is more valuable. It's not that every woman is the same out there, some get you excited more than others (you could screw)

It came down to our first look and her character. Its hard to explain if you havent been in a position of abundance. Its different friend. Learning from the PUA community is the only thing that helped switch my mindset. She compliments my life with little drama. She was receptive when I told her I would respect her but in no way shape or form be monogamous. She had a strong positive influence from her father. She respects other people...shes a good person. Not to mention she loves my cock like a fat kid loves cake.
No, not at all. Thats my point actually. Its a mindset. Shes not special in the sense she totally replacable. I know I can go get many more women if she brings drama into my life or stopped making feel the way I do about her. I know shes a great fit for me... but about every 8 months I find a woman that is. I can bang as many women as I want until I find the next if thats the case.
Friend, there is a huge difference between finding someone compatible with you and putting pussy on a pedestal. When you put women up that high you are giving them value that they dont deserve and will lower yourself. You're stuck in your own and the worlds disney paradigm. I stopped believing the hype of "the one" and "happily ever after" and my oneitits stopped. Im just trying to explain that there is a way.
Acting? No. I feel more alive, truthful, and happy than ever. My current GF knows more about the real me than anyone. Because Im being me. I was lying to myself when I thought that the Disney story was true. When I stopped lying to myself I felt better.


Im going to quote Jay from the Jay and Silent Bob movies here, "There's just one bitch in the world, one bitch, many faces."

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My personal mantra:

"Every woman's a whore in the right situation"
"They're all selling it for something"
"She's sluttier than you think she is"

That was a very insightful post Mr Breeze and I think I grasp what you're saying. It's kind of the same with your story, got one that's really compatible with my personality and life, and you meet these every 8 months or so. But idk just the fact they don't come around that often makes me think she's a bit special. Of course I'm not giving her value she doesn't deserve, I just appreciate her value in my life (or could be if she'd be my girl). I think I'm just in a point of my life where being in relationship gets more and more appealing. It's all been fun and it's still fun, but it's not that special anymore, I'm kind of missing that deep connection you know. Sometimes you wish for something different, like taking long walks on the beach and that shit. This just doesn't feel good with girls I have no trouble with getting laid. She's making me work for it, and I love the challenge, that's why I like her more than the others. She's pulling some heavy PUA shit on me that's for sure. But I can't help thinking maybe she's the last one I can get these feelings with, and I'd have to settle down with a girl I don't dig that much.

The heart of a player is cold. She has to earn your trust and your love before you get attached. Okay playa?

Gonna keep that in mind bro

I'll start by saying that this advice is only relevant for some people - those who can be friends with women or interact with women and don't develop easy feelings don't need to heed the advice.

However, in squeelpiggy's situation, I think the best thing to do is simply not to spend too much time with any one particular woman unless you're fucking her. And even then, if you aren't wanting a relationship, keep it to fucking and not a lot else. If you see a girl once a fortnight and only have a brief chat, you're not going to start having overly strong feelings for her. If, however, you're spending lots of time with her then you are far more likely to do so.