Bit of background on this girl...

Met her at the end of last year, friend of my roommate's FB. We hang out, make out on NYE, she gets blacked out that night and nothing happens. We go out more, she sleeps over, we fool around (fingering etc...) but no sex because either I'm too drunk or she is too drunk. This goes on for a couple of months. She gets distant out of nowhere, tells me she is getting back with her ex. I tell her good luck and to hit me up if she is looking for fun.

Fast forward to this summer, she contacts me out of nowhere with some bullshit how have you been blah blah blah... We all hang out one night at a bar, it is her friend, me and her sitting at the bar. My roommate was also there working (DJ). I have a good night that night, plenty of girls I know come up to say hi and flirt with me. It was obvious this girl was getting jealous. She goes home that night. She comes out on my roommate's boat with her friend a couple days later, we all drink quite a bit, she tells me she would never say no to me. We go back to my house, start fooling around again, then she tells me she has to go. I am just thinking WTF.

Couple days after that she goes on vacation to Vegas with her friend. The whole time she is there she is texting me and saying she wishes I was there. I was on a little vacation myself so I didn't really want to talk much. She gets back and we hangout that weekend, just me and her this time. She meets up with some of her friends, introduces me, we drink for a while and then go back to my house. I put some moves on her in bed and then she tells me she has her period. Another WTF moment for me.

Then she goes on another vacation with her family and is again texting me the whole time. Telling me she misses me, wants me to download some movies to watch together, etc... I up the sexual tension when flirting and she says I better live up to the hype, so at this point I think its a done deal. She gets home from that vacation and I try to get her to hang out but it's like pulling teeth. She is either busy doing something else or just says she can't. Sometimes she will try to set up another time, but I am pretty busy during the week and can't stay out late since I have work in the morning. She tried to get me to go out on a Thursday night with her and her friend (my roommate's FB), but I tell her to just come over afterwards. She doesn't, but her friend comes over for my roommate. Earlier this week I invite her to play on my kickball team, since her friend was playing too. She said she couldn't but would let me know if she could hang out afterwards. Never heard back from her, so I told myself to forget it and move on. The next night, after not talking since, she texted me "how was kickball". I am short with her and I guess she could tell because she asked me why I was crabby. I ignore that and steer the conversation towards us hanging out.

She tells me she can't this Friday because she is having her friend over for a fire and wine drinking, along with other "girly shit". She tells me I can come over too if I want, but I decline. She says next Friday, and I tell her we can schedule something for the third Friday in October as a joke. I mean it shouldn't be this hard to hang out with someone, especially given all the signs I've gotten through text message. Anything else I can do?

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Wow, 96 you usually have this shit locked up?

I would run the "I am divorcing you." routine on her.

That should at least break through the flake, and get back to come over.

Next time make sure there is some porn in that DVD selection.

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Yeah, I don't know whats going on here...

I sorta went the way of the divorce routine, or I should say she did. I kept the scheduling for the future thing going, saying that I was available for the first Monday in October, and then said I was booked through December and we should try for next year. She then said we were fighting, and I asked her for how long. She is very responsive to the flirting...

Didn't talk to her today until she texted me asking how kickball was. Was pretty short with her again, and then she sent this...



So I think she wants to hook up, we just can't sync up schedule wise. She asked me to go to the movies tonight, but she knows I have kickball. After she asked me how it was, she said that the movies would have been better. Then she listed off some movies she wanted to see.

Gonna see if the girls want to have a fire at my house tomorrow night, that should do the trick.

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Alright, so I figured I'd update this...

I ended up going to her house that Friday night, her friend was there and we were going to have a fire. It started raining so we went inside to drink/play some games. Had a good time, we get tired, me and this girl are cuddling under a blanket on one couch while her friend falls asleep on another. She tells me I can sleep over, and I tell her I am sleeping in her bed. She agrees and goes to her room. I figure this is good, its on! Crawl into her bed, here comes her dog. Her dog jumps up and lays right between us (decent sized Pitbull-mix). I figure if she wanted something to happen, she would kick the dog off. That didn't happen... So I sleep over and leave the next morning.

That next night her friend is hanging out at the bar with my friend and I, she said she thought for sure I was getting laid. I told her how the dog cock-blocked me, and she said I should have just thrown the dog off the bed. Not my dog, can't do that. She said this girl hasn't had sex with anyone besides her ex in 3 years, and her ex was long-distance so I think it has been a while. She broke up with her ex probably a month ago, but I don't ask questions about him.

So I am thinking this is too much work for one girl, and decide to ease off texting her. Her friend invites her over to my house that Monday night for a fire, so she comes over. She is crabby, so I ask her whats wrong and she says she hates being a female (period time, again ). I tell her I am always getting cockblocked by something, and she tells me I wasn't getting any at her house that night anyways. I ask why, and she tells me her IUD has been causing her to bleed 3 weeks out of the month. She tells me she is going to the doctors that Wednesday to get it removed.

She texts me that she got it taken out and is excited, so I say we should celebrate. We go to the movies on Friday, go back to my house and finally have sex. Wasn't my best showing, but she seemed to enjoy it. We hang out again on Sunday, we go on my roommate's boat all day. Loooong day of drinking/sun, and she stays a bit after we get back to my house. I tried pushing towards sex again, but she was rejecting all my advancements. She claims she wasn't feeling good, so she leaves.

She texts me when she gets home...
Her: Thanks for dinner!!! (We docked the boat and got dinner with everyone else on the boat)
Me: Yup
Her: Don't yup me jerk
Me: Haha whoa
Her:

The next morning she again says that she felt sick all night and blames it on the sun/not drinking water. I change the subject and end the texting early. She still initiates most of the texting, so I think she was telling the truth about not feeling well. The whole day on the boat she was giving me good vibes, laying on me and being very hands on. She even laid stomach down with her head on my crotch and some kids I knew on the boat next to us were laughing at her. She said she didn't care and stayed put. I liked the confidence.

We are all supposed to go to dinner tomorrow night for her friend's (my roommate's FB) birthday. If she rejects my advances then, I might have to reconsider this girl.

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It's just a matter of time before she crumbles. She's holding out, be patient she's likely looking for a LTR sort of deal, in which case patience is paramount - its what sets apart the men (who can restrain themselves for larger future gains) from the boys (who have poor impulse control and make stupid decisions based on short-term gain). Not to mention when you win the girl over in such a circumstance it not only stands to build a great deal of excitement but is also more satisfying.

It'll happen. Maintain course.

n2thevoid, we had sex on Friday. But then on Sunday she said she didn't feel well and went home...

I'm about to forget about this girl. We went out last night for her friend's birthday, dinner and then drinks. We get back to my house and she tells me she has to go home. I tell her to pick a movie out, she picks a random one and crawls into my bed. We start messing around, then when things start to get serious she gets up and says she has to go. I grab her and pull her back into bed, we start messing around again, and then she does the same thing. This time she flashes her ass at me (wearing a sexy short skirt) and tries to walk off, I grab her again and try once more. She gets up a final time and says she really has to go. I just lay there in somewhat disbelief, she sits back down and asks me if I wants her to make me some food she made before for when we go out on my roommate's boat this coming Sunday. I walk her out, grabbing her ass as one last ditch effort. Didn't work.

This is where I may have messed up, but I was a little drunk and blue balls was setting in. I text her...

Me: Come back lets have some fun
Her: Mmm want to
Me: Hmm not sure if I believe that
Her: Whateve

So I go to bed without responding, actually woke up this morning and told myself its not worth it at this point. She just texted me a picture of a penis cake mold for a cake she is making for a bachelorette party, and I'm not sure if I want to respond...

Can I get some insight on why I am getting this LMR? How can I work this to get her to have sex with me again? I've never had this problem before... Does she not like sex? Feel like a slut? We are both adults (I'm 25, she is almost 28), I think we are mature enough to have sex now...

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I wouldn't cross her off your list just yet 96. She fucked you ...she will again.

It may have been a whole slew of shit going through her tiny little head at that time. Over thinking as you well know can put the worlds heaviest wet blanket on a sexual frame.

Like.

What if I get preggers?
What if he thinks I'm this easy EVERY-TIME!
My tummy feels wrong what if I fart, or OMFG shit on him?
I'm about to start my rag, who the fuck knows what I'm thinking, I sure as fuck don't.

The little 'skirt flirt' teaser says do me, but a little chunk of gray matter was telling HER, at a later time.

I'm not saying stop sarging, not at all.

I just wouldn't cross her off just yet.

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Heywood, I can see the being the case if it happened once, but twice? Why would she even jump into my bed if she didn't want anything to happen?

Probably won't be hanging out with her this weekend until Sunday when we go on the boat. She hasn't been very responsive through texting lately, today she said she was crabby. Was gonna see if she wanted to hang tonight but I don't want a crabby person bringing my Friday down!

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She is trying to get you to React emotionally. viying for sympathy. Heard the saying, “don’t react… but adapt”? This is very true, you should never react emotionally.
Tell just what you were thinking.

Tell her "That sux, I was gonna see if you wanted to hang tonight but I don't want a crabby person bringing my Friday down!"
How much escalating was there prior? I would use some push pull shit on her til she was so fired up she would have no other rational choice but to grind your dick to a stub.

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With everything given I'd bet on the issue of her looking for more than just fucking. She gave you that fuck to keep you around,as it was on it's way downhill at that point. If she gives you more she's afraid that's all it'll turn into. If she didn't have sex for a bit after her break up you can consider that sex is not as important for her. She's showing romantic interest but has issues with sex specifically. It's all the unnecessary overthinking the female mind goes through. If you're trying to just fuck her, I'd start looking elsewhere. She might be too much work for not too much payoff, and she might give you another fuck once she sees the diminished interest.

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I'll give a little update and ask for some advice...

So Friday and Saturday we don't really talk much, she asked me on Saturday what time we were going out on the boat, but I was at a concert so I texted her back like 5 hours later and she just responded with "K". Her friend (my roommate's FB) came to the concert too, and got drunk. She told me I should just stop talking to this girl and that I'm too good for her. I think they were fighting at the time, you know how girls are with that bullshit. Her friend also said this girl's ex has been talking to her again, and that he said something like they should just get engaged so they stop breaking up. That gave me a good laugh.

I know I have no chance against an ex, especially with all the emotional bullshit that goes along with it. I am ok with being a rebound, but I feel I can get a few more bang sessions out of this. She came out on the boat yesterday and her and her friend were friends again, go figure. I was a little distant with her at first, and she asked me if I was crabby. I just told her I was tired. Later on, when I was drunk, I got out of the water, went to the sundeck on the boat and just laid on her. She was pissed I got her wet but let me lay there, then laid on me. On our way back to the dock, I laid down in the cuddy cabin and she came down and laid on me. Then we get back to my place and she says she has to go, so I just say ok have fun and go inside. We haven't talked since.

So, is there any way to get it in again, or do you think the rebound has run its course? We text using the "SPAM" app, which says when they were last on. Since I am the only person she texts using that, I know that she has looked at it at least twice since leaving my house yesterday. I don't get why she would be all over me if she is looking to get back with her ex, who she was even texting while laying on me haha. We are having a cookout at my house tonight, but I'm not sure if I should invite her. Whats my next step here?

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Invite her, BUT make your intentions clear as a bell. "We are going to have sex later!" if she shows up, follow through with your promise.

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She couldn't make it to the cookout. But I drunkenly texted her that night asking when are we hanging out again, she said, "Never!" I responded with, "What a shame" and then she said she was just kidding and that she didn't know but she hoped soon. I said "Friday", and she said she was getting dinner with a girl friend but she would let me know about after. I cut the conversation short and went to sleep, then she texted me the next day asking how my cookout went.

So she is still text me, but not a good thing that she didn't reciprocate another time to hang out. I dunno, just seems to me the interest is fading which is why I have backed off texting for now. We'll see...

Hmm, she just texted me again just now... Let's see how many times in a row I can get her to initiate the conversation!

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