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PostPosted: Tue Aug 20, 2013 3:45 am 
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Ive been dating a girl for a few months having sex everyday personalities cliicked very well. It went perfext from pick up to lay and out of the blue things went south. I started to act pretty aggresive trying to wim her back. (Texting too muxh being to clingy) the last couple weeks i toned it down xhanged my appearance and it started wotking ( she was having friends text me when i wouldnt respond when she knew she was going to see me she dolled up) until i saw her. I told her how much i want to be with her and apologized and it freaked her out big time. I knew i should have kept on playing with her but i screwed up. What do i do from here and can it be saved? The last conversation was awkward immediately after i freaked and she probably wont text or call first. I also see her and her roomate frequently and will be forced to see her the next few weeks and months.


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Ive been dating a girl for a few months having sex everyday personalities cliicked very well. It went perfext from pick up to lay and out of the blue things went south. I started to act pretty aggresive trying to wim her back. (Texting too muxh being to clingy) the last couple weeks i toned it down xhanged my appearance and it started wotking ( she was having friends text me when i wouldnt respond when she knew she was going to see me she dolled up) until i saw her. I told her how much i want to be with her and apologized and it freaked her out big time. I knew i should have kept on playing with her but i screwed up. What do i do from here and can it be saved? The last conversation was awkward immediately after i freaked and she probably wont text or call first. I also see her and her roomate frequently and will be forced to see her the next few weeks and months.

Hey mate I'd say your best plan right now would be freeze out. I was in this exact situation before things were awesome then they went bad without warning. I wasn't needy, but I wanted to know what the problem was and tried to hard to find out and fix it. She took that the wrong way so I froze her out no contact at all then she texted me wanting to hang out. If you're certain she won't txt you I'd say freeze out for a while then if you want to talk to her try and do in person when you see her out and around, but for now just play it cool.


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PostPosted: Tue Aug 20, 2013 4:26 am 
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This is more of a relationship question than a pickup question. Did you guys break up? The fact that her friends are texting you is a very bad sign. It sounds like she broke up with you, although no official word has been said.

+1 on the freeze out. Right now, the frame you are conveying is that you are a low-value male seeking validation. High value males don't chase girls, and don't get phased by things easily. I'm not sure how familiar you are with pickup, but you should never chase, but rather, tempt her to chase you. I would just sarge to get her out of your mind. In fact, it would be in your favor is if she somehow knew that you are meeting girls left and right (not directly telling her, but maybe her friends or via facebook). "The fear of loss is a greater motivator than the anticipation of gain." You must convey this so she starts chasing you back


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PostPosted: Tue Aug 20, 2013 5:33 am 
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I broke up with her bc she was acting too strange and i noticed how i started acting was making it worse...Her roomate is a mutal friend and we talk all the time. Ive known her longer then the girl and i am new at this


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PostPosted: Tue Aug 20, 2013 3:24 pm 
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If it's over it's over. Move on. If it was meant to be, you'll bump into her again. Learn from your mistakes for your future relationships


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PostPosted: Tue Aug 20, 2013 5:03 pm 
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Thanks dude. Already had 2 rebounds but still cant shake this one girl off my mind


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PostPosted: Tue Aug 20, 2013 8:38 pm 
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that's because you believe she is "the one" for you. Once you ignore the infatuation, and notice the faults about her, and accept them you'll see she's just...well, another girl. This whole idea she is the one for you is build up by your infatuation of her, and might have even caused her to leave you because you were trying to tell her she was something she was not, and that might have driven her apart from you. Relationships built on infatuation don't last because of this, you are building too much inside your mind of who she is, and maybe she felt she wasn't that person or thought you were being lame, hence the end result.


and you've dug yourself into a bad spot, you should have given yourself a month or so of no contact, then slightly ease her up on seeing you, don't ever confess how you feel because it demonstrates your needyness, attraction isn't build that way, plus women don't respond to logic even if you'd be very good for her, she's responding to how she feels about you..


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