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how do you identify those cracks? for instance i met a girl who refused to give me her number to another dude coz she promised her boyfriend she will never do so....that is obviously very needy..i used the community's advice and tried to covertly make him look needy but it did not work..all i am thinking is this boyfriend destroyers only work on paper...
When she complains about something in the relationship, be it overtly or a bit more subtle, those are cracks. She is discontent in such a way, that she is thinking about or has thought about perhaps changing the situation. A girl saying: i will never give my number because i promised my boyfriend is not a crack. Its not a complaint.
I can give an example:
Last year, there was this quite attractive girl at work. She is still in a serious relationship. At work, we lunchdated quite often and we talked. She is very sexual and every once and a while she would say stuff like: "yeah, but mine is quite jealous, he can go out alone, i can't or i am in trouble. So if i go out, i am always with him. its always the same, even in bed." Stuff like that. Openly, just like that. Now that is complaining, that is a crack. they live together and this doesn't mean she wants to leave him as he is a good provider. But it does mean that she is open for adventure...
That is a crack in a relationship you can exploit. I haven't met a lot of women who will openly show the wrinkles in their relationship in the first few minutes. Its only when you connect to her, and she trusts you at a certain point, that she will complain.
Again, this is not a fool proof! The idea behind boyfriend destroying is legit, but you should see the 'patterns' as examples, because no two relationships are the same.
hope it helped!