ok, so we started dating about 3 months ago, and official 2.5 months ago. things have been going awesome, i liked this girl from the start. we have been spending more and more time together. she was away for about a week and ended up talking to me every day and even said she loves me in one text. when she came back a week ago it never came up until a few days ago when we said love you to each other. we spend the last 4 days together until two days ago and then yesterday i went over for a casual visit in the late afternoon. she was acting kind of strange but today she messaged me to apologize for acting strange and that today she's fine.

then she sent me a message saying that she "thinks we're moving kind of fast and that she feels like she needs some her time".

this message totally surprised me, i don't know what to think at this point. i mean i love this girl and i know she loves me by how she acts when were together. i think i may just be overthinking this and that she actually just wants a few days a week when she has her own time.

when i came over last night she was busy cleaning and we didn't "hang out" much but i was ok with that. i felt like i kind of overdid it with visiting yesterday. she has about the same social life as me, we don't go out much with other people, don't party very often, when we're not together we're usually at our own homes.

what do you guys think?

thanks in advance.

Smothering her, let her have time to yourself, you should do the same for yourself. Spending so much time together isn't healthy for anyone, doesn't allow time to miss the other person and provides no opportunity to build (good) tension.

As n2 says.

You had a life before you were up her ass 24/7, resume it.

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You guys are right, I'm not arguing that. I tried my hardest not to smother her. I just found it strange that she would ask for so much affection, tellin me first that she loves me, asking why I'm not talking to her when I didn't message her for one day, wanting to spend entire days together. I am more than happy that she wants to spend so much time together but it surprised me that she would say we are moving too fast only 4 days after telling me she loves me.

Am I looking into this too much? I think we just spent too much time last few days and she wanted to tidy up her place and I didn't give her time to do so.

Hey dude,

At times women can be a pool of emotions running from one emotions to the next without much though. Her period could be approaching, there could be a full moon, or she could of just ate some terrible food. Who knows the what reason behind it is, but what I do know if that right now you are behaving like a woman.

Do you think she is posting on some forum asking what do to about you?

In fact how do you think she would feel if she read this post and knew you wrote it? Whinning about not knowing what to do about your girlfriend?

Well guess what? Character is what we do when no one is watching. She'll be able to feel this in your vibrations . She isn't going anywhere if you aren't afraid to lose her, but if you are.. and it sounds like you are, she'll be out there before you can reply to this.

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The more you push at reaching out to her the more you'll push her away. The less you push, the more she'll come to you. Nothing surprising happens all the time in relationships.

True.

She messaged me this morning saying that's she's sorry for acting weird last night and that she wasn't feeling well and now is better. Her next message was that she thinks we may be moving too fast and that she needs some her time.

I told her I understand that and agree and that's fine.

I hope I said the right thing. She hasn't replied yet and I don't plan on messaging or phoning her.

Is that the right thing to do?

Don't reply or contact her again.. She'll reach out to you in 4 days or less. Once she does, ignore it and just give her a call the next day.

If you try and instantly jump onto her reinitiating contact with you when she does she'll send her spiraling back into the needing space frame of mind.

Honestly dude, she's probably met someone else. But and this is a huge but.. don't let it get to you. Keep thinking forward and she'll be back.

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Yeah I'm definitely not contacting her until she does it. I doubt she met someone else, this is a girl that told me she loves me 4 days ago and is very affectionate.

That's the only reason I'm pulling This move and asking here. I can understand when a girl feels smothered and needs her space, but this came out of NOWHERE. She loves spending time with me, kept saying that all along and always planning on what to do next. I can understand if there were signs and such but notning.