Hey guys, I am currently in a process of asking out a girl from the ice cream parlor I recently found. I want to get a piece of ad advice before I make any move.

I have spoken to her a few times already, she has been quite open/smiling every time we talked. Last time she gave me a special discount when I told her to 'surprise me'. I have no idea whether she has a boyfriend, or whether she would be up for going out with me but I want to take my chances. What approach would u recommend to take? SImply ask her out for a drink or should I take some more elaborate route?

Thx in advance for any tips

I've been in this exact situation mate only the girl worked at a coffee shop. I say don't worry about elaborate routines be yourself be confident and direct. Go in sometime when she's not overly busy so you'll be able to talk a little more once the convo is going well ask her if she would like to get a drink after she's done work. Or something along those lines just be yourself and be confident. Good luck

I agree with Gunfighter, be super confident and direct, and very importantly do NOT give a shit about the outcome; if she agrees great, if not you haven't lost anything.

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This sounds familiar. I found a hb9 in a department store when I was buying some new cologne.
She was tight and super cute. Played my NORMAL fun self (i have pretty good inner game) and before I bailed asked her to grab a coffee. Number closed, and been hanging out with her for about 2 months now.

Here's the thing. She needs to see that you're a fun guy. Show her that, always have a smile on your face when you go and see her. Tell a lame joke if that's your thing. Give her a story about something you've done recently that's interesting.

Be prepared for whatever she says yes or no!!

Go get her tiger!

Mixar

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Thanks foryour comments guys, quite uplifting to know it is not a rocket science after all.

Since I am just a noobie in the game just wanted to run by you how I would play it out.

I would start a normal, playful convo, and would ask her to create an ice-vream for me and surprise me. Then I would say sth on the line of "This is great, I guess I must be amongst your favourite customers".

Then I would move on with the conversation and finally say sth like "I feel I should do sth positive now to even the odds a little bit Let me take you out for a drink some time this week/weekend, after you finish work. Nothing binding, you just seem like a great girl to hang out with and i think we can have a fun evening together".

In the punchline i want to say 'Let me take you out' just to sound more confident and I wanted to add the last sentence to show I am not desperate. What do you guys think?

No offense pukie but that is absolutely awful, on several levels. Throw it on the rubbish pile.

Regardless of how goofy or funny you act around her, once you ask her out you need to make it seem like you are serious, but in more of a matter of fact sort of way. That way it displays confidence.

If you want to go direct and ask her out on a date, that's up to you, but you might be able to just number close her. But whatever you do, don't do what you said in the post previously.

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Everyone so far seemed to say I should be direct in asking her out... How would you play it then?

Should I just say 'you seema lot of fun, would you like to grab a drink after work'?

Noobz always get that part wrong. You don't ask. You state.

"Hey, you should come with me to (such and such) tomorrow night."
"You know what, you're actually really cool, we should go out on friday night."

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Sorry for being the noob, but everyone has to start somewhere right ?

SO just to close this thread, should I do a simple, playful conversation, perhaps tease her a little bit, and then simply state the fact and see what happens? and if she says no, or sth like "I need to think about it", I should just be cool and forget about it right?

YThx again for your prompt replies

I don't know what type of rapport you two have so it's up to you how you play it. Maybe ask her what she does for fun when she's not making icecream. Then ask her if she likes movies (because who doesn't?). When she says she does, say "You should come see Elysium with me on Friday." If she says she's busy, then ask "What day are you not busy?" That forces her to commit to some sort of answer that she knows will paint her into a corner and force her to reveal her availability for a date. If she starts bullshitting or declines, be like "What, you don't go out with customer's or something?"

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This is really...sweet. I've often heard it advised that you should look at a girl and think about fucking her while talking to her, and that this will come across in how you act/what you say. This would seem like a good antidote to how NICE you're being here. This will work if she's as sweet and innocent as you and shows you NO RESISTANCE WHATSOEVER.

Another thing - don't bother pre-scripting what you say. I'd say the most you should allow yourself is if you think of a good line while you're around her that sticks in your mind, spit it out during that meeting. But planning out what you'll say before a meeting has even happened, that's just a recipe for getting stuck in your head and not responding to what the situation brings.

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I gathered my cofidence and asked her out today. She said 'sadly she. Cant go as she's goinng out withher boyfriend'. I trust that this was a honest opinion,so at least she had a legitimate reason. Also, maybe soon she wont have a boyfriend...

Good on you for gathering the courage and confidence to talk to her dude! Not much you can do if she has a boyfriend (and she's faithful) but was worth a shot.

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Yeah i know, not much to do really... Still hurts a bit though. I guess indifference will come in time

Don't let it hurt you at all. She has a boyfriend, it's not a personal reflection on anything about you.

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