location: US (current - SF, (CA|MN), origin - India)
age: 27

goals: get laid w/o paying, w/o making girl drunk

Hi guys,

Background:
Its like I feel like 27 yo virgin. Last action was when I was 15 yr old when somebody slept with me by mistake. After that pushed to studies and buried in books (needed scholarship to goto gr8 school/college, otherwise couldn't) and became a really smart ass who tops the class. Was really shy in school and undergrad U was nearly all boys U (3 girls in class of 60 boys). Migrated here for grad school with funding and here too topping U. I can talk to girls now but only known to me or introduce by somebody but all nice guy talks. Not confident to talk to known girls beyond 'Hi/Bye/nice guy talks' . Can't talk to unknown girls beyond fake smile.

I am starting step by step, went for the first time to a dance club last weekend. Said "Hi" to three unknown girls, eventhough took nearly 3 hours to get strength to say to first but got confident enough to say to next two in 30 min (felt gr8 that they are not alien). Couldn't talk much and felt silly in front of them, brain froze and talked nonsense. Felt victorious and left for home.

Will be looking for guidance here and will update with each step to improvement.

bye/tc

G'day mate,

I'm new to PUA as well, I feel for you about not getting an action for ages, most of mine have just been lucky but I need to refine my talents. The first thing I'm trying is the "3 Second rule" that Mystery told Style in his book "The Game". Short story, you have 3 seconds from thinking about approaching, to approaching, any longer and you'll think too much (which I will in 2 seconds lol), you'll freak yourself out, you'll come off as creepy or all of the above.

Good luck with it all buddy!

3 seconds rule is a great advice. I wouldn't have wasted time and freaked out, if followed this. Next time will try to stick to this.

Thanks mate,

I can kind of relate to this, although I guess I started out with a little more experience under my belt (hahaha, didn't even realize the pun at first). Three key things to help you in your transformation from stereotypical nice guy to smooth womanizer:
1) Women want sex.
2) Women are as shallow as men when it comes to attraction. Shape up physically, wear stylish clothes that fit, and improve your posture (weak back muscles are often responsible for this). Basically, emulate the looks of a movie star and get laid like one. You will also project more confidence if you look and feel good (for the latter, I can also recommend vitamin supplements).
3) Don't let your past rule your future. Recognize rejection and disinterest for what they are, deal with it, and move on. There are three billion other fish in the sea.

_________________
One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

welcome and good luck!