I am really playful and touchy feely type of guy. I messed around and poke fun at girls. A lot of the time I'm an asshole, but I balance it out being physically affectionate and playful. Basically I treat chicks like a bratty but cute little sister.

My concern is by being playful with chicks I am giving them too much attention and value, which might prevent me from scoring. Should I be more aloof, and not give a shit about making chicks feel good?

Does the indifferent or the playfully interested approach work better?

Balance...show her that you don't care, then when she approaches you, show affection.

This is perfect

Balance...show her that you don't care, then when she approaches you, show affection.

Your two techniques (aloof and interested) work together with two things in mind: unpredictability and the takeaway.

Say, you're playful and touchy feely for 5 straight days. By the 6th and 7th days, you become aloof or you disappear for 10 days. Once you disappear or become aloof, girls will now realize what they have been missing which will shoot up your value. The next time you're around these girls, they will make sure to treat you well.

That's how you score. If you keep things at an even keel, your battleship will never get to enter any girl's hairy (or bald) harbor. You need to rattle your cruise passengers every now and then to keep the thrill and libido high. That's how my destroyer ravages wet harbor beavers. Hope it works well for you.

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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neediness, attachment, clinginess

^ things you demonstrate when something is utterly important to you and it's a life or death situation

indifference

^ what you demonstrate when the situation is no big deal

you can do either or and find a way since it's how well you connect with the person in front of you and your ability to lead the situation more and more down an escalating path, but I like the idea of showing interest, complete and utter interest so much so that it might even be a little over the top, but the thing is, it's no big deal and it is almost never serious in a way that puts pressure on someone, it's just having fun and flirting for the fun of flirting, not because it's life or death or because you want something, just because it's fun in it's self and rejection or acceptance, still going to flirt as long is it's fun to keep doing so and not making people feel terrible

the real important thing here is to realize that you can be needy while not showing interest, and you can be indifferent while showing interest, indifference does not come from a lack of showing interest, having that persons approval being important to you, will make you needy, cause you need that approval, irrelevant to whether or not you keep your interest hidden, it's are you desperate for a yes or desperate to not get a no or can you take it or leave it and it's all in fun and it won't really matter to you either way, no biggie

BOTH. Give hot and cold or push-pull.

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