So I broke up with a girl a few months back.

Tried to get back with her just over a month ago, as I realized it was a mistake to end it with her. Almost did, but ultimately came off a little too needy.

She said maybe we should not talk for a while.

I told her alright, and she could contact me when she wanted to talk again.

After that she posted on my Facebook wall repeatedly. She started dating another guy as well. I didn't contact her for a month, but whenever she'd say something to me, I'd respond politely.

About a week ago, I messaged her saying hi, and that I didn't want to lose contact entirely.

She told me she was just talking about me with her best friend, and when I asked why, she said that she'd call me as soon as she left her friends to tell me. She called about 30 minutes later, and didn't talk about anything important. She seemed nervous. It seemed like an excuse to call me.

A few days after that, I was on a date on Monday, and posted on FB (status update, not a message to her) asking about where karaoke places were open on Monday. She responded, saying the only place was close to her (she lives about 30 minutes away, so that's not likely).

I didn't respond.

Then, today, she messages me and wishes me a "happy friday".

So like - is she just trying to make friends again? Keep me on the line in case the situation with her current guy doesn't work out? Or does it sound like she might be trying to see if there's something there between us still?

Bump

I messaged her again once on Facebook, she responded immediately, but then I was busy at work and couldn't respond for hours - she didn't respond to my last response. That was on Tuesday. She's liked a few things I've posted since then (she typically likes about 1/3 to 1/2 of my posts, which to me could either be read as, "Awww, I want to be nice to you!" or "Give me a reason to like you again").

She hasn't messaged me at all since then. My guess is that she's not interested, or that she wanted me to try to meet up with her.

I can't decide whether to suggest plans or to not contact her at all.

If she messages you back great, if not oh well. Don't worry about her liking posts this doesn't mean anything. Don't keep messaging her if she doesn't reply and I wouldn't ask her to meet up. She knows you want to keep in contact if she wants to also she will make an effort.

Oh no, she's typically pretty responsive. She doesn't typically initiate private messages (only the once) but she posts on a lot of stuff I post on Facebook (in addition to the likes). Way more than I do on her stuff.

I've only sent her two PMs uninitiated, one got a forty minute call in response, the other she responded to, but I didn't respond for 8 hours, and she never responded again. That's it for the past month and a half, though both have been in the last two and a half weeks.

I'll respond typically if she posts on my wall. I've written on her wall once (that was today). So I'm trying to keep a presence, but not make myself always available.

You think inviting her out is a bad idea? She lives about 30 minutes away and I am going to be in her town all this week.

i had a similar situation an ex i was still sleeping with suddenly said the dreaded 'lets just be friends' so i said fine but didnt really wanna keep her around. in my mind if im not getting anything out of it why keep her around. anyway not long later she tells me shes got a boyfriend so i was like fine whatever, so i decided to cut her off completely within 2 weeks she went off on one going sending me messages like 'are you ignoring me?' when i told her why she got real pissed off. i still see her now and again but i generally just ignore her or walk past her, this may sound petty but i havent got anything to say to her

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Well, I was the one that ended it with her. For a dumb reason. I even told her to go date other people. We've never hung out in a non-romantic way - the second to last time we saw each other, she wanted me to fuck her, but I only fingered her, and the last time, we still made out, but she rejected me because I think she felt I wasn't committed. Both times she was already seeing this guy, but only casually (though the last time they were getting pretty close to serious).

Then I got needy for a couple days, and she said maybe we shouldn't talk for a bit. So I didn't talk to her for a month, just completely cut communication (besides responding when she posted on my FB wall), talked to her after a month, and got a phone call immediately. I just can't decide if it was a, "Well, if you want to try to get another shot, I might be open to it" or just a harem maintenance call.