I think that if I can improve my social skills to be average socially, I think I can be very good with woman. I consider myself a very good looking man and have a good body. I do attract good looking woman from my looks and the way I dress, but I struggle with the social aspect of it, I feel that a girl sees me and is instantly attracted to me, but when I interact with them they lose attraction towards me instantly. I feel like girls expect me to be this confident kid, because I dress confidently and am well groomed, but when they get to know my personality they feel like my personality does not meet my initial appearance. I have a extremely good confidence level in my looks but a low level of confidence in my social interaction and that is what brings me down.

I am good with people I know, I am moderately interesting and funny with people I know but I would be considered boring to a person that I don't know and just met, Some people might think I am intimidated by the good looking girls, but I am not. I am not ever intimidated by a girls physical appearance. I would have the same exact conversation with a hot girl and an ugly fat girl. When in a conversation, I often give one sentence answers. I don't elaborate on things. I have trouble describing things. I am not funny with new people. I am not charismatic. I just have boring conversations with people (Where you from, Where do you work? etc) I am awkward. When a girl stares at me basically inviting me to talk to her, I get nervous not because I wonder if she wants me or not, but because I don't want to go over there, start talking with her, and have the conversation be awkward and boring. I feel awkward asking for a girls number even if I know she wants me. I always rather attempt to make out with a girl than to ask for her number. And I usually always only get a girls number if I make out with her, because for me making out with someone makes me feel comfortable with her. I am deathly afraid of first dates with someone I just met because I think it'll be awkward. If there is a girl I dont know and one of my guy friends in a room with me and my friend goes to the bathroom (and its just me and a girl in a room), I get real tense. I have great success with girls by going onto the dance floor, using my looks by asking them to dance, and then I hook up with them. Once I hook up with them, I am totally relaxed and myself.

So how do I improve this? How do I improve on my social skills? How do I improve my humor in conversations? It sucks how a girl always expects the guy to initiate things socially, but its the Gods honest truth. I need to improve myself. Are there any good books to read or any suggestions? Thank you I really appreciate you guys taking the time to help me out.

You are 150% correct my man. You wanna know how to improve your social skills? Not by reading a bunch of books. It's by getting out of your fucking house and actually using them. Make it a habit to go out and just talk to people atleast 30-45 minutes a day and just keep improving your interactions. Pay attention to where you start to weird people out.

I'm good at this. It might be a personality thing but I will talk about whatever comes to mind. Sometimes that's stuff other people wouldn't talk about. I basically don't have much of a filter. I don't insult people... unless we're good friends and I don't do this at work but if I'm thinking about stds I talk about those. If it's the movies I talk about that and usually I start with questions like you. How was your day. People like to talk about themselves.

I'm good at this. It might be a personality thing but I will talk about whatever comes to mind. Sometimes that's stuff other people wouldn't talk about. I basically don't have much of a filter. I don't insult people... unless we're good friends and I don't do this at work but if I'm thinking about stds I talk about those. If it's the movies I talk about that and usually I start with questions like you. How was your day. People like to talk about themselves.

Read a book about small talk. That's how I improved my conversational skills, so you'll not end up in interview style. There are plenty of books out there. The Fine Art of Small Talk by Debra Fine should be good enough. But don't get into an habit of being a theorist. Read a book or two and then get out there and get infield experience.

No books are going to substitute real life experience. Go out and put yourself in social situations. Practice and collect social feedback...with those feedback work on calibrating next time. Calibration is the ultimate key to socials kills mastery.

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