Sooo.. as the topic reads, it's about my sisters best friend. We started talking at a party last weekend and really hit it off. We talked for almost 4 hours and then I followed her home holding her and hugging her goodbye. Out of respect for my sister I did not kiss-close. The day after I added her on Facebook and we started talking. But we also started talking about how it would affect our relationship with my sister and how she might not be ok with it.

We had longer conversations on Facebook sunday, monday and tuesday. On tuesday I told my sister about it and that I would not do anything unless she was ok with it. On tuesday-night my sister and her friend went to a party and her friend talked to my sister about it. My sister was ok with it and I talked with her wednesday (today) and she told me that her friend really seemed intrested in me, it was not just a drunk conversation at the part. The thing is, the friend still seems a bit nervous about the fact that it's her best friends brother..

My question is, how do I proceed from here? Should I just ask her out for a movie or something? Should I play it cool and stay on Facebook for a bit longer? How do I know if she is intrested in even meeting me? She replies to questions and asks me stuff too. But what to do guys?

P.S It's not a girl I just want to meet and have sex with. I really want to try the serious thing!

Regards, Linus

Ask her out for something casual. She told your sister that shes into you, but she tells you that she still wants to be careful.

So to avoid pushing her away too much, just make it sound casual.

Exactly. If you like this girl you shouldn't not go out with her just because she's your sisters friend. Just be respectful and play it cool and casual then see where it goes from there if its not gonna work break it off on good terms so there's no awkward feelings with her and your sister.

I would play it cool. keep talking to her on facebook let her show incentive in you guys hooking up.

Don't make it hurry. Just go smoothly for some couple of days. Then ask her for next thing.

So.. update!

They went to Greece for vacation, my sister, the girl i'm intrested in and their friends. They will be gone until Friday. She told me she was in to me right before she left (we have not met since the pary due to work and such, but she is really keen on getting to know me and so on..

I will try to ask her out when she comes home but I want to keep the same sexual tention that we had at the party, holding hands etc.. The problem is, I study in a city 4 hours away (We already talked about the risk of a long-distance lala) but I want to meet her while I'm here. It's my hometown and I currently live with my parents and sister during the summer (I'm 20).

Should it be a coffee to begin with? She has been very emotional and deep when we talk on Facebook and text. I risk being friendzoned If I keep it too casual. But it's not like I can ask her to come to my parents place and make her dinner or something. She still lives at home, finishing school here. Movie? Seems to cliché.. What to do guys? Where can I keep a sexual tention without the risk of it getting awkward and silent?

If you want to get serious with this girl, then she would have to come to your parents house at some point?

What i'd do, is to ask my parents if I could have the house for myself, as i have a date.
Theres a good chance of your parents agreeing to it, depending on your relationship with them.

Best thing to do, is to do it at either your or her house. It allows more freedom. Like making dinner or pancakes with her.