Hey guys!
My name is Justin and im quite new to this whole PUA thing. I read through a lot of threats and books and stuff but right now i need some serious help. Im stuck in a bad situation and i really hope you guys can give me some advice...
Well here is my situation: Several month ago i fell in love with this beautiful girl at work... She is no model or super hot bitch, just a normal 21 year old girl. I have no idea how it happened but i really really do love her and i dont want any other girl. Well... After a lot of thinking i wrote her this love letter. I wrote her all my deep feelings. The thing is, back then she didnt even know me. I mean...not very good. She knew my name and where i work. Today i know that it certainly was not the best idea, to write her this letter, but she gave me a chance!... Of course she was very confused to get a love letter from me! But i tried to get her attention and to get to know her.First we started texting, then we started "dating" and we always had a great time. This whole texting and dating thing is now lasting for about 7 months...And during that time i told her several times that i STILL have those feelings for her and she knew it all the time, that i dont want to be just a friend and that im doing all this just for her and that i want to be her boyfriend. I know almost everything about her and she knows everything about me. We trust each other! Well anyways...The last 3 dates were...really intense i would say. We talked a lot, we touched a lot, every time we talked we were together like really really close. But im honest... I never tried to kiss her or anything. Even though it always seemed like she was waiting for a kiss...And i wanted it too.
Anyways... It felt so good and so right. I was so sure that we are going to be a couple soon.
Well...thats what i thought!... 2 days ago i asked her: " Hey, we are always rexting these kiss smilies ( :-* ) when will you finally give me one of these in real life"
Her answer was: " I thought we where just friends for now"
I was really shocked and one day later we talked about the situation. I said that i am not feeling like we are just friends. And that we should go one step further now. But she said that she really really likes me and she does not want to lose me but her feelings are not strong enaugh for a relationship YET! She said that her feelings might change but she obviously couldnt promise anything. I asked if it would make any sense to keep on hoping and to keep on doing things for and with her. To change her feelings. She had not a real answer for that question (obviously) . But later on she said "maybe everything isnt as bad as you might think"
She also asked me about the kissing thing. Like: "why did you send me a message?" She said "why didnt you just kiss me? I would have been a bit confused if you did, but i would not have rejected you".
After a lot of talking we agreed to keep on doing what be were doing all the time. Texting every day, spending time together and talk to each other just like normal.
I really dont know what to do now... Of course i was really hurt and i know that she never wanted to hurt me that way. But on the other hand i DO KNOW what we had and what we did and that she has or at least HAD feelings for me too. I think she doesnt know what to do either.What would you do ? She is my dreamgirl and i want her so bad... I hope my text is understandable for you guys. Im from Germany so beare with me

so yu guys are really close friends and you want to know what to do? is simple. tell her she either gets on with you and becomes your girlfriend or she either loses you as a friend. if she goes for you great dude. if she gives you more excuses and doesnt you forget about her which is going to be a pain in the ass but youll survive eventually.

Kiss her you dumbass !

^^ that was a little harsh but it's tough love. All you have to do is kiss. Stop being a pussy.

Okay Well thats what i wanted to do all the time. But im just not sure if a kiss will change her feelings... And is it a good idea to kiss her right after our conversation about just "being friends"?

Kiss her dammit, she even invited you to do so, and got upset because your not doing it... do it!! and do it fast!!!!! Kiss her the next time you see her, and make it goooood, dont worry about the rest, just do it

Okay i´ll try! Well i mean... i will kiss her next time we´re on a "date". Im just a little concerned about getting rejected because we just talked about" just being friends for now" blablabla... I dont think she is expecting a kiss now. Which is a good thing i hope

So after some long long time a little update on this situation.
So the situation did not change at all. We are still "just friends" and i still did not kiss her. Sounds bad...Well... We went out on several more dates, and i always tried to stay very touchy and clear in my intent. Im sure i could have kissed her every time. She always talks very ambiguous like "If i was your girlfriend would you..." or "If we had a child..." Then she starts saying things like "What do you really think about me? Do you think im just a slut or am i looking for love?" We talk like this ALL THE TIME.
Anyways now im on vacation since 3 weeks and we text like every day. She always sends me kiss and heart smilies. And she texts things like "You probably like it better without me " or "I bet you already cleared an arabic girl (im in Qatar) over there" or "I bet you want to stay there, you dont miss anything here" Why does she text this? Maybe to stay in control maybe to show affection, maybe both?
Anyways...She is now moving into her first own apartment and she constantly asks me if i will visit her. I say yes sure. One day later, same question from her. So she really wants me to visit her all the time. She said "You need to promise you visit me"...
So i guess i still have a chance...My plan is to visit her and finally kiss her...At least!
Again...when we´re out we are very touchy, i touch her (Knee, arms, back, face thigh and even breast!) and she touches back. So yeah...When i visit her next week what would you recommend? Dont freak out now, its my first girl ever! I never kissed a girl before so virgin as well so just you remember...
Thanks guys!