every party or gathering that I go to, I can never hold a steady conversation with a girl. I dont know if it's my short stature (5'5") or if I appear needy for validation or what it is. but every time I approach a girl, she tells me right off the bat she is not interested, or we hold a one minute conversation and she gets rid of me by saying "nice to meet you". I think I appear nervous or the conversation is stupid or both. drinking alcohol makes things worse, I appear like a drunk bastard.
I am jealous of the guys that make the girls chase them. In every party/gathering, there are guys that the hot girls chase. everywhere the guy goes, the girl follows him so she doesn't lose him. how the hell do they do this? how do I become like them?

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I have not failed 10,000 times. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. - Edison

I have the same problem. I've been having some success with online sites such as pof and badoo, but one on one in a club/party scene I'm too skittish to actually start a convo with someone. I plan to work on fixing this once I get back stateside. If I have any luck ill let you know

So this is where my principles come in. They are as follows:

1) Have fun
2) Know what you want and go for it
3) Be unapologetic about it
4) Be unaffected/non-reactive
5) Say and do whatever the fuck you want

Look at these very carefully. Right now you should be focusing on number 2 and 3. You have to know what you want. You want the girl. You go for her. WHATEVER THE FUCK SHE SAYS OR DOES, you stay unapologetic about the fact that you think she's cute and you're in a man to woman frame.

This is truly the essence. You're letting others' reactions sway you. Don't. Focus on yourself and only on yourself and what you want. Therefore you go get what you want. It REALLY doesn't fucking matter what you say.

Say and do whatever the fuck you want. This means that you can literally say anything, literally. You can go up to a girl and say "hey baby, got boyfriend vietnam? 2 dollar 2 dollar" and watch how they either crack up or give you a weird face.


Basically you're in your head. Get out of it. Get into the moment. You have to know what it is you want, and then you go take that by saying and doing whatever the fuck you want. You may get rejected a few times, but eventually there is a girl who will like it and go with it.

try stacking opinion or situation openers.

Then throw in little gambits, and short stories. Just keep plowing the conversation.