I was out with some friends and some girl spotted me during the 4th of july, the girl was the girl who always serves my coffee in the morning, we were talking and all my friends thought she was flirting with me. anyways a couple days later I get one of the reps to give her my business card (stupid I know) on the back I wrote " This is the handsome guy you saw on the 4th of july, call text me sometime. she never did, now I dont go there that often but I've seen her a couple times and she would say stuff like " I forgot to call you" or today for example she said " I feel bad I havent called or texted you yet" I just shrug it off and joke around but today I said " let me have you're number, and maybe I'll call you" she wrote it down an we said bye. heres the situation, should I not even bother theres two things that I am thinking. One she is not interested, or two she wants the guy to chase her. this girls cute. I can either wait a while or not even bother, and now when I see her she'll be the one to ask why I havent called. any advice would be great. thanks

Send her one text. You don't need to build anymore comfort because you have had multiple run ins. Set a plan for time and place and see how she responds. If she flakes without suggesting another time or place...fuck her.

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What do you think though, she never called or texted but always brought it up, its a tough call.

about 2 weeks ago though, I was inside and talked to her for a bit and she was like " I'll definetely call you/ text you tonight" she never did.

shes got string theory on you right now and your eating it up

everytime she says "woops I didn't remember to call you" well you dont do anything or say anything about it sooooo, she has you on a predictable rope she doesn't have to work for you. shes stringing you along

I figured but now I did atleast, got her number.

All you can do here is text. She isnt going to contact you first so might as well try

Nope next girl.

Don't agree. One text with a set date/time will not hurt. No value is lowered because it really has not been established yet and she apparently still holds some interest, or gets off on games.

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Why not try and ask what her schedule is like?

Move fast, set up the date quickly, no bull shitting around.

I don't think this is a high percentage chance, but you are better off trying.

I know you guys are going to hate me for shooting a text, but hey its convenient.

anyways I said
" Hey _______ its _____ what is you're schedule for next week, I have some classes but i'm going to see my old attorney Monday and I can grab a coffee or beer after join, if you're 21"

she said

" I wont know my schedule until today or tomorrow but yah haha i'm not 21...I'll let you know my schedule for Monday when I know it!"

Drop her. If she comes back with her schedule, guess what, you are now busy. Take the power back if she comes out of the woodwork. You should have set a date and time, not asked if it fits her schedule, if she's 21. Sorry, you fcked up bud.

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I can tell by her look, she doesn't look 21.

So you learnt a few things here.

1) Don't give a girl your number. Get hers and then call or text her right away so you now both have each others' numbers.

2) The only way to know if she is interested is if you MAKE CONTACT. This whole should I or shouldn't I text her shouldn't even be running through your mind. Who CARES if she is or isn't interested. YOU want to know, so YOU do it. This is totally in your control. It's what you want to do so do it. Your job is not to make her feel comfortable, but to get her out to get to know her.

3) Don't ask her out on the first text. Test the waters first. See if she replies, and how much she invests. If she replies playfully and/or invests quite a bit (she writes a lot in her texts, meaning she is INVESTING into the text) then you know you have a chance. You just need to play your card right.

4) When you get her number in person, make sure you tell her you guys are going to meet soon, preferably set a date right then and there so it's more solid. If you can't think of something right away, tell her you guys should meet up soon, get her number, joke around a little more, tell her possible places where you could go, and then leave. Then set up a specific date via call/text once you have tested the waters and played with her a little bit.

BASIC RULES OF TEXTING:

Every text has to have value - What does this mean? Every text you send has to have a reason for being sent. Be it to play/flirt with her over text, to build up some attraction or some comfort (some girls like the texting thing to get to know the other person, especially nowadays), or to ask her out. Preferably in that order.

Your job through texting is to get her OUT so you guys can meet in person. It all leads to this. Once she is invested/attracted (but even if she doesn't seem like it) ASK HER OUT. It's a chance and you have to take it.