| Hey Guys,
This is my first post as far as reaching out for advice from the Community. Lemme Break down the situation so you know where im standing as of now:
I was Out of Town in a Place Called Richlands, VA. It is a half-Horse town and the girls are VERY Picky. not picky as in type of guys, but if you didnt grow up with them, or play for the football team, you were not worth a damn to them. They Just so happened to have a Carnival in town so decided to go sarging. I went out friday night, and sure enough I strike out the whole night. To Put down the Critism from my two cousin i was staying with, I went out for Round two saturday night. Just when i was about to call it a night, I seen one last girl to try my luck with. I approached her and said "Excuse me, do you have a sec? I'm not from around here and im looking for directions to Jewel Ridge?" You could tell she was caught off Guard, and was kind of stumbling over her words. I noticed she had a pack of cigarettes in her hand, so i asked her for one to kinda break the tension. she gave me the directions, I said thanks, traded names, and said i'd catch up with her later and walked off. 30 minutes rolledby, and she walked past me and accidentally bumped into me. I turned around, and just started converstion with her. After all the "get to know you's" and what not, i asked her if she smoked and if she could find me anything. I then told her i was walking to the corner store to buy some Cigs and invited her to join me. she Complied, so we started making our way up the street. She started ask where im from and what i do for a living, and said that she really didnt get out a whole lot. she just wanted to see the fireworks that particular night. I made a joke about how she must not have a BF if she doesnt get out alot. She told me that she actually did, He was a Marine down in NC. i was quick to tangent to another topic and still hold convo. we continued to hang out after we had returned from the corner store and I was telling her how all the girls where im from are whorish and bitchy. I qualified her and told her that she seem, really honest, trustwhorthy, and Sincere. after about 5 Minutes i asked her how long she had been with her BF. She responded "we're really just talking right now. it's been on and off for about two years. He screwed me over and has been tryin to earn my trust back.". she said that its hard to earn her trust back after to lie(or cheat im assuming in this case). at this point i know that im getting somwhere with this girl, because she being a little more open with the unstable status of her relationship.
after the Carnival, I invited her and her friend back to my aunt and uncle's house where i was staying to have acouple of drinks. They both happily said yes, and we proceeded to the rendevous point. we had acouple of beers and i was being sure to not show as much attention to her with her friend in the room. they invited me to come hang with them at there place and while were on our whay there, they got an invite to a party. PLOT TWIST: the guy throwing the party, was the same one i was talking trash to earlier that night. I said that id didnt think it was a good idea for me to go, and She told not to worry, and if anyone asked to just say that i was her BF. seeing an opportuunity for a rolepaly, I disreguarded anypossible threat to myself upon going to the party. sure enough when we walked in someone asked her who i was, and she said that i was her BF. I reached around her waist and pulled her into me with no resistance what so ever. We had to go get beer at some point so we we hopped in the car with the DD and thats where alot of Kino Escalation happened. we started playing with eachother's fingers, and at one point i said i was cold so she pulled herself in colser to me and started rubbing my arm. They dropped me back off at my cousins house, cuz i said i had to get up early and head back east.she told me to hit her up anytime i was in town (we traded numbers and FB earlier that night) and we said our goodbyes. Turns out my own family looked me out of the house cuz i brought two girls home with me. so i texted her about it. she said i could come hang with her so i walked all the way back to her place. we got comfortable on her couch, where we snuggled under a blanket and proceeded to watch a movie. about 45 minutes into the movie (which neither of use were totally watching) she said she was lost in the movie and was getting tired. I told her that she could go lay down and i would stay on the couch. she gripped my hand a little more firm and said that we could go back when i was ready. i shut the TV off and we proceeded to the bedroom. we started of spooning and i was lightly stroking her back, and kissing her shoulder to get her hot. I asker her if she wanted to kiss me. she responded the she was really shy and didnt know. i went by the 90/10 rule thats all she wrote after that. We got up the Next morning and i was getting ready to leave when i said "i appriciate you letting me stay with you and all, BTW i know last night was alittle touchy-feely, and that im not that kind of guy and i repsect you have a BF" she said "I told you he's not my BF" and kissed me goodbye.
we have been texting on and off for the past month or so. and we've talked on the phone acouple of times. there was even a time when she said the Her BF really pushed her to finish school and what not, I told her that he seemed like a nice guy, and she started to point out all of his negatives. the last few times ive tried to call her, she doesnt pick up but will immediatly text me with a reason and say she will call me back later which she never does, but is always followed the next morning when i wake up to an apology from her. she even sent me a long heartfelt text saying the she feels like she being stuck up because she takes so long to respond to a text message or never calls. i even freeze her out for a day or two sometimes.
My Quesion for the community is: How can i maintain attraction with this girl and slowly ween her away from her BF without physically being with her? i mean her BF is a real Chode, lol. He posts these stupid-ass memes on her facebook multiple times a day, and she has even said it bugs her. i can tell that there is a change in her atttitude towards him since she met me, but on that same note, some of the text i receive from her have the signature "B.H.=My MaRiNe". and her profile pic is one of her and her BF. I can see myself having a relationship with this girl just by the unexpected speed of how fast we clicked on a personal level, but i need break her from her current man yo do so.
Any advice you guys can give would be great as far was what direction i should take this, and what i should do will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks
UPDATE:
Just talked to her a little over an hour ago, and really had to wing it with some BF destroying tactics I had read up on. The conversation consisted of me asking for advice about a supposed girl that had fucked me over and wanted to get back with me and I didn't know what to do, to try to awaken the emotions the drove her away from her BF the first time. She said she had to really put aside the things he did and she still unsure how she feels about him. She said everything was kosher with them. I said that he seem like he was a good guy, he just didn't realize what he had. She once again started to telling all of his negatives and telling me she was lost in her relationship. She procceeded to say she can't wait to see me and she wants me to stay with her when I visit. Still not sure how I feel about this cuz she is still feeling a way about him. And I can't control it like I would if I was there. I really just spent the whole convo planting thoughts in her head that would eventually grow.
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