| This story doesn't have a happy ending, but I'm happy with my actions in it.
On eharmony, I got into conversation with a cute brunette who informed that she no longer lived in the Midwest, but she had a friend who was local to me. She sent me her friend's e-mail address, and told me to get in contact with her.
I've recently returned to studying and using things in the PUA community -- among them, Speed Seduction. This seemed like a good time to try out a few things I'd just learned.
I got into emailed the "Good Christian Gal," and gave her a simple hello, your friend speaks highly of you, looking forward to chatting with you...she replied two days later by asking me what I did for a living, how long had I lived in the area, what I did for fun, and what church I attended.
Every question except for what church I attended was easy to answer -- I don't deride anyone for their religious beliefs, but I put my Christian faith behind me some time ago. I dropped an SS connection pattern on her in my response e-mail, and when she replied she said I had a "way with words."
Two e-mails later, I said if she wanted to get to know me better, she should text me, and I gave her my number. However, we didn't text; she called me. I thought about whether or not to try SS with her, and finally decided that if I was going to take the time to learn it, I might as well try it. When she asked me what I was up to at the time, I told her I watching a thing on Netflix about theme parks...and slid into the classic "roller coaster" pattern. To be honest, I chickened out and didn't do the whole thing.
She said I definitely had a way with words.
We set up a date for two days later -- just a hang-out in a local park. When we got there, we walked for awhile, I told a few jokes about my job, and we stopped somewhere to sit and talk for an hour. We talked about our beliefs (I BS'ed my religious standing), our jobs, and our pasts. The deepest part of the conversation involved things we'd done in the past that could be considered sinful in the eyes of our faith -- all Christians have one or two things like that in their past. I wanted to find some common ground with her, but I wanted to learn more about her while letting her know a few things about me. After a hour, we walked back to our cars, agreed we had fun, and set another date for a few days later.
Thus comes the unhappy ending. I got an e-mail from her two days later saying that she'd prayed and thought about it, and she didn't think we were compatible. What to learn from this?
Nothing new, to be honest. However, when I dropped that SS pattern on her (and another during our date), I was so sure that she was going to "catch" me. But she didn't, and apparently, it didn't have much effect.
I want to keep experimenting with it, though, and a few other things I've learned.
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