I'm a big fan of dancing, but not just in the street or going to a club, dance lessons to be specific.

I arrange for some Tango / Salsa lessons, plenty of Kino, if you already know the basics you DHV, and it's generally fun. Plus, if it doesn't work out with this one, you've picked up some skills for next time.

Never thought of KITE FLYING on a date. How awesome is that? If you live by the beach or near the coast, that one has so much potential and good energy.

Think I've done all the rest,never thought of kites.

I am actually impressed with ur advice and I hope you could do the same for myself about first date or encounter ideas............. for instance I am taking the woman out to one of ur amazing suggested ideas..... what should I avoid doing??? wearing??? saying??? ..... but also in this case what should I say I understand the Kino but I mean what time limit would u put on a first date cuz I mean sometimes ive been there 4-5 hours feeling like im going to sleep.

much appreciated

Hey man. Glad to be of service.
What you should be doing is simply bringing her into your world and letting her enjoy it. Let her have fun while she is with you. Let her enjoy just being with you and she will want more of that.

What you should avoid doing is anything that contradicts the above statement.

What you should avoid wearing? I don't know, because I don't know you're style or what specifically you are going to be doing.

What you should avoid saying? That also depends on your personality, your level of current escalation with the girl, and things like that. I would mainly say at this point, avoid talking about ex's. Avoid talking about problems in general.

As far as the time limit, when you feel like things are winding down, it's generally a good idea to go ahead and cut it short. Don't just let time keep flittering away. Take charge of the frame, which includes controlling when the "date" ends.

Professional Conversation Starters, Business Settings(1) Describe a typical day on the job. (2) How did you come up with this idea? (3) What got you started in this industry? (4) What do you enjoy most about your profession? (5) What go you interested??? You may have to adapt the conversation starters to tailor it to the specific institution or event.

First Date Conversation Starters: (1) What do you think of the movie (__Insert title___)/ restaurant/ party? (2) Tell me about the best vacation you’ve ever had/taken. (3) What’s our favorite thing to do on a rainy day? (4) What was it like in the town you grew up? (5) What do you think is the perfect age??? This is just a brief sample of the massive archive of conversation starters. Adding these to your arsenal can very well make you the life of the party. Try not to sound too scripted, as if you have rehearsed. You want to be extemporaneous, come across as natural and fluid.

Public Encounters, Conversation Starters With Complete Strangers: (1) What a beautiful day. What’s your favorite season of the year? (2) Do you have any New Year’s resolutions? (3) Your lawn always looks so green. What’s your secret? (4) I like your blouse, where did you get it? (5) How do you plan to celebrate the holidays??? At a Wedding: “I was the groom’s college roommate. How do you know the couple?” At a Seminar, or Convention, or Function simply ask: “What brought you here?” At your place of work: “We’ve been working together for months now. I’d like to get to know you better. Tell me about some of your outside interests…”

As a reminder, you don’t want to sound as if you have memorized lines of a script. When you speak, you don’t want to sound as if you are reading. You have to be creative, take these idea and modify them to suit your personality, demeanor, and self-image. Most of all, be natural. I have just provide an incomplete sample list from over a hundred icebreakers, conversation starters, and situational comments. I have a lot more that I have collected over the year, and some of them are truly priceless. Above are a few completely free of charge. Enjoy and practice the game wisely.

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Lots of great and tought out ideas in here!

Something I might as well add but havent gotten the chance to test yet is to go and eat lunch/dinner somewhere and rent 2-3 movies and during the conversation over lunch/dinner ask her what's the ideal 2nd thing to do on a date, if you feel the date is going well say you rented a couple of movies a couple days back and havent gotten around to watch them. See if she's intrested.

It's a bit cliche, but in smaller towns where there isnt much to do you dont have much choice. (Havent field tested it since I havent gone on a dinner date in a while)

I got a D2 with a girl that I barely remember meeting last weekend. She called last night and I invited her to come along with my friends to this club Friday. I'm thinking about calling her up and going with her to and Improv comedy show first. Than we can meet up with friends at the club after that.
Good, bad or an ugly idea?

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This game is automatic. You give it to 'em one time, they come back like addicts.

I like your idea, but if I were you, I'd stop by a cafe in between in the comedy show and the nightclub so you can get some one-on-one time with her. Also, it adds another location to the experience, which is always a good thing. The more you bounce, the better.

Thanks Chief, will do.
Plus I have a good excuse to go to the comedy club, they give improv classes that I wanna sign up for.
Got to be careful not to invest too much time and effort into it though, a freind of mine pointed that out the other day.
I got to find out if there is anything else going on in the area that would be original to take a girl to.
Thanks again!

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Thats key, I have never ever used the word date. I recall when I was reading PUA material like a Christian reads that Bible-David Deangelo talks about how you should just introduce a girl into your plans, this would be better.

Try:I am thinking of signing up for some improvise comedy classes, and wanted to check the club out first before I come to a decision.You want to come? if not no big deal!

KEY: This shows that you are going with her or without her! With dates, girls have the chance to ruin your date if they flake you, also they have the power to say no to your invitation and then you cannot go to the comedy club for example.


I will give you an example that I used: I was playing in a Water Polo nationals final, and invited a girl I met the night before to come and support me, she seen me in action and after the game, I said did she want to go for some food, as I was hungry after the tiresome game. The reason it worked was:

-It was national finals and we won-I was part of the starting line up, and made several assists and goals.
-In no way did it sound like a date!I invited lots of girl mates etc to the event.
-She hardly knew anyone there so she was like a leech on my arm, as she was quite shy.

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How about...

Mini-Golf

Taking your dog for a walk (excuse to start AND end at your place)

Bingo (haha, this will def make you stand out)

Show her how to shoot the BB gun at cans and shit

Put together a puzzle

One of the first dates my Dad took my mother on, He bought a sack of cheeseburgers (20 or so on the dollar menu, cheap still) and they walked around Detroit and handed them out to homeless people, great way to DHV

As a final note, just be creative, keep an open mind and always carry a pen and pad to be ready to right shit down if you get a good idea, an idea lost is a shame.

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i like these ideas