Imagine if you find that a girl is 21 and has had about 20+ guys in her. Does that influence your way of thinking? Is she a "slut"

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I have to say .... it does!

The thought of STDs does get stuck in your head. It doesnt make her seem super attractive. Sure some guys here say, well we're all players here it's messed up to think if a girl has as many partners, it shouldnt influence you. Well sometimes the guy / guys on here dont have as many partners as the girl has had. It also goes with the old fashioned idea of "guy gets 100 girls, he's sexually advance and might be a catch / girl gets 200 guys, she's probably easy and dirty." Sure it's old fashinoed but some people cant help feel the way they feel.

Also most pua's will say "dont let it phase you, be unreactive." I dont know, it's hard not to let that get to you.

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On topic: I don't mind. But I'm going to wear a condom and refrain from eating her pussy. I enjoy banging girls who have lots of experience for the simple reason that I get to know where my bedroom skills stand.

It's a good ego and confidence boost when girls narrate how other guys suck at fuck fests, how clueless they are, and so forth. It's simply awesome when girls tell you you're the best fuck they have had so far.

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No it doesn't. Most hot girls who have been single for a while have slept with a good number of guys. Just don't ask and don't think about it.

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Yes it does. As much as it is social conditioning it also has to do with our madonna/whore complex that most guys have within them. Plus I respect girls less who give it up easier. But that's just my point of view. I respect girls who can withhold their sexual urges for the men they think are worth it/the men they truly value and respect. They're not just giving everyone a bodypart of theirs. They save it up for the ones that really are compatible with them.

Hell yeah it does..

It influences the girl as well.. This is going to sound very " new age " but when you sleep with someone you're basically mingling souls with them. The more people you sleep with, the more souls you've mingled with.. Most people don't understand this on a conscious level but its the reason guys like I and TK won't be serious with a girl who has mingled with too many " Souls ", thats sure to take an effect on her and anyone she is with.

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I'm 31 and I've had sex with many, many girls.. (50+, no idea what the actual number is anymore). It would be pretty hypocritical for me to judge a girl based on number of sexual partners. Having a healthy sexual appetite does not make somebody a bad person or a bad boyfriend / girlfriend. It does, however, tend to make them good in bed!

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+100!!!!
Totally agree with you, why put on the double standards?. This is one of my pet peeve I see amoung people. its ok for you to do it? but its not ok for them? fucc outta here! How can you call yourself a man? Just like how I over hear people talking about cheating on there g/f or wife or whatevers and then when it happens to them, they get all butthurt like "she shouldnt never blah blah blah on me" I think this has to deal with the "excluseive" or "its has to be me and only me" part of everyone. Its doesnt make you feel "special" well get over it, its in the past and it doesnt invovle you. If you want to have a girl that only slept with a few guys, then look at yourself first? are you out there doing the opposite of what kinda girls you want? I doesnt mean you cant be with them, it's just hypicrital if you judge them while you are doing the same. If the number of partner the person slept with bothers you, its not their fault but only the fault of your inner self for letting it bother you.

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This is interesting. Seems like there are a few who agree and a few that don't. More opinions are welcomed!

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It fucked with me for a long time with my ex. I was a college freshman, she was a college senior. When I entered college I was already at a high number for a 19-year old (26), and I also knew it was hypocritical of me to get mad at her number. She of course told me she was at 11 (seems to be the typical response if a girl ever brings it up), but my ears spilled with blood from the stories I've heard about her (she was a popular senior athlete who kicked it with other athletes. Heard stories about public 3sums and a bunch of athlete guys being with her). Of course it could have also been BS but the girl dated a lot during her first years of college. It affected me since she was also the only girl I had real feelings for. After we broke up, it didn't matter with any other girls.

If it's her experience part that is fucking with you, you gotta remember that not many guys are actually good in bed. As much you will hear about the next guy fucking like a champ, you probably mainly hear it from him. I always think of sex as an art, not as a mechanical process. It's an intimate thing and you can't just bang it out. Don't be a passive worm just chilling there shooting her the cute look and thinking you're a romantic, but love the process and love giving pleasure to the woman.

If it's the part that you might catch something, use protection. I hate condoms as the next guy out there, but using them at least the first time you have sex with the particular girl is a good idea. When I'm sure the girl is on BC and she's clean (by dropping subtle hints before I put a condom on the next time), I don't use it.

The biggest problem for me was the mental part- imagining her being intimate with a bunch of losers. I gave her shit for it for sometime since it drove me crazy when some senior homie would say that she used to get around. I knew it was the past and it shouldn't matter but of course it did. I would get over it every now and then until something would trigger the imagination. Never fully got over it, which was one of the reason I later broke up with her.

Now a few years later I've been with probably 50+ girls (stopped counting after she and I broke up), and never gave a fuck. Never gave a serious fuck about any other girls, never gave a fuck about how many men dove inside them. Maybe the next girl I start caring about will also have a high number, which might trigger my sensitive amygdala into some sudden rage, but I hope that doesn't happen. I mean, I doubt it will, but what do I know. I would suggest to read some Bukowski and not put sex itself on a pedestal. I've realized sex isn't the highest experience on the hierarchical pleasure experiences with another person. Sure, it might trigger the most of your sensitive emotions, as well as tickle your senses into heavenly pleasure, but that ends in some time. Having a consistent, respectful, and understanding relationship with someone, where you might not share your soul's energy as intensely, but you do it much more frequently, is where it's at. That's the point where you'll get pleasure of just kicking it with a girl, kissing and what not. You don't gotta go inside her all the time. Maybe that's just me though. I've stopped seeking sex as much as I used to, and with that opportunities to have it with different women have grown to be more frequent.

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I keep simple like this...most girls even the ugly ones can get a guy by opening her legs, so If shes let that many dudes smash then plain and simple shes a hoe. Which means shes easy. Basically to me its standards. She obviously doesn't have high standards if shes 19 with 25+ men.

I personally would smash a girl like this but wouldnt wife her. In order to date a chick I have to consider her as a prize, basically someone who wouldnt let any old dude hit. Its not really game if lame as dudes have smashed in my opinion.

TLDR: A guy is and key and a female is a lock. If a key opens a bunch of locks its a master key right? but if a lock is opened by any key then its a shitty lock...Ya digg.

A few things

(1) Just because a girl sleeps with a guy on a first date or a lot of guys does not make her a slut
(2) Numbers don't matter, it's about quality and percentages. Hot girls hook up with a lot of guys but they reject 1000x more guys and a a way higher % of guys than a busted girl who has slept with less men, so who is really sluttier?
(3) The attitude of assuming women who sleep around is a slut actually makes it much harder for us men to get laid, so stop thinking and talking about women that way and it will get all of us laid a lot more, versus making very wrong assumptions that because a girl has slept with 20 guys or whatever she is a slut which is retarded.

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It is not retarded. It is much harder (for me at least) to trust a girl to stay in a committed relationship if she has banged 20+ guys, hell even 10+ guys and she's in her early 20s. This is me. Would I fuck her? If she's hot yes, of course. But I don't think I could keep her around because she just is sexually open by nature and therefore the risk is much higher. Whereas a girl who really only has sex with a boyfriend you know she values intimate relationships highly and therefore is more likely to be a keeper.

A woman sleeping with 20 guys by the time she is 22 or something is not a crazy amount. Hate to break it to you, but girls who are 20-22 are completely clueless and their past sexual history has little to no correlation with how they will behave going forward. A lot of girls that age have only had sex with a boyfriend because they are still inexperienced and just starting to become sexually active; others started younger and have slept around more when they were single but that could actually make them more committed when they find someone. I'm 31, slept with triple digit # of women and I know from a lot of experience that the odds of a girl cheating on you has little to no correlation between her behavior when she is single.

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You have a very good and interesting discussion here TF and Traveler.

For the benefit of other thread readers who are thinking along the lines of marriage (of course most of us are not thinking along these lines), Dr. Jones provided a link to this study which says: "women who have more than one intimate premarital relationship have an increased risk of marital dissolution."

Here's the link in case somebody out there is interested: http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1 ... x/abstract

Of course, the findings of the study are not absolute. I would go along the line of thinking of TF because I think a very skillful PUA can keep a girl very committed in a relationship even when she has had multiple sexual partners. The study though favors Traveler's line of thought.

Both of you guys are correct.

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