HB giving mixed messages, how to escalate?



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PostPosted: Thu Jul 18, 2013 10:09 pm 
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So I have a question about how to get a girl interested. Shes a good HB9 and was giving off signals she was interested but just sort of stopped. I'll go from the beginning so you experienced PUA's might pick up something I missed. BTW we are both in final year of high school, 18 yrs old

*Day 1: I meet her for the first time at a party, she initiates it by sitting beside me on a couch really close and making friendly conversation with me leans over me to show me videos on a laptop and seems really into me with some light touching and lots of eye contact and smiling. Says she likes me and we should have met before. A couple of people at the party stay overnight including us two, and all night she sits across from me looking at me and really laughing at most things I say (In a good way). Plenty of subtle IOI's all night, so I genuinely thinks she likes me, she leaves the next morning, I say to a girl friend of hers and mine that Im surprised thats the first time I met her and "shes nice" I was really tired and practically said it in my sleep so people there thought it was kind of funny.

*Day 2: Another party, never really get talking until the crowd starts walking into town. I was pretty drunk and got in like a small scrap with a smaller guy, he was fairly swinging for me and I just thought it was funny, anyway it obviously looked really heated and it did get pretty serious so she comes in and like pushes me and him away, in my stupid drunkenness I like put my arm on her shoulder and was like "protect me HB" just joking, she like backed away and looked at me like I just punched her in the face. Later we went back to the house and Id sobered up a bit, again there was a few of us gathered round and someone mentioned in front of everyone how HB was the only person I ever said anything nice about and how it was nice the way I said it. She kind of put her head down embarassed but smiling and I made light of it but was really taked by surprise. She soon left with friends and that was one very bad night done.

*Day 3: Again a friends party, outdoors. When she first walked in I was smoking and she smiled at me and said we were cousins because we both have the same second name, real friendly, she walked on with friends. Later she comes up and says the same again and is like "how close of cousins are we" I gave a very shitty answer, making light of me being from a rural area and insinuating we have sex with our cousins... Turns out it wasnt really her style of humour and she kind of ignored it was like "we're first cousins then". I made some friendly small talk with her and she just goes again, that was about it.

Those 3 meets were all a couple of weeks apart. There were one or two small meets in between where I tried to make some conversation and she was pretty quiet and shy. This girl is seriously hot and I know one night in a club there was 4 separate friend of mine trying to hook up with her, all sweet talking her, at this point Id given up hope (none of them succeded btw) Although she has hooked up with a couple of guys I know, one of which she didnt even know before hand, they're both pretty attractive guys Id say, but no more than me.

I feel like I kind of fucked up when I was drunk and put my arm on her, she obviosuly thought it was weird, she also kind of knows I like her because I said she was nice and people assumed that meant I have a crush on her! I'll be seeing her again at an up coming party and wondered how I should play it. As an extra bit of information, she actually seems quite introverted apart from when she approached me, and I get the feeling she knows how hot she is, she dresses like she knows shes hot. Any thoughts are appreciated, really wanna know what you guys think


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It sounds like you're waiting for her to give you an open invitation to make a move on her.

Your entire "game" is dependent on the signals she gives you.

This is the wrong mindset.

Instead, don't look for validation from her. Simply MAKE YOUR MOVES.

Start engaging her more. Tease her more, ask her more questions about herself, physically escalate, and DO NOT GIVE A FUCK if she "likes you" or not.

The reason you haven't made progress with this girl is because you're afraid of being rejected. You're outcome dependent. That's understandable. Nobody likes rejection. But the fact is - you have 2 options:

1) Either continue waiting for a green light to escalate. Hint: It won't happen, and you'll never hook up with her.
2) Start making more direct moves. The least you can do is get her number. If she rejects you - oh well. It's not like you were going to get her by just waiting for her to fall in your lap.


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PostPosted: Fri Jul 19, 2013 4:03 am 
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If you were at a party, saw a girl you thought was hot, sat down next to her, laughed at her jokes, showed her cool stuff, and made your interest very clear in her...and then she went to bed without you...how would you feel?

Rejected, right?

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Women are unstable creatures, they sway from one emotion to another. So its not you that she's giving mixed signals too. She's just being a "woman". Its your job to take the bull by the horns and lead the interaction. Its not about the signals she's giving you; its about you knowing what you want and going after it. Put your focus on you and take it off of her.

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