hi guys

well without going into it too much. went through heaps with a girl. we flirted, dated for a year, I fell in love. the whole saga.

we broke up 6 months ago and went through the whole ugly breakup as well.

Sadly for me I still liked her, she started banging another guy. apparently that didnt last long. Not saying I didnt get out there either though. I told her not to talk to me again out of anger and frustration... I was always nice though. never said anything I regretted but I gave her a hard time because she was happy to bang some dickhead while I still liked her.. bit of jealousy and what not. and yes he was a dickhead.

anyway the last 2 days out of nowhere ive received texts from her. We havent spoken for months. 'you know i will talk to you if you speak to me. i just dont want to be given a hard time again'

I would be lying if I said I still didnt want her back, but Im happy with how Im moving on so I dont think about that.

I need some advice; how do I go about this. I want to try and sort things out as much as possible WITHOUT losing my dignity because I made a fairly firm decision a while a go that I resented her, but time does help these things.

its probably best to let go of the past, because majority of our group all hang out and are friends and it has made things awkward after we broke up.

I usually just ignore her so I can still enjoy my nights out whenever I see her.

what do I even reply to her text. By the way its her birthday this week so I was gonna send her a hb message regardless, before she texted me yesterday and today.

how do you handle these situations maturely without losing your own dignity and basically not become a little bitch.

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was thinking of just ignoring her text and sending a hb message anyway.

or does the issue of us not talking anymore need to be addressed?

Hoping someone here can come up with something better than I can

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You can't recreate the past; I can't think of one situation where this has every worked out. Also,you willin fact lose your dignity if you go back with her because you have already made a decision. Go back on the decision and she will subconsciously have less respect from you than she already does. Do you think she is sincere about going back? Or did mr.dickhead just move on and now she needs someone to lean on for security while she gets back on her feet?

I've been here many times in the past dude; take her back and she will resent you. You'll be swimming up a stream that has no starting point. You can swim and swim all you want but eventually you will tire and will be flung back harder than before.

I really want you to get this man, I hate to see guys make this mistake. It happens too often and everyone seems to think they know something ' Different' that is going to cause things to work out. Its human nature; that doesn't change.

Joey

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That guy pretty much went thru the same shit... read the thread, learn from it..don't make the mistakes he made

I dont have time to read all that. what mistakes did he make? any chance you could summ it up?

I sent her a little msg saying happy birthday, followed by an old joke and she replied 'haha thank you'

then

just today I got a notification on instagram that she had liked one of my photos from ages ago. she mustve clicked like by accident and quickly tried to hide it, because when I logged on the notification was gone. we dont even follow eachother on that, so she had to of gone out of her way to look me up. by the way, I have been working out like crazy since we broke up, put on about 7kg of muscle mass

I kinda wanna ask her if we could meet up/ catch up/ or something.... I do miss her. but what frame do I have to adapt? and I dont want to give her any control.

thanks. bb

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Breaking Bad, a decent percentage of women are of the mindset these days that they can always do better then what's in front of them. I think there's millions of examples out there where a couple was 95% compatible but one wanted 100% and thought they could have it. I think part of it is just the internet age we live in. Women have literally hundreds and maybe thousands of options in the palm of their hand. Not too mention, the better they look the more they get hit on in public.

It's up to you how you want to proceed. My guess is dickhead either dumped her, or turned out not to be what she wanted him to be, and she likes you better and you are available. My guess also is that she's going to repeat the cycle. Get back with you, then find something else later. Do you want to be firm with her and not put up with her games? Or do you want to take pussy when you can get it? If it were me, I'd take the pussy and be ready for her to walk out again but I would use her companionship to try to land other women.

This is all about what you can and cannot handle.

Wingintyme's solution is the best. I would certainly go the same route: bang her while banging other pussy. But there's a reason why you're hesitant. If you bang her again, it might be difficult to get out because your feelings for her are still too strong.

Packing more muscles in the gym is the way to go as it keeps you busy and tired-- you'll have lesser moments thinking about her. Yet now that she wants you back, you're rattled as hell and you want her back again.

Stay strong. Chase other pussy. It's also about time to get very good at your bedroom skills so any girl of yours in the future will not go about riding other dicks when you're not looking.

The point is: now that she's chasing, fuck her senseless and sharpen your bedroom skills. At the same time, set your terms and make her work harder for your attention. And while doing this, sarge 10 other girls everyday. She's chasing. You're in the best spot where any man should be.

However, all of these will eventually end; yet at the end of it all, you'll be one hell of a wrecking, fucking machine and she on the other hand will have had her first multiple vaginal orgasms with you.

Leave them better than when you found them. It can work both ways. Make it work. Stay in control.

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I texted her monday:

wanna do something this weekend

she replied thursday: Ill let you know

guess she feels like shes in control. If she doesnt get back to me, well Ill probably just resent her for it which will help me get over it. Im not gonna be needy, I gave her a chance to catch up if she takes it fair enough if not, gotta see it as her loss.

Ill leave this thread at that and only bother posting again if anything eventuates. Cheers for the advice guys.

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Can't he just bang her a couple of times?

This game can change in a second.
You can play with her all you like, just know when to get out.

OK, here's my advice man - and I'm gonna be honest...

You're too hung up on this one girl. You're in scarcity right now, what you need to do is enter abundance - and you do that by getting other girls.

Just go out and have some fun with a bunch of other girls - you'll notice a complete mindset shift, because, you'll realize that you can have any other girl you want, but at the same time - there's something special about this girl.

You'll approach the situation with an entirely different perspective as a result - and she'll end up chasing you.

By the way, mixed signals are key in this type of situation.

Any questions - just hit me up :=)

Zak

we just went to the beach together today and hung out with our dogs. it was nice......

I just hugged her at the start. hung out for an hour walking and chatting then I was first to leave. ejected when it was still good so to speak.

it was never really sexual or anything... I thought this was our first time seeing eachother in ages, on no grounds did I relly feel like being sexual anyway. was good just to see her and how shes doing, she was happy. maybe that was a mistake im not sure.

i said bye and left.

what do I do next??
advice please.

I want to see her again and yea I wanna hook up with her again.

whats my next play?

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Ugh this wreaks of desperation. But who is anyone to tell you what to do. I feel you would have been better of continuing on as you said you were and getting on without any contact. Sometimes it is time to put parts of your past to rest. Some cannot operate that way though. Best to you.

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yea well i crossed that bridge today and we caught up.

whats your advice for me if I am to pursue it which is what I want to do.

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i just texted her 'come have dinner with me this week'

its not revealing of any intentions, just shows i wanna see her again.

guess it will show me where she stands too. will see. thanks anyway

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