Massage/work the role play some more next time, most women are quite responsive to this as it leaves room the imagination to run wild whilst humouring yourselves at the same time. You had the right idea, the right text, timely placed can resurrect something that once felt dead. Feel free to make it a bit theatrical, or melodramatic (but not overly melodramatic) to stimulate the excitement of a real relationship.

As a poster already commented, be careful getting sexual too fast. Remember, women are used to guys revealing their horniness quickly, and if she's not looking for a romp in the hay with you she'll frame your behavior as sexually motivated and cast you in the "like every other guy I meet" bin - believe it or not, (and contrary to what 60yoc may say), getting sexual too quickly can blow you out fast. Remember, a confident guy doesn't NEED sex (he has many other potential females at his disposal for that, he's not needy for it), self-restraint is actually a VERY attractive thing to a woman.

Don't worry about what you did, the past is the past. You could continue with her and try and make a long-fuse (woman who is hardly responsive to you) become a short-fuse (she intiates you via text, laughs at all your jokes even the terrible ones, baits you to ask her out etc.). Worst case scenario she completely ignores you, who cares. This can be a great testing ground for you. Improve your text game and all other facets of your game. I've turned long fuses into short ones, its not as hard as you think. Lastly, remember to always end on a high note. The rush you get with her being responsive makes it hard to bail out on the convo, but that's where your self-restraint comes in. Think of it this way, there was a study done a few years ago on impulse-control and development. Elementary aged school children were given a cookie and told that if they refrained from eating the cookie for a determinant amount of time they were promised a whole bag of cookies. The teacher than left the room, leaving the children to their own device. The children who could not distract themselves from the cookie were unable to resist and ate the cookie set before them. The other children were able to distract themselves and resist temptation for the promise of a bigger payout (a whole bag of cookies). The children in the later group grew up to be more successful in life because they saw the larger picture, or able to stave-off short term temptation for long-term payout.

Keep that in mind. Do what you must to keep your impulses at bay and you will more likely succeed in all of your endeavors.

Too early for "serious", considering you aren't even really dating at this point. Save serious for when you're in a relationship, even still serious should only occur sparingly. Serious is a buzz-kill, just as Cindy Lauper sung many moons ago "girls just wanna have fun", that is until they're grown and their biological clocks tick ever louder and they want to settle down.

Also careful with typifying women, doing so leads to linear thinking and human behavior is quite dynamic. Don't stick in a role play too long, change things up, keep it interesting, keep her on her toes a bit.

I'd wait a few days to a week before re-initiating from your last text.

Well I played it cool and even got it sexual/flirty and now she stopped replying...

She did say at first that "our lives are too fast paced for each other" when I said "clearly this relationship isn't workin out..." ... not sure what she meant??

But she did play along with the house/cars/kids/divorce thing for a few text messages and she was dying of laughter... She was responding right away while I took my time, i even turned it sexual and once i mentioned make up sex she said "too bad that'll never happen again" and never responded since... lol, lost cause? I was smooth still...

I did reply with "Too bad for you though, make up sex is the shit"

I only jumped the gun because she was replying so well and playing along, we are both mad sarcastic too so I gave her a chance to jump on the "make up" part but I guess that is her rejection...

any idea on what she meant with "lmao it really isn't, our lives are too fast paced for each other"... seemed like the only part she was truthful about

Hey, I think this post has been blown way out of proportion here, you are all acting like its dead and over cause she stopped responding to a text? and already want to next. There's a difference between needy and persistence you just need to find the right balance.

More importantly, there can be a million and one reasons why a woman doesn't respond to a text, and not because she thinks you're some clingy needy douche bag, otherwise she wouldn't answer you at all.

Ok, now to the question.

You got it sexual and flirty, a nice transition that she responded playfully too. What you did wrong is react to one of the things she said badly, even when you aren't clear what she meant anyway. If you want the conversation to stay fun and flirty you automatically have to assume she is also replying fun and flirty, because its hard to display tone via text. This is all frame control and keeping the conversation the way you want it. search it up and work on it.
You didn't jump the gun, you escalated correctly, you guys have met up already and made out, we don't want to be working backwards, only forwards. And sorry to break this to you but she didnt mean anything with that, she was only carrying on the fun conversation and you reacted badly too it, and lost your frame, and now your here saying how you will never find another girl like her. If one text is all it takes then you may as well give up now, she probably doesn't want a guy who won't try very hard to get her.

What you should remember is texting isn't THAT serious, she isn't holding everything you've ever said to her against you.

I suggest fill your life with some exciting hobbies and interests so a simple text message doesn't affect your life so much.

I would of kept my sexual frame, think of something witty, ignored the possible conversation killer and assumed she still was playing along.

"You must of had shit make up sex then, cause the shit I'm having would BLOW. YOUR. MIND. But I guess you'll never know that now

If there is a cardinal sin in texting a girl when you're first getting to know her, it is never to send two consecutive texts. I know that sounds extreme, but she's sniffing for desperation harder than she ever will at this point. If you've sent her more than one, and she's said nothing in return, then you need to let her go.

There is no playful spark you can ignite if she is going radio silent. And if she won't text you back, there is no way she'll pick up that phone call. Even if you leave a voicemail, which you better not do, unless you're cool with her playing it to her friends and laughing. Don't be that guy.

The best plan now is to take a step back and pursue other options. If she gets back to you, resume like you did before.

You're pushing, pushing,pushing and pushing, so naturally she is falling away. You're not leaving room at all for her to push back a bit. It sounds like you finally found one girl you were interested in and now you don't know how to act.

Anyways

This isn't as hard to fix as you think; you just have to follow a simple few steps and everything will be fine.

First and foremost; Do NOT initiate contact again until the steps i am going to lay out are complete. No matter what your current needy thoughts try and convince you to do; refrain from contacting her.

Step 1

Take a step back and let wonder what happen and contact you.


Step 2

When she finally contacts you, ignore it no matter what she says.


Step 3:

She'll try again in a day or two, just to see if she has you or not.. and when she contacts you this time, ignore once more.

Step 4:

If she texts you a third time in the next day, respond an hour later, happy go lucky as if nothing happen. / If she doesn't, then just initiate contact 36 hours after the second ignore, happy go lucky as if nothing happen.


You have to pull back for the tables to turn; continuing to push will only get you the same results. This is the prescription; take the medicine and everything will get better.

Hell yeah man!

I speak directly experience; I've had to do this a number of times but if you're back out on the scene talking to more girls you shouldn't have to worry about it. Girls don't want you when you let go, they want you when you move on. So if you connect with a new over the next few weeks I'm sure she'll pop back up texting you but the difference now is, you won't want her.

At our nature, we are animals and fall victim to our nature and normal human patterns. This is why the Sheppards governing the world can run it so effectively; they understand our nature and use it to there advantage. If you can let it go, let it go, and if she comes crawling back, follow the steps. He ego won't be able to take being ignored; she'll try again.

That is assuming she doesn't meet another guy? She is pretty social, so she gets her attention plus she mentioned she had guys chasing her... What really pisses me off is that she talked about how she ignored guys when they texted her (chasing her) on our second date... Days later she did it to me...

I completely agree with you though, a buddy of mine went through the same thing... Had two great dates with a girl then she ignored him... MONTHS late she texted him, apologizing and wanting to try again... At that point he didn't care for her...

Anyway I'll stick to the plan and not contact her, and I'll ignore her if she ever contacts me at first... I just wish I knew what I did wrong with her to ignore me in the first place so I take that as a lesson... That whole 180 thing in a matter of days was pretty unreal so I didn't know how to handle it...

I'm sure you weren't the only guy she was talking to; she took a step back to" Test " you for a day, you turned all needy, so she turned to another guy she was talking to. Its simple, women are going to test you all the time in your relationship; even if you've been together for 50+ years. Its just in their nature, it isn't their fault.

Every moment is either a test or a celebration.