Hi. So, this is a bit of a weird question but I would appreciate input. In another post here I mentioned that I hooked up with a crazy hot guy a couple of days ago. Anyway, I find him intriguing and want to hang out with him again.

The thing is, we pretty much rocketed into a fast hookup and I don't know that much about the motivations behind PUAs and what to expect after they "full close" you.

Is the goal to just fuck as many people as possible, so in that case I would be irrelevant since he's already done me? Or is it to get as much *sex* as possible-- in which case, if I made it known that I was down for further fucking, he might be up for it? I'm not sure with him, since he was trying to schedule me into a weekday when we were talking on FB, which may be indicative that he's trying to fit in as many women as possible. On the other hand, I think we connected pretty well.

The other problem: how do I let him know that I'd like to casually hook up again sometime, and that I'm not looking for a "relationship?" (After I got screwed over in my last relationship, I swore off the boyfriend thing; it's just a carefree network of friends with benefits for me). There doesn't seem to be a tactful way to say, "Hey, I know what your deal is and I like you anyway and I'm not going to try to girlfriend you-- hit me up if you ever want to hang out or fuck again?" (I don't know but I'm pretty sure he doesn't want a girlfriend.) I don't want to deflate his ego, which can happen if you call people out on their game. But I wish I could communicate somehow that I find *him* interesting, not the magical PUA persona which he might believe pulled me into the sack. Rather, the hot mess underneath.

He's hard to read and seems like a bit of a wild card. Forgive my ignorance in this milieu but is there any kind of protocol that PUAs use after a full close (ie, not contacting you for a certain number of days)? Should I just take the initiative, here? What does a PUA want, as Freud would say. Thanks.

I'm still a novice PUA, but all PUA's are not from the same mold. Were all our own people, using these techniques for our own agendas. Some of us will want to date and fuck different girls every day of the week, some are looking for a girl to marry, some want to have multiple long term relationships, and some want to just get better at socializing, and so on.

The motivations for doing pickup are as varied and unique as the people practicing them.

As for telling him, just keep hanging out and hooking up and if he ask about a relationship tell him where you stand. Most of the time it's the girl that ends up wanting a relationship and the guy who wants friends with benefits.