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Ok so I've told a few friends about this whole PUA stuff & how it works, but the bottom line is, that many people don't believe in it or they are just down-right skeptical about it all. My friends say that regardless, if you plan on picking up women, you must be a good-looking guy to start with (& they mean physically). They think that behavior is still import, but most of all, you need to have good looks. Also, they say that you "PUA Gurus" are just out to make money off of this hot niche of "How To Attract Women" & you are taking advantage of the poor ugly guys who can't get laid. My friends say that the "Gurus" know in the back of their mind that these ugly nerds are just desperate to getting laid & that they are willing to pay for something that is never going to happen because they "aren't good-looking enough".
So the question is obvious here; what do you guys think about this? What proof can you provide to prove them wrong or what should I tell them on your behalf? Thanks...
This industry is littered with pseudo PUAs who think they can teach guys how to get girls.
If some dude who claims to be a PUA says "looks don't matter", ask him a question. Would he be with some 500lb old, lady if she used the 'perfect opener' on him??? When he goes out in public, does he look at the ugly girls or the hot girls?
Woman and men are more alike than you think. Both sexes value "looks". Looks aren't everything and you can always find exceptions where it SEEMS like a woman is with an ugly guy, but there is often much more behind the story.
The good news is that you DON'T have to be a model. In fact, that often works against you when trying to find a long-term relationship with a woman. Just like men don't want to constantly be jealous or worried about their partner...a woman is going to look at "model" looks and think the same.
A large part of our training program is based on maximizing your attractiveness. With the right help, most people can achieve a level of attractiveness that will appeal to almost anyone. In most cases, the problem isn't genetics. Almost everything is fixable which is why we cover everything from clothing...accessories...fitness...posture...body language...hair...and even things like a proper diet and sleep regimen.
One of our most difficult clients was a handicapped individual who wore over-sized Hawaiian shirts and beat up old tennis shoes. It took weeks of shopping for new clothes and coming up with the right strategy, but he ended up with 3 girls numbers in one night (one was a hot bartender who I just ran into and remembers his name 5 years later).
The other secret to improving his "looks" was taking him to the right place. He would have felt nervous, anxious, and out-of-place at a dance club or ultra lounge. However, we asked him what he liked to do for fun and he said Karaoke...so that's where we went.
We had him go up and sing a song like he usually does and all of a sudden his "attractiveness" grew. He displayed a comfort and confidence on stage that radiated attraction. Anybody watching him would now add adjectives such as fun, charismatic, and talented to describe him. (This is basically the same psychological phenomena that rock stars use, which is why many ugly lead singers get girls.)
We then had him go up to girls and ask them to sing a duet with him. They gladly accepted because they saw how good he was and how much fun he was having.
The point is this...Looks do matter, but don't overlook ALL the aspects that make up your "looks". Most PUA's are not equipped with the necessary fashion skills to maximize other people's "looks". They are even less equipped to understand the neurology of why and when looks matter.
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