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Hello guys,
About 1.5 week ago I broke up with my LTR after a solid 7 months, things didn't really work out anymore and partly was based of the fact that i lost most of my strong inner-game (great lesson i learnt through-out the relationship). To my surprise, the break up hasn't had that much impact on me, I could see the points behind all the reasoning and it was easy for me to realise things wouldn't work out, I was also the one taking the initiative so i suppose that helped. I do still feel lonely at times, but it goes away pretty soon, i sleep well etc...
Now the big story is, i decided not to let things hang and get back on the fields. So last night me and a whole bunch of friends went out clubbing. I decided to split up with my wingman to have better odds on approaching etc, our goal was to open all the sets we possibly could just to get back in spirit and avoid AA. We had a few drinks and started sarging. We opened up about 30 hb 6-10's that night and all of them responded great. We had different openers from indirect to direct and even ''creepy'' ones in a playful manner that made girls laugh. I soonish started noticing that the way i game was completely different then the way it was before. I felt like this serious guy, I had a hard time escalating, didn't really know what to say at times. Normally i have a ''6th sense'' for things like these, i see everything from body-language to extra's i can use for talking material. But now, it seems like i was constantly inside my head, i was tired out, didn't really feel like escalating because i was thinking about it to much between sets. Despite that we still had some succes, a group of 6 took us out to another club, a few other girls bought us drinks and partied with us till the end. I had a dozen of opportunities to k & f-close but it felt like the mood wasn't there. At one point this girl's dancing sexy and i reach out my hand and she makes a spin, i could've pulled her closer and start dancing but something blocked me off. Later that night i gave her a goodbye hug and she started dancing really close to me again, i gave her 3 kisses and left. Another one was when it was rainy, 2 girls passed us whining and we yelled 'Dont ya worry, it aint better anywhere else''. they laughed, kept walking. One turned around, talked to the other girl and came back to us asking questions about where we were from etc.. the whole night i got so many IoI's (I never forget them) but i didn't act.
I dont regret any decisions i made though, i'm super glad i didn't have to deal with AA and felt comfortable with everything. AA has always been the biggest bitch and it's now just a matter of how to escalate properly. All in all, i do guess the relationship has slowed me down a lot. I like to read a lot or check out some video's. What do you guys think is a good starter to get back into the game?
From what it sounds like you did fine but YOU didn't';t want to take it any further, so it wasn't like you got rejected. The biggest thing I see is that you have to have fun with it man your thinking so mechanically with it, going out should be a fun natural thing, not something that you have to think about.
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