First, new to the game, been reading up on building attraction and the emotional progression model. I've never had to much trouble with building attraction/comfort or even moving things to the physical level, but it usually falls apart after that.

Anyway, I recently F closed a girl in my social circle after about 3 days of continual build up. She immediately starts throwing heavy interest and even talking about relationship level shit. I don't bug out, but don't commit to anything either. Everything is awesome for a few days and then she just completely turns off, hardly any contact whatsoever. Out with some buddies the next night and see her out with some friends and this other guy. I don't react at all, she sees me and doesn't talk or acknowledge me, but when this guy tries to put his arm around her she shoos him off. I just kind of smiled and walked away. Well she finally texts me some random shit and I didn't respond, trying not to be available, and she texts back several hours later "hello?" but I still decided to wait it out till the next day. Well I wake up to all these texts accusing me of ignoring her and that i'm jumping to conclusions about the other night and that not talking to her won't solve anything. Respond back that I'm not ignoring, but that it was rude to completely disregard me. She dives into this whole conversation about not being ready for a relationship. I immediately point out that she was the only one that brought up anything about a relationship, which she agreed to, but said she thought that was what she wanted, but needs to be single so she can work on herself. Anyway, we agree to be friends because of being in the same social circle.

The next day one of our mutual friends asks me about what happened and I casually replied that she doesn't know what she wants, but I would be just fine with keeping things physical. Well mutual friend gets the same "i'm not ready for a relationship" thing from her, but mentions that I was more interested in something physical and casual. Well apparently the girl gets this big grin on her face and says "really? Did he say that?" Well only a few hours after this we see each other in passing and she's telling me how good I look and I just say thanks and move on. The interest is there.

My question is...given the concern about not moving towards any relationship, what is the best way to approach her about just being friends with benefits? I've thought about just coming out and saying "We're both obviously attracted to each other and the sex was great, we should just continue the casual hang out and keep things simple" But I'm worried about making her feel slutty. Is that too direct and too soon? Or should I back off for a bit and start to rebuild the comfort/seduction phase as the attraction is already there?

Please help a brother out

yeah bro, dont bring it up explicitly. she likes u and she wants a relationship with u. if u continue sexual relations with her she will inevitably want a relationship even more. the best thing to do is to just build comfort and F close with her then avoid the subject completely. at some stage she will probably drop some shit like "so what are we?" or start trying to hint at relationship stuff. when you dont respond to this and blow her off she will start trying to game you and make u jealous (like what she already tried with u). so my advice is once u have her as a FWB just make her feel special and make out like YOU have commitment issues, etc as they love that type of shit. that way u may be able to string her along for longer without as much hassles. unlikely tho lol hope its worth it. good luck

Yeah, I think she's claiming uncertainty, but there is genuine interest there. Right now I'm just focused on maintaining the physical, I'll deal with the rest as it comes. I think I just need to focus on getting her alone to hang out and just let it happen, and not to force the issue.

Anyone else got any thoughts on how to suggest or initiate the transition to the friends with benefits relationship?

Dude, uve already answered ur own question! lol dont overcomplicate shit. get off the forums and go make it happen!

too much rules and overthinking is bad 4 ur game...