out by the other spouse? I have seen it for myself...It's crazy to think about when you are trying to settle down. No wonder the player lifestyle is more appealing.

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~ASmooth

Nope it doesn't bother me at all, if you notice red flags with your girl it will be obvious if she's cheating whether you have evidence or not.

I meant in general, not just me. Reality is far from the ideal love story our culture loves to promote.

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~ASmooth

Not one bit, and here's why:

1) We're animals. We're more complex than other animals, but we're still animals.
2) Marriage was concieved as a way to unite the wealth of two families. Not for love and especially not for monogomy.
3) We're born alone and we die alone. "Mine" or "Yours" has no true value. A bunch of agreements may stipulate that the piece of land in which you live in may be "yours", but what value does that have? The land is the land, it was there long before you came into existence and will be there long after you're gone. Just because you and another woman are having sex and spending time together, it doesn't mean that she is "yours" and you are "hers".
4) I don't care if you're the most faithful person on Earth who never had or never will cheat on anybody, ever. The simple fact that you will feel an attraction to another female in your lifetime disproves the Hollywoodian fairytales of true romance.
5) We are constantly striving for better.

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"Quit. Don't quit. Noodles. Don't Noodles. You are too concerned with what was and what will be. Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery but today is a gift. That's why it is called the present."

Amazing what you can learn from a cartoon

If it's not found out I don't see the problem. I wish 100% of the cheating would not be found out.

this. rather not know/find out/care.

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Where are you getting this number from?

In one of Mystery's programs he touches on some research done on couples who attended relationship counseling due to one of the partners being excessively jealous or suspicious of the other one having an affair. After they had finished the counseling the researchers asked the suspected party to fill in a totally anonymous short questionnaire where one of the questions was "Are you being unfaithful?" All of them said yes!

The power of intuition......

Yes it does. i wish it was 100% as I hate getting caught! lol