Based off of this earlier thread: how-to-realize-you-re-being-a-bitch-and ... 64682.html


My ex has weird issues with sex. She doesn't like to have sex unless she's involved with someone, she tries specifically to keep her number low (though that's been way less true this year, as far as I'm seeing), and she makes men work for it typically.

She's sorta dating this guy now, but I'm late night hanging out with her this weekend, alone. The last time this happened (about two weeks ago) - I didn't sleep with her. Part of me thinks that was stupid, as I sorta want her back, but I also don't want to disrespect her beliefs on these things.

Thoughts? I'm pretty much assuming I'll have the chance.

You have to make up your mind to find the answer. Do you want her back, do you want to have sex with her, or do you want to respect her beliefs?

I don't know the reason of the break-up. Ultimately you have to decide how valuable her beliefs are to you. Maybe even if you sleep with her, you will desire her more while it will just confirm to her that it was another "one time thing." Perhaps she plays around with guys all the time like this; who is to say how true these beliefs are?

Do you want her back?
If the answer is yes then don't have sex with her you're not her boytoy don't act like it.

If she has feeling for you though you may want to give her some cooling off times before you do this and always demand sanity. They loose sanity give them more cooling time... it's an art


Do you want to have sex with her?
Let's be serious here the question is the sex good and is there a reason not to


Do you want to respect her beliefs?
The real question is why do you care? They are HER beliefs let her own them... Obviously having sex with you doesn't fall there for her so let her worry about that.

If it won't fuck emotionally with neither of you, and you want to do it, why not?

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Yes, I'd quite like her back. I also don't see a possible way that me coming over late at night won't lead to SOMETHING. It did the last time. She is, however, dating the other guy though, and she seems to be moving fast. They went camping this past weekend, after only a month and a half together.

Yeah it will lead to SOMETHING alright.... you being her part time side sex. Don't get me wrong I've had sex with plenty of exes who were dating someone else. The difference I didn't want them back. In fact I was glad as hell that she had some b1atch boy to take are of all her emotional BS woman needs so I could take care of her real needs and more importantly mine. If you want her back cut sex entirely... start running game on her again be fun and cocky be the MAN so she realizes she's with a pussy.

One other thing if you really want her back then go find a hotter lady to spend time with as friends. Facebook play with her.

Actually, I just realized she is dog sitting at a friend's house that night, so idk if anything is going to happen. She has to be at work by 8 am the next morning, she said, which is why she suggested I come out there instead of her out here.

Nah, move on to greener pastures bro.

Well I've been out with four girls in the last week.

But we sorta had a good thing and I feel pretty stupid for ending it with her. The sex was incredible, she was super sweet.

Let me get this straight? ur macking four chicks last week and you feel the need to ask a forum if u should fuck ur ex???

Sorry, I'm not convinced. lol

Why would that be surprising?

To be fair, I've only fucked one of the girls I was out with last week, and I only kissed two of them.

I'm great at meeting girls, not so good at what to do when you're sad over your ex, who you liked quite a bit.

Hey dude, I'm new around here, I didn't even know a community like this existed so its kind of cool but I've been teaching on the underground of nyc for a while.


But the answer is no. Too many emotional hang ups come when you go back to dealing with an ex. Besides, it effects your state/energy and other women can feel subconsciously that you're not a guy thats strong enough to walk away. This will in turn negatively effect you as you being moving forward with other women. I know its tough to walk away but its medicine that is tough to take now but it will benefit you later. Use this experience to sling shot yourself to the next level. Here is your opportunity to GROW.

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Fair enough. it's def a different game when strong emotions are involved - we've all been thru that! (and will continue to, im sure!)

Good luck bro - hope it works out for u.

She just texted me asking if it was a good idea to hang out tonight.

Is this a test? She's not cancelling. Or is it a way of saying, "PLEASE CANCEL" or even seeing how much I want to meet up with her?