Okay, I'll be honest I thought I had finally succeeded the other day, but obliviously I was wrong. So let me give you the background story. Last year I hooked up with my oneitis, but to keep it short and sweet, I kinda went AFC and acted needy. This year things changed, I finally began taking her on dates, we've had 2 so far, with the possibility of a 3rd tomorrow. Everytime I see her I kiss her a few times and whenever we leave we always exchange kisses. BTW I've already f-closed. The thing is she cannot make up her mind about whether she wants to date or whether she wants to stay single. I don't know where we stand and tomorrow I was thinking about asking her where we stand to see where her head is at and if she says that she isn't ready to just back off. It's really messing with my head. Any advice? And don't say to game other girls. I've already f-closed another girl the other day.

Alright bro. Youve taken in mind the situation but something you didnt mention is the biggest piece of the puzzle. What do you want?

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No, don't ask her that. In fact, don't ever bring up dating again. Simply act indifferent and nonchalant. With your apparent detachment, she'll hopefully come around.

DutchStyles I think I want her to be my gf, but I'm not sure if it's me that wants it or if it's my ego. I've been gaming this girl on and off for a year and tbh I love challenges. The only thing I'm nervous about is what if I get with her and I just don't want to be with her. At the same time I don't feel like spending money on dates with her if she isn't gonna come around. Seriously this girl is unpredictable. She's in my social circle, but even her best girl friends can never read what she's gonna do. With that being said, I'd like to think actions speak louder than words and I've continued to date her because she's acted like she at least wants to try dating. At the same time, she doesn't think I'd have the balls to see other women because she thinks i'm so caught up on her, even though i have.

one of my friends had a similar scenario to yours. They both experienced something that really shocked them ( quite traumatic actually)..especially for the girl.. it got them thinking about how precious their time is here and how much they mean to each other.. now, they are official .. i see a big change in my friend ( he was the biggest player let me tell you).. but, he wasn't really happy being a player( i could see him faking the love).. its good to see this new girl meshing and diverging in a way that only suits them.. they will be together for a while these two..for sure

maybe you should tell her how you feel, you will never know if you don't.. but, make sure you do it properly.. I'm sure the sleepless nights thinking about her has composed an awesome speech in your mind (tear jerker- proper romance novel)

sometimes people just need that reassurance to take the leap..

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Blind..........could you just clarify what your advice would be? I think I got the essence of it, but it has been on my mind a lot lately. I've contemplated everything from walking away to taking her on dates.

I just puked.

You threw out your Harry Potter books to make room for your Twilight books, didn't you?

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ha ha ha..yea, that's some sick shit right there.. but, hey whatever works when you're in the moment with your woman... you'd expect tears from the chick as an indicator that your words are real..

I'm saying to say whats on your mind..you been thinking a lot lately- you probably got good material that she would understand.. you known her for a year...you should know what material is good and whats shit...tell her how it is..mind you, its still early days that you guys have taken the relationship to another level..

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Well I decided to end it with her. It's a pain in the a** to deal with a girl who changes her mind. I don't know how things are going to work out with whatever girls I meet in the future, but I decided to be a man about it and walk away. Assuming we're all trying to be the best men as possible and alpha as hell, that's what you have to do. Thanks to everyone who gave me advice. I feel like I'm making the right decision.

Alpha as fuck.

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Good idea dumping her. Don't waste your time trying to change girls. Go find someone else.