So long story short, I was seeing this girl last june for a month, hooked up, then she decided things weren't gonna work out and tried to friendzone me, started dating some dude for 7 months. During this time I avoided her (despite going to same school) aside from talking to her once for about an hour around halloween. Fast forward to late march - she breaks up with her bf - she joins 2 of my classes and is going to the same college as me (all coincidence- one of the reasons we got back together easily) so i continue to act like i dont care while making brief conversation with her. She texts me and i seduce her in about a week and we hook up a bunch of times for 2 weeks, then she stops hooking up with me and starts only wanting to cuddle and shit (yeah i know, it was lame, she was trying to slow down and get into a potential relationship).

Then she says she needs some space for a few weeks so we don't hang out as much at school or outside of school, and don't kiss or hug or anything. So I figured we were only friends now but wasn't sure- so I asked her directly about it the other day and we had a long deep convo and she basically said I was friendzoned and even joked she would help "find me a hot girlfriend". So I was confused and she said several reasons that she admitted were because of her and not me. She said she simply lost feelings, felt I was too cocky, and said she wanted an older man, a gentleman, as they treat girls different. She also said shes sick of relationships not working and is hoping to meet some guy who will be the man of her dreams and not some teenage kid shes used to (were only 19).

Anyways, after most of this over text I replied "Alright, I think i'll change your mind though someday haha. We'll see" to which she didn't reply. So I have 2 months where I'm going to completely avoid contact with her and come back a gentleman- but heres the catch. This was a blessing in disguise as I was really jealous of guys she would hang out with, (most of her friends are guys which is fishy, i think she has daddy issues or something) that would always make me worry, and she is only about a 7/10, I know girls that are better in different ways (physically and personally). So in the long run I don't think things would work out..

However, in 2 months, were both moving to the same college far away, living in different dorms on residence. As a guy, it's always going to hurt seeing her with other guys and vice versa. I probably don't want a relationship with her anyways, but still. My question is, what is gonna be the best way to handle it? I mean we have her differences but we still would get along well as friends, she is a really cool girl and I have some feelings for her. I just hate the idea of 'friendzone' and want to be in a position where she wants me but i have to keep her off with a stick and maybe hook up with her if i ever wanted to one day. So basically, improve myself in the game overall and win this girl back-if I choose to. ultimately I'd just like to make a fresh start in college without having feelings for her at all while still being able to potentially get her if i wanted to.

Any tips on how i should go about this? I dont want to show up and be weird and awkward around her because we both dont know anyone at this college and were probably going to be 'good friends' again once we move up there in september.

TL:DR - coincidentally going to same college as girl i was a rebound for, want to know how to escape the friendzone despite not wanting to get in a relationship with her

Move on if you stay she will think your find with being friend zoned and will treat you like an emotional tampon with no perks at all.

ofcourse, that is what im doing- no contact whatsoever haha. but how should i handle it once school actually starts in sept?

listen to find you're actually saying... you said it yourself you dont want to be in a relationship with her... so why make such an effort to get her "back"! you're starting colleges theres gonna be millions of girls you HAVE to give a try! so if i was you i would friendzone that girl you were talking about and use her as a wingwoman... you can always use a wingwoman because woman find them more reliable in these situation instead of having you're guy friend helping you get laid, use a woman then she might even get jealous and want you to herself, but as you said she aint worth the effort when you can get so many other 8, 9 and 10's if you just got her out of your head and focused on your game

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thanks for the tips guys. ive just had a few days where ive been stuck at home with nothing to do so i just figured id just ask a few questions - obviously im trying not to think about any of this stuff haha