I just lost one of my best friends (female) yesterday. I've known her since I was one of the lowliest of AFC's you could ever find. She's always been incredibly social and extroverted whereas I was as the name suggested, frustrated by my introvert tendencies. Since discovering the community, I've grown out of my shell quite a bit and people notice. I get people telling me that I seem different all the time. But people seem to love to talk to me. That is, except my old best friend, and her other female friend. They said I've changed. They said they liked me better when I had less confidence and was less aggressive about getting what I wanted. Perhaps I took it too far? I don't know. Or am I on the right track, as they only had the intention of being friends with me and I violated the terms of our friendship by flirting even correctly?

Has somebody else experienced this? Am I headed in the right direction or the wrong one?

They liked you better when you were less confident because that is a feminine quality. You became their girlfriend.

Strive to become a better man. A man of virtue and dignity.

If they liked you better when you had less confidence then fuck them. You don't want to be friends with people like that anyway. If they don't like you because you've changed to become a better person, are you going to change to a lesser person just to be friends with one person again? Fuck no. Move on dude. You don't want and definitely don't need people like that in your life. They will only try to pull you down and make your life worse.

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There are a few different possibilities and it's hard to tell with such little information. It is very common that some people are uncomfortable seeing people they know or are close to change, even if it means that person is improving himself.
If they actually said that they liked you more when you were less confident and were less aggressive about what you want, then either they don't actually care about your well-being and see you only as a man that they wanted to control and exploit. This basically makes the women narcissists and they are upset that you are stripping yourself of any codependent behavior which is basically removing them of any power they previously held over you.
Another possibility is that you have taken your confidence and aggressiveness too far and are displaying narcissistic traits yourself. If your confidence has reached the point of becoming arrogance, that is a problem. And if your aggressiveness for your needs and wants don't take into account the needs of others, that is also a problem. Basically you want to have self-respect without disrespecting and manipulating others.
They might also think your behavior is disingenuous and that you are putting up a false front, and that might bother them. But you didn't mention them saying anything about that, so that one is unlikely.
Hope this helps.

Thanks guys. I don't think it's arrogance because when she said she liked me better when I had less confidence I asked, "So I'm so confident that I've become arrogant?" She said it wasn't that. I've had some more time to think about it, and you guys are right, she really was just abusing my incompetence when I was younger. Whether she noticed it or not. And she does have a problem with her own inflated ego. So really, I appreciate it. This community has helped me to drop a couple of friends that weren't even really friends this week.