I posted a thread on here couple yrs ago about this topic but can't locate it. Still having problems building attraction and getting a hook.

I'll bring up a topic, we'll talk about it a bit, I'll ask them questions about it, neg and then transition into related stories when appropriate. ie just bored, hanging at home watching tv "oh what tv shows do you watch?" or something to that effect. I need to kino a bit more but I don't feel like I have a strong enough initial connection to attempt that and that it would come off as weird. Most game I run is on coworkers (I know, I know...bad...but most coworkers are at my PT job which is only couple days a week, it's not my permanent job).

I've read DD material, another which I think was called Magic Bullets and then Mystery's method. I can talk to them but after 5 minutes or so they start going quiet and I can tell they're losing interest. I also do this with hired guns at slow kiosks/stores. They're bored, get no customers so I try to make it seem like I'm an interested customer (sometimes am) who's just there chatting with them and doing them a favor while shopping. Same thing...neg, compliment, chat, try escalating a bit and building comfort...then quiet.

That's a long time.

Unlearn this method that is not working for you and learn another method.

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Sounds like you need to get better at conversations. Change topics often. Try to lead the conversation to something you both like so you can connect over it. If not try to talk about what she likes. Act interested in HER.

I don't get "building comfort". How do you build comfort? Either they like you (comfortable) or they dislike you (uncomfortable). I get comfort easy from girls without even trying. Which leads me to believe its more of a feeling/aura you give out. If a girl is uncomfortable with you its either

a.you did a huge no no (offended her)
b. you are giving of a bad vibe (coming of as needy or creepy)
or
c. something to do with her that you can't control (bad day, tired... etc.)

And if you have trouble building attraction i don't think you should use negs. Unless your funny and can make her shocked and laugh over them.

just my two cents