This rubber band of yours can be broken with nonverbal routines.
I won't give you the baby learning to walk example since that's too far down the memory lane for me to remember any detail of it. I'm going to explain this through martial arts training analogy and then how I applied the principles to sexual escalation.
During my first 3 months or so in martial arts training, my heart raced, my feet felt heavy, and my body felt tense all over every time sparring period starts. I just can't give those outside-inside blocks or downward-upward blocks when the punches and kicks start raining. In short, I always get beaten up black and violet for around 2 years.
But after 3 months of my body aching all over everyday from all of that beating, my mind just can't take the pain anymore. So I decided to take charge and invest more time and effort than the average guy who goes to the dojo. I dissected one basic punch-kick combo in my mind that I always happen to get all over. It's like several muscular and fit guys always keep giving me this hard kino come sparring time.
I've repeated the images over and over again and thought up of a counter attack routine. I saw in my mind that the solar plexus is always open when guys give that combo. When I got back to the dojo and sparred (the action was too fast to see the combo in slow motion without getting beat up), I took a mental note of that combo every time I got it and how my body reacted.
I then practiced the routine I've developed over and over again. I made 100 repetitions every day for some 30 days or so and each repetition I made, I visualized getting that punch-kick combo. My counter-attack routine was slide back, then back kick to the solar plexus, and then punch to the chest just below the throat. After awhile, my counter attack routine came out naturally even without thinking about it. But I still got floored, when the guys attacked me with different combos.
I then visualized another attack combo that I got a lot, created a counter attack combo for it, practiced the moves several times a day while visualizing the images of receiving the punches and kicks, and then sparred-- a lot. By my 2 years in my martial arts training, I have developed and perfected several counter attack routines for most of the punch kick attack combos I got.
Likewise, since I always got many blows on my solar plexus and gut, I bounced a coconut fruit or basket ball (when it's available) on these body parts repeatedly 2 to 3 times a week.
After 2 years, I'm no longer getting beat up but I still sucked at the attack. I just waited for the guys to throw punches and kicks and then counter attacked. So for another 6 months or so, I focused on training for the attack. You get the drift.
That's the principle. Let's now apply the principle to sexual escalation.
Nonverbal Routine No. 1: Eye Fuck Escalation
- 1. You look for glances of interest from a girl rich environment and then close the distance when you get one.
2. You eyefuck the girl who gave you that glance of interest, and then sustain the eyefuck when she eyefucks you back (mirroring). If she doesn't eyefuck you back, break the interaction and sarge another girl.
3. When a girl eyefucks you back, you sustain the eyefuck until you see her pupils dilate (grow big). To make her pupils grow big (her pupils should occupy some 80 to 90% of her iris), you escalate your sexual imagination to hard core, x-rated porn action.
Once you have perfected the eyefuck routine, you can proceed to the next nonverbal routine.
Nonverbal Routine No. 2: Sexual Escalation on the Girl's Kino
- 1. You throw a C&F or a sexually playful line and then the girl hits your arm.
2. Instead of hitting her arm back, touch her hair. Do not hit her arm back. You're escalating for the f-close; not making her a friend.
Nonverbal Routine No. 3: Sexual Escalation on the Girl's Kino
- 1. You throw a C&F or a sexually playful line and then the girl hits your arm.
2. Instead of hitting her arm back, close the distance and whisper in her ear. As you whisper whatever fluff you can think about, blow warm breaths in her ear lobes. If she reacts well, lightly brush your lips to her earlobes.
That's all for now.
Visualize the interaction in your head many times over. Practice dilating your pupils in front of a mirror. Get 10 to 20 exposures a day so you can apply the nonverbal routines infield. You'll reach a point when you don't even need to think about these nonverbal routines. Everything will happen naturally.
When you have mastered at least 20 nonverbal routines for the most common girlie reactions that happen infield, your balls will get sore from all of that fuck marathons.

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